I have whined about my MIL here before. When I went back to work after childbirth, she asked how I could let someone else raise my kid. When I stayed home once I had multiple kids, she asked how I could make my husband support us all on one paycheck. Clearly I was in a no-win situation. She told my husband and I that she just didn't love our kids as much as her other grandkids. Seems like a fairly stupid thing to say, although I am sure it was part trying to manipulate us to visit more often and part true. Btw, I have never discouraged a visit, but I did refuse to leave my kids alone with her until they were adults. When one of them was a baby and teething on an electrical cord at her house, her response was "don't worry, he isn't going to hurt the fan."
Her other grandkids who have received "more" of her love have turned out stellar. The twelve year old was referred by a school counselor for therapy and the fifteen year old is preggers and doesn't know which of the guys in juvie for mugging and attempted murder is the baby daddy; mommy and potential daddys all extensive drug users. The eighteen year old alone seems to have turned out ok.
Of my husband's siblings, one brother I love dearly and consider a brother too. I am fine with one sister, the other is loud, arrogant and obnoxious and raised the preferred grandchildren. He has another brother who lives far away and I only know from arrogant Facebook postings discussing how stupid everyone else is and bragging about his workouts. His father is deceased and it is not nice to speak ill of the dead.
Her other grandkids who have received "more" of her love have turned out stellar. The twelve year old was referred by a school counselor for therapy and the fifteen year old is preggers and doesn't know which of the guys in juvie for mugging and attempted murder is the baby daddy; mommy and potential daddys all extensive drug users. The eighteen year old alone seems to have turned out ok.
Of my husband's siblings, one brother I love dearly and consider a brother too. I am fine with one sister, the other is loud, arrogant and obnoxious and raised the preferred grandchildren. He has another brother who lives far away and I only know from arrogant Facebook postings discussing how stupid everyone else is and bragging about his workouts. His father is deceased and it is not nice to speak ill of the dead.