I've always told people that you'll know if you want kids. If you don't want them, don't expect to suddenly enjoy parenting. For us, it was a goal to start a family. Some days are an absolute pain, but overall it's worth it... for us.
I will say, make absolute certain your finances are in order. We always told people that we were waiting to finish graduate school and improve our income, and the biggest fib I ever heard was "Ohhh but if you keep waiting until you're financially ready, you'll never have kids". Bull f'ing ****. Don't have kids until you know you can afford the biggest financial shocks, like hospital visits, job losses, etc. Hell, daycare on its own can match or exceed a mortgage payment or monthly rent for some of us. Unless we somehow enact universal child care in the US within the next several years, this fact of life will not go away. Child care is EXPENSIVE.
I don't even know how we would have afforded kids if we still had the jobs we had in our 20s. We're doing better now, but the idea of raising kids in our financial situation a decade ago is laughable.
That said, I know your friends are having kids left and right, but they're all being driven by this societal pressure to have them when they might not be prepared. Maybe, emotionally, they are. Financially, unless they landed a golden goose egg of a career right out of college, or they have no debt whatsoever, then they're probably not.
Have kids when you're ready and prepared to give your offspring a quality life. Do not succumb to the pressure, listen to yourself and your SO first and foremost.
I will say, make absolute certain your finances are in order. We always told people that we were waiting to finish graduate school and improve our income, and the biggest fib I ever heard was "Ohhh but if you keep waiting until you're financially ready, you'll never have kids". Bull f'ing ****. Don't have kids until you know you can afford the biggest financial shocks, like hospital visits, job losses, etc. Hell, daycare on its own can match or exceed a mortgage payment or monthly rent for some of us. Unless we somehow enact universal child care in the US within the next several years, this fact of life will not go away. Child care is EXPENSIVE.
I don't even know how we would have afforded kids if we still had the jobs we had in our 20s. We're doing better now, but the idea of raising kids in our financial situation a decade ago is laughable.
That said, I know your friends are having kids left and right, but they're all being driven by this societal pressure to have them when they might not be prepared. Maybe, emotionally, they are. Financially, unless they landed a golden goose egg of a career right out of college, or they have no debt whatsoever, then they're probably not.
Have kids when you're ready and prepared to give your offspring a quality life. Do not succumb to the pressure, listen to yourself and your SO first and foremost.