Yikes. That seems like such a terrible, oppressive idea that is pretty much sure to make a child rebel. Arm them with info, and they can make an actual decision. :no:
Two words on abstinence-only ed: Bristol Palin
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Yikes. That seems like such a terrible, oppressive idea that is pretty much sure to make a child rebel. Arm them with info, and they can make an actual decision. :no:
Two words on abstinence-only ed: Bristol Palin
I agree. The whole thing has this creepy feel of protecting your daughter's property value so she can fetch a high dowry when the time is right. It also seems brainwash-y and abusive. Just ugly all around.
The only reason I could see buying one is to get some, and this is the only way to prove your love. :wink:
I'm not trying to brag about my pay or anything, but my wife's engagement ring is a REALLY nice diamond, and it wasn't 3 months salary! :twitcy:
Yeah, I took the tack that it is 3 months pay after taxes and expenses. In that case I overspent!
I think it depends on the family. I've only really heard about it for some Christian circles. It's supposed to be a promise to her parents or dad.... I have no idea if people still do that or what the circumstances would be.
I don't remember if it's a dad/daughter promise or parental....It could be just the girl's idea too. I remember hearing about it a lot during high school. At the time I thought it was a promise to the parents....
As far as abusive/oppressive/brainwash-y I think it depends on how the parents go about it. When I was in high school it was more 'the thing to do' or at least talk about with the daughter. The girl could always not agree/promise..... or they go ahead and break it anyway (nothing is stopping them).
I do think that parents (both mothers and fathers) should talk to their children about sex. Not guiding a teenager or at least talking with them about sex is foolish as they are full of hormones with little impulse control or skills to function in a serious relationship. Kids are becoming incredibly promiscuous at younger ages and it is not healthy. As far as a promise ring, they are a waste of time and money. I was young and bought one at Ames Silversmithing for my girlfriend about 20 years ago. I am sure she got a pretty penny for it at the pawn shop, but I guess it was a lot cheaper than a divorce.
Haven't read a single thing in this thread, just saw the title and all I have to say is...
Promise rings, NO!
Promise rings, NO!
I agree parents should talk to their kids about sex, but I disagree that my generation is much more promiscuous than previous ones, and apparently research (or at least 2009 research) agrees with me. I agree it feels that way, but I think that has more to do with how media handles it than what is actually happening.
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/27/health/27well.html?_r=0
I think talking about it is smart, too. It not only has an important discussion with kids that helps educate them and teach them WHY they should wait and/or be careful (which to me ultimately does more good than a chastity ring, because it comes from a place of communication). It also fosters good communication with your kids, and lets them know that they can come to you if they need birth control, help, etc. It's impractical to think no kids are going to have sex, but we can help make it smarter by just talking to them.
I don't think my parents ever had "the talk" with me or my brother. I have no recollection of it, anyhow.
I think they just assumed that there was enough "out there" that you catch on pretty damn fast what sex is, and what the consequences of it can be.
I think they just assumed that there was enough "out there" that you catch on pretty damn fast what sex is, and what the consequences of it can be.
I wonder if some of that is having a boy vs. having a girl, too? With a girl, you have to worry about periods (and you can't just let them guess on that), and there's a little more of a life change if they get pregnant early. I know my parents gave me "the talk" pretty early, just because of those two factors.
I guess the only context in which I ever heard about those purity covenants was really conservative small towns or really tight-knit conservative church groups, where the girls were basically pressured by peers and elders to participate in the pledge or get ostracized for being a "slut".
My roommate got one for his gf awhile back. To mean it means a few different things:
1. We ARENT taking it to the next level.
2. You are now my whipped bf.
3. You arent getting rid of me. Ever.
They are the dumbest thing ever.
1. We ARENT taking it to the next level.
2. You are now my whipped bf.
3. You arent getting rid of me. Ever.
They are the dumbest thing ever.
Or as my former co-worker once put it..."with a boy, you gotta worry about one *****, with a girl, you gotta worry about all of them".
