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Yes. All the way. Toughest thing I've ever done, and easily the most rewarding.
Serious question: Are kids worth it?
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And nothing quite as disturbing as waking up and seeing a little face 2 inches from yours. My kids sometimes freak me out.
I enjoy only having to worry about myself. My pets are enough for me. I think if I would have been alive in the 50's or something I would have had kid's but not this day and age. It's hard to be middle class and there are lots of uncertainties in this world(climate change,etc..).
Happiness in studies is often defined as flexibility with finances, relationships, and time. So I mean yeah, duh.
But studies have also shown people with children have higher self esteem, greater purpose, and are more satisfied with life. Which also sounds like happiness, I guess, just a different kind.
Dont be pressured into it. Its OK to not have kids.
We have had some seriously heartbreaking miscarriages along the journey as well. Nothing can make you want to beat a face into oblivion when someone asks and arent aware when you're going to have them. People commenting about someone else's family is an ancient way of thinking-so dont do it.
My wife would like to have more kids but I also dont want to be the old geezer when they graduate college/get married. Time will tell.
The minutes after birth in a hospital room are undeniably the best in your life. Better than your wedding day.
We have had some seriously heartbreaking miscarriages along the journey as well. Nothing can make you want to beat a face into oblivion when someone asks and arent aware when you're going to have them. People commenting about someone else's family is an ancient way of thinking-so dont do it.
My wife would like to have more kids but I also dont want to be the old geezer when they graduate college/get married. Time will tell.
The minutes after birth in a hospital room are undeniably the best in your life. Better than your wedding day.
Having kids will change your life forever..Mostly for good. For some people it just isn't part of their plan and i can respect that.
But I don't want to be 60 with both my Parents dead and basically have no family at all in my ageing years.
But I don't want to be 60 with both my Parents dead and basically have no family at all in my ageing years.
Yeah the kid pushers need to mind their own ******* business. Those are the people who wish they didn’t have kids and can’t stand it when others choose not to.
Someone mentioned thoughts on their deathbed. When I’m on mine I will think about my kids and grandkids who are hopefully around me, not a trip to dubai or something. To each their own.
If you don’t think you want kids, don’t, but be honest with your spouse. Don’t hold that from them, walk away and find others with similar beliefs.
If you don’t think you want kids, don’t, but be honest with your spouse. Don’t hold that from them, walk away and find others with similar beliefs.
It certainly isn't easy. But it's a great way to get over yourself. And there's nothing wrong with learning to serve others. If you do it right, they go from being dependents to your best friends with whom you enjoy spending time.
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We have two- one of the best decisions of my life and we wouldn’t do it differently even if we could.
Kids will make you crazy, proud, cry, laugh, and they definitely give you a greater appreciation for your own parents and all the b.s. you put them through.
You also find out what you and your spouse are made of, but if it all works out, I think you come out stronger on the other side as a couple.
Kids will make you crazy, proud, cry, laugh, and they definitely give you a greater appreciation for your own parents and all the b.s. you put them through.
You also find out what you and your spouse are made of, but if it all works out, I think you come out stronger on the other side as a couple.
You don’t know everyone’s specific situation, so to call out people as stupid or lazy is, well stupid and lazy.
My oldest used to come into our room in the middle of the night.... not say a word... and stare out the window.
Absolutely yes on having kids. If you have ever wondered about your own existence, why am I here, what is life? Just wait till you witness the birth and look your first newborn in the eye. You will never have those questions again! I have two kids, both in late twenties now. Smart and successful in their own right. And when you realize that they have grown to be better than you are, that you and your wife did a good job raising them, wow, that is really special! And it makes any hardships worth it!!
