Boy, I wasn't ready for college at a young age. Transferred to Iowa State in '07 after a couple community colleges. Got academically kicked out of ISU in '08. Returned to ISU in '11 and was on academic probation every single semester until graduation.
Summer of OT: What That Forever Changed Your Life
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Ya, a lot of people don't know. My family, girlfriend, and a handful of friends. In the public they just think I'm dumb that I used to get sad, but **** em, that's their problem.
I had a stroke, I can't communication with words. I'll figure it out everyday, so whatever. Someone found about this like a month ago through Facebook Message. (I had to say why I couldn't drive outside of the town). She asked WHY DIDNT YOU POST ON FACEBOOK THAT YOU HAD A STROKE. lol, why? People don't need to know, and everyone have life problems.
However, I have typed a lot of responses where I just delete it if it doesn't make sense. Or, I'll even remove it afterwards. Also, I'll think before I even start write a response, it's not worth it so don't even do it because every single sentence it takes to much brain process and I only have 3-4 hours a day I'll be out of brain batteries. (and my girlfriend also edits A LOT things, make sure it sounds grammatically or even sounds right sense, or crazy a person).
You are showing a lot of grace thru this.
Something for us all to learn from.
To lighten the mood, ask me in a week and I’ll probably say the new college football game
This was the fall of 2009, I think. My wife had an aneurysm, I even posted about it here back then. Thankfully caught it before any major issues. Went to the U of I, wasn't impressed with the Dr, ended up going to Mayo in Rochester. She had it coiled, that was the longest 4-hr procedure. Lots of things to think about during. We had a 4yr old and almost 2yr old when it was fixed. If something bad happens, how am i going to be a single dad of two kids that young. All went well, never an issue since. Makes you realize what is really important in life. Hug your family, everyone.
As someone who has buried a father at the age of 10, a brother at 25, and a mother at 34, it would be hard to say those event didn’t have an impact on my life since two out of those three deaths were unexpected. Currently, I try to enjoy life and be more appreciate of the opportunities that come my way and what I can afford while not worrying about the small stuff. To put it more simply, I try to live a “responsible YOLO” type of mindset.
My daughter was born when I was 32, and the night of her birth I was thinking it was amazing to be in a situation where I was helping bring life into the world instead of bearing witness to a funeral of a close family member. Obviously, due to past experiences lead me think that way.
My daughter was born when I was 32, and the night of her birth I was thinking it was amazing to be in a situation where I was helping bring life into the world instead of bearing witness to a funeral of a close family member. Obviously, due to past experiences lead me think that way.
Well I'll tell you a story. I'm from Southwest Iowa, big Husker territory. So I hated the Huskers, and didn't know anything about College Sports (huge MLB/NBA), and barely knew about ISU or the Ames (we never went to Des Moines area, always the "city" was Omaha, or maybe KC for Ocean of Fun). I had decision after visiting 3 or 4 colleges, it's gonna be Creighton. My mother MAKES me go the Iowa State campus tour, and I whined the whole way I didn't want to go, this dumb place I've never heard about it, and she only wanted to go since we already registration so it's polite.
Well, The next year I started in Iowa State as a freshman, graduate, and going to be a Cyclone forever! My life would have been WAY different, so thankfully I was bullied to even go to it.
The title says "change for your life time" Well your fanatic will probably be Cyclone until you die (with nut cups). Now a lot of people change for wive/husbands now, but still in the Cyclone Team.
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Along with trouble with the law stories, I stole a few packs of sports cards when I was in 4th grade.
I blabbed to another classmate of mine who told a teacher.
I wasn't afraid of the cops but I was scared ****less about my dad finding out.
In the end I paid the store for cards and returned them and got a long grounding, but glad I got that lesson early on.
I blabbed to another classmate of mine who told a teacher.
I wasn't afraid of the cops but I was scared ****less about my dad finding out.
In the end I paid the store for cards and returned them and got a long grounding, but glad I got that lesson early on.
Damn man, solider on brother, that is not an easy go. Take care.
I had a friend die in a weird construction accident about a month after high school. It wasn't the first time someone I knew had died unexpectedly, but it was the first time being that close to someone.
This was a friend who I knew early in life and while we weren't absolute best friends, we were always around one another and had some great times including playing football, etc.
I still remember finding out about it, the few days of friends gathering, the funeral and hearing his mom lose it at the burial. I still see his parents occasionally and they've never been the same. They're OK and all but it really sucked the life out of them.
