What if you have gone to your friends and want other advice? Or maybe he couldn't offer any because he's never been in that kind of situation. Maybe his friend doesn't care. Maybe his friend is out on a 10-day safari trip and can't be contacted. Maybe he has no friends? Maybe he doesn't want his friend to know because his friend's wife is friends with his wife and might spill the beans. There is no cut and dry rule. If you want information and advice fast, go on the internet. It will at least give another opinion.