That's like in baseball I broke 2 fingers one season, so I had a really crazy way of taping my hands up. I continued to do it for 2 more years because the first time i did it I cracked a ball about 400 feet.
Promise Rings
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I'm 90 percent positive this is the chick from the original post that was arguing with the OP.
If you're ready to get engaged with someone, just do it. Why does it matter what the ring costs? Just get engaged with a less expensive ring.
Promise rings are a joke invented by the jewelry industry to play off the insecurities of idiots.
Promise rings are a joke invented by the jewelry industry to play off the insecurities of idiots.
And bought into by girls who learned 'love' is being given a gift....generally by non-existent fathers who just bought them everything they wanted.
My wife and I dated for 9 years before getting married...5.5 in college and 3.5 after, a casualty of the 2001 recession. We didn't have a promise ring, but admittedly that's because receiving gifts is very low on her love languages.
As is the 3 months salary guideline for engagement rings.
The diamond industry has literally tons of diamonds - including small ones - in storage and the only way to move more of them without affecting the artificially high prices they have groomed over decades is to increase demand. The promise ring was one (failed, I thought, but maybe not entirely) attempt at increasing demand for some of the smaller inventory.
One of my favorite things lately is the huge ad campaign for "chocolate diamonds". They take common unacceptable diamonds due to poor color which would normally be simply used as industrial diamonds and tout them as something unique and desireable and try to get people to pay a premium for them.
If you have time and are interested read up on the diamond industry. Talk about an industry creating a demand - these guys were brilliant at it.
This. The old "I am making this half-hearted promise that isn't a real commitment but I swear I'll make a real commitment to you later down the road because I have no intention of being committed to you now" trick.
It's a non-committal move to prove that you want to commit later? Dumbest idea ever.
I don't think I've heard of dads giving their daughters purity/promise rings. Is it like when a girl gets her own purity ring to promise to stay a virgin? Why would a dad get involved in that decision? That seems really creepy, unless I'm missing something.
I don't think that the idea of a promise ring is necessary, overall. I don't really get why a college couple would do it, just wait until you have money for the real thing? My husband was going to get me one, told one of his female friends about it, and she explained to him that it was pretty insulting to do at 24 years old.
I bought my wife a ring in college before we were engaged. I think it was like $50 and had a small ruby in it. I didn't really have $2,000 bucks for an engagement ring back then. Throughout that time I saved and presented her with an actual engagement ring the day she graduated. Was it a promise ring? I don't know. Was it a symbol that I loved her? Yes.
For the same reason there are people that thinking pushing abstinence-only sex education is a good idea, and I'm sure it's pretty much the same people pulling this crap with their kids.
