Summer of OT: What That Forever Changed Your Life

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What is the thing that happened in your life that changed you forever or partly? It could be something small or huge change. Maybe you had a car accident and now cannot walk and use a wheelchair (not so good), or you found your 'soulmate' or won $100 million in the lotto (financial good).


Warning: I don't care so please don't start with "I'm condolence".
For me, I had a Stroke in December 2023 a couple prior my 40th birthday. Afterwards I ended up in an Aphasia, a language communication disorder, I've been working this every week since the stroke where I couldn't even put in a sentence, now I'm better but it's 7 months and I'll probably always. My grammatically and spelling of a 5th grader, I cannot comprehend what people are trying to say, and have short memory. Basically, my brain can not process too much at one time (I only understand of 3 words of 7 hearing a sentence and then my brain tries fill-in the rest). I cannot also comprehend to speech and read as well but I probably get the gist of things.

I've been different neuropsychologist and Speech-language pathologists so they'll say different types. So who knows.


Mixed non-fluent aphasia
This term is applied to patients who have sparse and effortful speech, resembling severe Broca's aphasia. However, unlike persons with Broca's aphasia, they remain limited in their comprehension of speech and do not read or write beyond an elementary level.

Wernicke's aphasia ('fluent aphasia')

In this form of aphasia the ability to grasp the meaning of spoken words is chiefly impaired, while the ease of producing connected speech is not much affected. Therefore Wernicke's aphasia is referred to as a 'fluent aphasia.' However, speech is far from normal. Sentences do not hang together and irrelevant words intrude-sometimes to the point of jargon, in severe cases. Reading and writing are often severely impaired.

Anomic aphasia

This term is applied to persons who are left with a persistent inability to supply the words for the very things they want to talk about-particularly the significant nouns and verbs. As a result their speech, while fluent in grammatical form and output is full of vague circumlocutions and expressions of frustration. They understand speech well, and in most cases, read adequately. Difficulty finding words is as evident in writing as in speech.

So there are things that I enjoyed that is changed my life. Movies, TV Series, Books, I can't even enjoy as I used to. I try it with CC on TV and figure out, I have to rewind again and again and again, same with read a page, and repeat. I didn't see Breaking Bad (besides the 2 first episodes) until I watched it all during the last couple months. It was a good show, but I couldn't understand what was actually going on. Another character would come back in, or a past reference, I have no clue like thinking "huh, what the **** is this from".

For me, I loved to message boards like CF or Reddit to keeps me bored in the office. Now, message boards are terrible to interactive. I'm not sure what people are trying to say, and I can't even figure out what else I even try to say in my brain! I got a lot of responses like "are you drunk? Are you dumb? wtf? Do you know English?", so I don't even care to try responses. Even when I want to do a little response, it takes a lot of time and brain process for the littlest things.

Example of the basic of responses. Say someone took a picture for food and thought it looked so tasty, so I wanted only do is response a gif:

homer-drooling-gif-file-1491kb-41quzyet0xlq67j1.webp


So usually find the gif, send, go next, takes 5.2 seconds. I go find the gif and I know exactly what I want to do, but I don't even know how to search on Google Image. ok Homer, but what I try to say. I tried like 'homer water mouth', 'homer slip water", finally 'homer slip saliva (took me a long time to even find the word saliva). THEN I googled 'what is slip on saliva', and find the word I was trying to say. DROOL. It took 5 minutes to even figure what the word is 'drool'.

Anywho, I am a blessing from the Stroke as I needed to change in my life, and thankfully I ended with Aphasia than anything physical. I love going outdoor that I'd be very depressed if I couldn't do those things like hiking, scuba drive, travel, etc.

CLIFFNOTES: 39 years old got Stroke, now stupid for language communication.



So What else is the thing that happened in your life that changed you forever or partly?


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edit; Oh ya, Why I was thinking about my message board hobby? I'll never be my career, Instructional Designer for Corporate Training Curriculum/Online Modules, I have no clue I'm going to work for my income, but I'll figure it out.

Lost a nut, got to old for hobbies, got to old to find a new hobby you love, got a tattoo that you wished you didn't do it *cough* tramp stamps *cough*.
 
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Coming home to the robbery in progress I encountered Super Bowl Sunday this year has destroyed my feeling of security.

So even though we have new locks and cameras the thought of being away from home to long freaks me out.

So the thought of going on a long distance vacation (if I could get any vacation from work) is not even a consideration.
 

