Toxic Boss - How do you cope?

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  1. Peter

    Peter Well-Known Member

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    Lol, I did discover after starting that she has a reputation for hiring hot younger men who she can parade around at art galleries, etc. I’m not sure I fit the bill, but she has taken me to several opening already so maybe that’s my role. She also ruffled my hair the day after a haircut which is when I new something was seriously ******.
     
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  2. cycloner29

    cycloner29 Well-Known Member

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    71 year old high and mighty. Reminds me of the old lady on the Wolf eye commercial. :eek::eek:

    I don't know how big the firm is you work for but if you are doing good work and you have a social network like LinkedIn or something, you shouldn't have a problem finding a job. Get your resume on Indeed!!

    Has she always a "my crap doesn't stink" kinda person?
     
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    I've seen enough movies to know that he's likely dealing with black market antiquities and recreations of sculptures used for smuggling drugs and firearms.
     
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    Just say "okay boomer" over and over until she fires you.
     
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    Cougar?
     
  6. Sigmapolis

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    This is the best description of my first boss I have ever found --

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Micromanagement

    It was like this bizarre mixture of the following --

    Glengarry Glen Ross
    The Hunger Games

    Office Space
    Rain Main
    Tommy Boy

    My best advice -- there is not a way to fix such people.

    Find a different job.

    Keep your head down in the meantime.
     
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  7. Peter

    Peter Well-Known Member

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    #27 Peter, Jan 20, 2020
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    she’s the founder of the company so it’s really her play thing. Last month she threw away a piece of art worth at least $10,000 and tried to blame everyone else because she doesn’t know how to unpack boxes and someone else should have checked the box before she threw it away with the art inside. I wish I was kidding.
     
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  8. Cy$

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    we don't condone physical violence of women on cyclone fanatic.
     
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  9. Beernuts

    Beernuts Active Member

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    Had a boss that would throw a tantrum when things weren't going well. One day he was shaking his fists in the air and swearing at anyone that walked by him. I thought he was kidding and started laughing at him (he looked like a toddler). A couple months later I took a different job :)
     
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    I'm sorry to hear that. I'll go with everyone else and say find a new job.

    Of course, maybe she's mad that your on Cyclone Fanatic all the time.:)
     
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  11. Peter

    Peter Well-Known Member

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    that’s the worst part. She is always sneaking up behind me so I can’t spend my usual 3.5 hours arguing about Steve Prohm.
     
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  12. Cyfern

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    Agree. I've had one of these bosses. Needed psychotherapy. I'm serious. It ruined my career, but not my life. It's your choice.
     
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  13. Cyfern

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    File a sexual harassment claim against her. That's inappropriate touching. Do it. It works for women.
     
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    Oh, you should DEFINITELY quit. Not being able to be on CF during business hours is the dealbreaker.
     
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    A good vise helps me cope.
     
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  17. LarryISU

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    In a larger corporate structure, I think the answer is to find a couple other people who agree with you and approach HR together. But if she is the top dog and HR is either non-existent or ineffective, then I think others have given you the answer, get out of there.

    I never really quit a good job under your circumstances, but I did have offices go out of business and force me to look elsewhere. If you are a good worker and have intelligence and skills that are of value in the marketplace, in my experience you can always land on your feet and actually be better off. I am retired now, but any job I went to after getting laid off turned out to be a better job, though I didn't expect that when it happened. Your work is such a big part of your life, it is not worth it, IMO, to put up with an irrational boss.
     
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  18. Isualum13

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    You need to have an image of a coping saw as well to complete the pun.
     
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  19. JM4CY

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    Sorry, that blows. I've never had anything this bad, but I would suggest when you do leave keep it as amicable as possible. No matter how much you despise her and how good it would feel to tell her off upon leaving, I'm a firm believer in not burning professional bridges.
     
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