I can relate to the ******* and moaning. I found myself not even enjoying games this football season, imagine that, and really was suffering through games not enjoying them. I had to take a step back and just relax. I think, for whatever reason, maybe because a lot of us are alumni we get a little to emotional about the programs. CPR, Coach Fennelly, Coach Jackson and Fred are passionate about Iowa State. It is easy to get caught up in it.
It's appropriate to cheer and enjoy the games for the fans, but not to suffer and analyze every detail. That is more appropriate for the Coaches. I've taken a step back and would highly recommend it to others.
A good litmus test will be after the next game in Phog Allen. If we lose at KU and you are calling out players and Coaches for it you are not being realistic.
edit: Also, being a fanatic should mean cheering for your team and players not against.