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I was charged with felony level terrorism when I was 14, for taking part in scrawling a vague bomb threat on the school bathroom stall. When I found out that school officials knew and were taking it seriously, I immediately turned myself in, but refused to rat on the others involved. The county attorney was a political rival of my grandfather, and charged me with the most insane thing he could think of. I stood trial and was acquitted of the felony and only convicted of vandalizing the stall.

I got suspended from school for a couple of months and open enrolled in a different district in a much larger town where my mom worked. Between having to weather being politically prosecuted/a pariah at a young age, and the exposure to the larger world I got from changing schools, it totally changed my life in a lot of good ways.
 

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Lost a preemie at IA City Children's hospital.
Wife and baby's case was so complicated that Dr Drake (who delivered McCaughey septuplets) said she couldn't handle it.
It broke me. I had to go to 1 on 1 counseling, group counseling, and meds.
A year or so into meds I couldn't cry anymore and I knew I was masking so much, I had to get off them. I had to forgive myself for being so hard myself. Even in situations that are out of your control it's hard to not beat yourself up.

There have been other losses/miscarriages since then but that one profoundly impacted me.
I gave my first name as a middle name. A piece of me died and as is still empty but like I said I'm easier on myself now.
 

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What is the thing that happened in your life that changed you forever or partly? It could be something small or huge change. Maybe you had a car accident and now cannot walk and use a wheelchair (not so good), or you found your 'soulmate' or won $100 million in the lotto (financial good).


Warning: I don't care so please don't start with "I'm condolence".
For me, I had a Stroke in December 2023 a couple prior my 40th birthday. Afterwards I ended up in an Aphasia, a language communication disorder, I've been working this every week since the stroke where I couldn't even put in a sentence, now I'm better but it's 7 months and I'll probably always. My grammatically and spelling of a 5th grader, I cannot comprehend what people are trying to say, and have short memory. Basically, my brain can not process too much at one time (I only understand of 3 words of 7 hearing a sentence and then my brain tries fill-in the rest). I cannot also comprehend to speech and read as well but I probably get the gist of things.

I've been different neuropsychologist and Speech-language pathologists so they'll say different types. So who knows.


Mixed non-fluent aphasia
This term is applied to patients who have sparse and effortful speech, resembling severe Broca's aphasia. However, unlike persons with Broca's aphasia, they remain limited in their comprehension of speech and do not read or write beyond an elementary level.

Wernicke's aphasia ('fluent aphasia')

In this form of aphasia the ability to grasp the meaning of spoken words is chiefly impaired, while the ease of producing connected speech is not much affected. Therefore Wernicke's aphasia is referred to as a 'fluent aphasia.' However, speech is far from normal. Sentences do not hang together and irrelevant words intrude-sometimes to the point of jargon, in severe cases. Reading and writing are often severely impaired.

Anomic aphasia

This term is applied to persons who are left with a persistent inability to supply the words for the very things they want to talk about-particularly the significant nouns and verbs. As a result their speech, while fluent in grammatical form and output is full of vague circumlocutions and expressions of frustration. They understand speech well, and in most cases, read adequately. Difficulty finding words is as evident in writing as in speech.

So there are things that I enjoyed that is changed my life. Movies, TV Series, Books, I can't even enjoy as I used to. I try it with CC on TV and figure out, I have to rewind again and again and again, same with read a page, and repeat. I didn't see Breaking Bad (besides the 2 first episodes) until I watched it all during the last couple months. It was a good show, but I couldn't understand what was actually going on. Another character would come back in, or a past reference, I have no clue like thinking "huh, what the **** is this from".

For me, I loved to message boards like CF or Reddit to keeps me bored in the office. Now, message boards are terrible to interactive. I'm not sure what people are trying to say, and I can't even figure out what else I even try to say in my brain! I got a lot of responses like "are you drunk? Are you dumb? wtf? Do you know English?", so I don't even care to try responses. Even when I want to do a little response, it takes a lot of time and brain process for the littlest things.

Example of the basic of responses. Say someone took a picture for food and thought it looked so tasty, so I wanted only do is response a gif:

homer-drooling-gif-file-1491kb-41quzyet0xlq67j1.webp


So usually find the gif, send, go next, takes 5.2 seconds. I go find the gif and I know exactly what I want to do, but I don't even know how to search on Google Image. ok Homer, but what I try to say. I tried like 'homer water mouth', 'homer slip water", finally 'homer slip saliva (took me a long time to even find the word saliva). THEN I googled 'what is slip on saliva', and find the word I was trying to say. DROOL. It took 5 minutes to even figure what the word is 'drool'.

