Adultery in my workplace...
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Maybe it'll blow over after you realize the boss is just using the D.E.N.N.I.S. system and has no plans for a long term relationship.
In the meantime Mantis, er Spokane, you should buy some magnum condoms.
In the meantime Mantis, er Spokane, you should buy some magnum condoms.
Just and FYI it is illegal for a company or boss to retalliate. It would however be up to you to PROVE any disciplinary actions were a result of relalliation and not something you "had coming"
Seriously though, the correct answer is just STFU and ignore them. It's none of your business and nothing positive for your career (isnt that all that really matters?) will come of you bringing attention to it. Besides, the only people who actually give a crap about co-workers sleeping with each other are usually the ones jealous it's not them.
Just sayin'
Just sayin'
What is a corporate coach?
And I would collect the information you have and use it for that promotion you have coming your way. If I remember right, that job pays quite well and you have to work less than 40 hours per week, some of it used golfing with clients.
Remember, it's not what you know but who you know or what you know about them!
And I would collect the information you have and use it for that promotion you have coming your way. If I remember right, that job pays quite well and you have to work less than 40 hours per week, some of it used golfing with clients.
Remember, it's not what you know but who you know or what you know about them!
I have always found life easier to view co-workers as nothing more than co-workers. Ignore their drama, be civil, but certainly not friends. Life just seems easier when friends are friends and colleagues are colleagues. The sexual relationship in the office obviously hurts productivity by everyone. Moving away from it is a good idea since it bugs you, but ignore the children in the meantime.
I've hit about 4 years and over the past few months have seen what could be a workplace affair. I'm not sure it actually is one, but a lot of flirting going on. Makes me glad I don't work in that department.
Personally yeah if it's not directly impacting my daily work I'm not going to make any complaints. As it is, a lot of people try to avoid working in a small group situation with those two. In my opinion once it starts to impact the work of other employees or if it turns into favoritism is where the company should step in and tell them to tone it down at work.
I guess I can't quite figure out what you hope to achieve. The missing link here is how this has affected your work enviornment. Was your co-worker given a raise or promotion you don't feel was deserved? Does she get preferential treatment at work? Otherwise, is your concern here just that something is going on that you don't support morally?
Is your end game to have these people disciplined or fired? If so, what have you then accomplished?
Is your end game to have these people disciplined or fired? If so, what have you then accomplished?
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This is the key ... if the friend, who is the soon-to-be-ex, feels like the work environment is hostile, he should have sought a remedy. That remedy very likely could have been the termination of employment for the manager-sexter. If the issue wasn't resolved, the friend-ex-husband has grounds for a lawsuit -- and likely a big judgement.
But to the OP, it's the ex-husband-co-worker and cheating-wife-co-worker who should be dealing with this.
That can be hard to do when you spend 40+ hours a week with them. You tend to be close to some of your coworkers at some point.
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As far as the OP's situation, It sounds like you have probably become a stabilizing force in his office and sees yourself as such after so many years. I've been at my job for 16 years and can relate. Lotta people cheating. 75% of the people in my department are divorced, which is pretty ridiculous.
But as many have said, it's best to just control what you can control and let their disgressions go without further mention. Just document everything to death and have it handy in case you need to get a lawyer involved later on to protect your interests. I'm not a fan of frivolous lawsuits, but protecting your career (it's not a job, by your description) is far from frivolous.
If other co-workers of yours feel the same offense and undue tension in the office, bring it up as a group to HR if that would be a safer approach. If you are in a flatter company organizational-wise and the HR department is pretty much a joke (like mine) you're not gonna come out ahead by pushing the issue further.
If the moral implications are too much for you, however, go for it. I'm not ever going to tell someone not to do what they think is right. Just be prepared for the need for a career change realistically.
So, by extension, I should be able to sue my co-workers for refusing to address me as T-Bone.
I think it depends on the work environment (and what the OPs actual situation is) but just simply flirting with each other is enough to distract people and cause problems. Where I work, everyone pretty much stays at arm's length from each other. We might go have a few beers after work every now and again, but we keep our relationships professional. No one comes in physical contact with anyone else, other than a handshake every now and again. Even married couples who work together act the same way while on the clock.
So when you see two people flirting with each other, poking each other, hands on each other, hugging each other it's distracting. It stands out. People try to avoid them, don't want to be stuck in a meeting room or a car ride with them. I agree that it's not anyone's business who hooks up with who, but it still makes you feel a bit awkward when you see two married people flirt with each other like that. If they're two single people, again it's a lot less distracting.
Now if you work in a different environment where the employees are more like friends it might be different. If things like that go on all the time, then it's not going to be abnormal and it won't be a problem.
If you're not sure how to do this....PM Snowcraig, he can give you tips on this, very experienced.
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But people are distracted by a funny smelling co-worker. People are distracted by personal calls lady, or the constantly burning popcorn guy. I can't understand needing to take something that distracts you and make it in to some big issue with your superiors. The fact of the matter is when you work with a bunch of other people there will be some who do things you don't like. It's not worth trying to have them all fired.
