See, I think he was being realistic. How would most people answer these two questions:
1. McDermott was having terrible seasons. His son was reputed at that time to be a mid-major prospect. What would you say if he recruited and gave a scholarship to his own son, rather than to a higher-rated prospect, when we didn't have a winning record? (Think Ferentz and his son in assisted housing.)
2. You're a coach, and you've been on the fence for the last few seasons. If you give your son a spot, and you get fired, you know his chance is gone, too. Would you give it to him, anyway, or encourage him to look at a more secure position? Or, look at it differently - you own a big company on the verge of bankruptcy and closure. Would you encourage your child to look at a smaller company that was growing/stable, or tell them to turn down all of those offers to sign on with your failing company? (And think about how ticked people are that Bubu didn't have ample time to transfer.)
I don't think he drove anyone off, I just think he didn't baby players in the way that former stars of prep schools and big high schools are wanting.