Anywho, I am a blessing from the Stroke as I needed to change in my life, and thankfully I ended with Aphasia than anything physical. I love going outdoor that I'd be very depressed if I couldn't do those things like hiking, scuba drive, travel, etc.

CLIFFNOTES: 39 years old got Stroke, now stupid for language communication.



So What else is the thing that happened in your life that changed you forever or partly?


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I am so sorry, even though I know you don't want to hear it.

I've had some health and personal challenges over the years, but have been really lucky that they have not affected my day-to-day in a way that would affect my livelihood or anything like that. Largely internal.
 

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Lost a preemie at IA City Children's hospital.
Wife and baby's case was so complicated that Dr Drake (who delivered McCaughey septuplets) said she couldn't handle it.
It broke me. I had to go to 1 on 1 counseling, group counseling, and meds.
A year or so into meds I couldn't cry anymore and I knew I was masking so much, I had to get off them. I had to forgive myself for being so hard myself. Even in situations that are out of your control it's hard to not beat yourself up.

There have been other losses/miscarriages since then but that one profoundly impacted me.
I gave my first name as a middle name. A piece of me died and as is still empty but like I said I'm easier on myself now.

I'm so sorry. <3. My signature dates a special birthday for us of a similar vein, and it wrecks you. For years. I did PTSD counseling and the like just to get to "functional" - I'm so glad that you are in a healthier place, but I'm so sorry you had to go through something so traumatic. I cannot imagine how difficult that was, you're very strong.
 

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I'm so sorry. <3. My signature dates a special birthday for us of a similar vein, and it wrecks you. For years. I did PTSD counseling and the like just to get to "functional" - I'm so glad that you are in a healthier place, but I'm so sorry you had to go through something so traumatic. I cannot imagine how difficult that was, you're very strong.
A good group for anyone with child loss is called Compassionate Friends.
My mom had found them for me and made me go. She knew I was hurting.
 

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A good group for anyone with child loss is called Compassionate Friends.
My mom had found them for me and made me go. She knew I was hurting.

We went to the one in Nevada but it was very, very small at the time we went, so it was not the right fit then - but I think a group that's more than just two or three people is perfect. They have resources, empathy, people to whom you could talk. I am so glad you found them. <3
 
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I had a car accident, the summer after high school graduation. It left me with one less eye than I started with and scars on my forehead and around the eye I lost. I still have the eye, I just can't see out of it. The scars have faded over the years, but are still noticeable if you look hard enough. So, yeah, I could never join the military or become a pilot or back up a car into a tight parking spot or shoot a basketball or play catch without a lot of hit and miss before I finally get the hang of having no depth perception. It takes a few tosses every time before I can consistently catch the ball. It's like learning to catch all over again every time I try. Same thing with basketball, where it's mostly a muscle memory of how hard I have to heave the ball to make it go where I want it to, which takes a few tries to get it down.
 

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Man oh man, this thread should come with free Kleenex. No, not crying, got something in my eye, or y'all been chopping onions...

I know I am the luckiest SOB on the planet because my life-changing experience was not tragic.

I lived and worked for a year in Europe right out of college, and it changed my life (and the way I see the world) forever.
 

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1st semester at NW Missouri State and I was nowhere near ready in terms of maturity. The combination of campus internet, a university chat room and a freshman yearbook that had chat ID's did me in. Went to class at first and found them really, really easy, so I started skipping class and meeting all sorts of nice young ladies via chat.

After missing most of my classes in late September and most of October, I went home for the weekend and went out with a buddy. We were drinking and having a good time, and decided to collect a few non-critical road signs for my dorm room. Got caught at about 3 am, and spent the next four hours at the county jail (unlawful possession of a traffic control device).

Finally got home and my parents were out of their minds with worry, and then extremely disappointed in me. Worst feeling of my life. Decided I needed a change of direction with that and my misadventures at college, so I quit school at Thanksgiving and never went back. It was a huge turning point in terms of maturity, and worked out alright eventually as I got into construction and worked my way up from there.
 

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I should add watching my grandpa die in his home, that was fucki ng hard. We were very close but seeing it in person was awful. I wiill say it was not unexpected but god damn I cried like I never have before. The wife had to drive home from Illinois after the funeral.
 