I learned the value of how processing something can really take time; the few weeks after he passed away we detassled and that was maybe the best thing for me; every day started early with a sunrise and I had time to walk around in a quiet field in the fresh air while doing a simple task to let the mind wander. I had dreams that whole next year about the incident and even had one where I feel like he visited me.
For whatever reason it really was a hard 'reset' to enjoy times you have with people and appreciate life and to find time to think of those that fade away.
This was a friend who I knew early in life and while we weren't absolute best friends, we were always around one another and had some great times including playing football, etc.
I still remember finding out about it, the few days of friends gathering, the funeral and hearing his mom lose it at the burial. I still see his parents occasionally and they've never been the same. They're OK and all but it really sucked the life out of them.
I learned the value of how processing something can really take time; the few weeks after he passed away we detassled and that was maybe the best thing for me; every day started early with a sunrise and I had time to walk around in a quiet field in the fresh air while doing a simple task to let the mind wander. I had dreams that whole next year about the incident and even had one where I feel like he visited me.
For whatever reason it really was a hard 'reset' to enjoy times you have with people and appreciate life and to find time to think of those that fade away.
The day my son was born.... changed me forever. I needed to be changed, so it was the blessing of my life.
Clif notes version. I feel very narcissistic for posting this after reading other posts about real challenges and turmoil compared to my story.
Since the 7th grade I wanted to go to ISU to be an engineer and play football.
After 1 semester of doing this, I told my parents at Christmas break I wasn’t going back.
That spring I lived at home, went to JC and worked at Pizza Hut. That summer I got a good paying construction job and didn’t go to school that fall. My parents were crushed and I was embarrassed (good HS student and athlete, I over achieved by getting to D1 athletics, was from a small town).
I ended up getting an OWI that fall. While spending my time in county (my parents dropped me off and picked me up; the most embarrassed I’ve ever been in my life) studied to retake the ACT (24 first time) and got a 29 second time.
Went back to college (brief time tried to play football again, body didn’t allow it) and met a stud of academic advisor during undergrad that totally changed my path and motivated me.
Finished undergrad in 8 semesters (at 4 schools); went to graduate school and finished in 3 semesters while being a TA and GA and getting a great professional coaching job.
My experience of failure at ISU totally changed my path!!
Go Cyclones.
Since the 7th grade I wanted to go to ISU to be an engineer and play football.
After 1 semester of doing this, I told my parents at Christmas break I wasn’t going back.
That spring I lived at home, went to JC and worked at Pizza Hut. That summer I got a good paying construction job and didn’t go to school that fall. My parents were crushed and I was embarrassed (good HS student and athlete, I over achieved by getting to D1 athletics, was from a small town).
I ended up getting an OWI that fall. While spending my time in county (my parents dropped me off and picked me up; the most embarrassed I’ve ever been in my life) studied to retake the ACT (24 first time) and got a 29 second time.
Went back to college (brief time tried to play football again, body didn’t allow it) and met a stud of academic advisor during undergrad that totally changed my path and motivated me.
Finished undergrad in 8 semesters (at 4 schools); went to graduate school and finished in 3 semesters while being a TA and GA and getting a great professional coaching job.
My experience of failure at ISU totally changed my path!!
Go Cyclones.
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Nah (and I read the rest of your post too).
Sometimes some stories may sound extremely traumatic and what you're thinking is natural but a lot of times people just want to post anonymously about the highs or lows of life.
Therapeutic.
When my Dad committed suicide when I was 18. I had taken a year off between after high school to help him on the farm as I had been accepted to ISU. Had a tough 5-6 months getting everything taken care of on the farm. We got rid of a lot of equipment and livestock as my heart wasn’t into stepping into his shoes.
This happened some 40 years and going to school was the best thing that happened.
This happened some 40 years and going to school was the best thing that happened.
JP, I don’t know but I love you for your post.
You are absolutely correct about therapy for me! It took me over 15 yrs to even acknowledge the events I stated. I’m pretty sure my in law family might not know the details of my early college hood and I’ve been happily married to their daughter for over 15 yrs.
This occurred 25+ yrs ago…. Im still embarrassed.
And the thread is about what changed your life, which can be a lot of things.
I got rejected for a job around my home area the summer after college and while it bummed me out, it inspired me to start looking elsewhere to live my life and I ended up in Madison.
Wasn't traumatic but in the end was a good thing.
Man, this was a hard read. I feel for you. My wife had Dr Drake for both of our youngest kids because of bad complications. All I can say is she’s an absolute saint. My wife heard she either retired or is retiring and DSM will miss her greatly.
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