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1st semester at NW Missouri State and I was nowhere near ready in terms of maturity. The combination of campus internet, a university chat room and a freshman yearbook that had chat ID's did me in. Went to class at first and found them really, really easy, so I started skipping class and meeting all sorts of nice young ladies via chat.

After missing most of my classes in late September and most of October, I went home for the weekend and went out with a buddy. We were drinking and having a good time, and decided to collect a few non-critical road signs for my dorm room. Got caught at about 3 am, and spent the next four hours at the county jail (unlawful possession of a traffic control device).

Finally got home and my parents were out of their minds with worry, and then extremely disappointed in me. Worst feeling of my life. Decided I needed a change of direction with that and my misadventures at college, so I quit school at Thanksgiving and never went back. It was a huge turning point in terms of maturity, and worked out alright eventually as I got into construction and worked my way up from there.
Is anyone ever mature enough to go to college at 18? I think there are a few exceptions, but for the most part, the brain isn't fully developed until about age 24-29 for all of us, some sooner, some later, some never. I was also woefully under prepared to start college at 18 and having fresh scars from my accident, sure didn't help any with the ladies or my self-esteem.
 

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Was born with hydrocephalus. Had brain surgery at 10 months old to have a shunt placed to reduce the excess fluid, but it had already resulted in a mild form of cerebral palsy.

Was in a car accident at 12 years old and suffered a concussion in the same area the shunt was placed. This led to me never being cleared to play contact sports, including football.

It devastated me to the point of suicidal thoughts/attempts in middle school and early high school. At the time, I was nothing without sports.

Ended up finding a doctor who was willing to compromise and cleared me to be a kicker. I just had to avoid any contact (E.g. if I had a field goal blocked and the other team was trying to run it back, I wasn't cleared/allowed to try to tackle them.)

Found an independent kicking camp that held some of its camps at the intramural fields across from Jack Trice Stadium. Became assistant director of the camp for a while after my playing days, and got to hang out with college and pro kickers and punters.
 

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Coming home to the robbery in progress I encountered Super Bowl Sunday this year has destroyed my feeling of security.

So even though we have new locks and cameras the thought of being away from home to long freaks me out.

So the thought of going on a long distance vacation (if I could get any vacation from work) is not even a consideration.
I'm the opposite other side of the spectrum, we'd both need to balance.

This is a long story, but cliffnotes is I went to a hotel with my vehicle of ALL my possessions (clothing, passport, SS# card, wallet, office like computer, laptop, files, CLOTHES, basically everything besides big enough like a couch). Another guy and one of the employee of the hotel, opened the room keycard, they drugged me, stole my wallet and car keys, and left with the car with everything. I came awake no clue what happened, but I thought I was going to die. I went to 911, and they said HOW MUCH DID YOU DRUGS IN YOUR BLOOD (**** I've never heard of). Even this guy and his friend still thought I was dead after 2 years of this happened.

Anyways but to the safety of yourself, find our balance. I am different, I don't have emotions. Like I'd say 'meh, it's a story, what's for lunch", and don't even think about it. I'm Comfortable Numb.

edit, found I had to put everything in for the police report, and probably half of it I remember lost in the car theft later.

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Laptop 1
Laptop Bags 3
Optical Mouse 1
Cable Assessories 5
Phone Charger 2
Tire Gauge 2
CD Case 1
Compact Disks 75
External HDD 2
USB Flash Drive 4
Wireless Mouse 1
Winter Coat 1
Professional Coat 1
Winter Hat 5
Gloves 3
Baseball Hat 7
Clothes Hamper 2
3 Piece Suitcase Set 1
Full Suit Set 2
Athletic Shoes 4
Dress/Formal Shoes 5
Sandels 4
Ugg Slippers 1
Belts 6
Dress/Formal Slacks 12
Dress/Formal Shirts 30
Ties 10
Dress Socks 30
Athletic Socks 35
Underwear Briefs 5
Underwear Boxers 25
Jeans 10
Shorts 15
Undershirts 35
Graphic Shirts 40
Sweaters 6
Nice Hoodies 4
Misc Hoodies 8
Books 8
fitbit 1
Monitor 2
Kindle fire HD 1
Wireless Adapter for PC 2
This is what makes me sad, the iowa state hoodies or baseball caps, because they don't sell anymore. Fuuuuuuu
 
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