My wife cheated on me...

[Darko]

I have nobody to talk to. I can't talk to my friends because I don't want them to know. SO anonymous internet message board is the best place for me. WTF do I do? I caught her on accident by her text messages on her phone. I confronted her last night. we stayed up all night talking. I still have not slept. It was with one of my buddies. We have been married for 5 years and together for 8. i'm so lost right now.

 

[bigcyfan82]

Wow man, that's rough. Sorry something like this happened

 

[The_Architect]

Wow, sorry to hear that. Hang on a sec...

 

[CycloneErik]

Dude, I'm sorry. I'll be praying for you.

 

[bos]

Sorry to hear that. You have my support. Noone deserves this stuff.

 

[CycloneNick]

First, it wasn't with your buddy, it was with someone that pretended to be your buddy.

The most important thing is, do you have kids? Your next step depends a lot on the answer to that question.

Keep your head up brother.

 

[TruClone]

Do you have children with her?

 

[wartknight]

First of all get rid of the buddy

 

[homerHAWKeye777]

I have nobody to talk to. I can't talk to my friends because I don't want them to know. SO anonymous internet message board is the best place for me. WTF do I do? I caught her on accident by her text messages on her phone. I confronted her last night. we stayed up all night talking. I still have not slept. It was with one of my buddies. We have been married for 5 years and together for 8. i'm so lost right now.

They're not really friends if you can't talk to them about something that is so significant to you.

Anyhow, I'm sorry to read that you're going through such a tough event.

 

[bos]

I would highly suggest you dont do anything brash to the supposed-friend. Retalliation will only hurt you. Take the high road, because you are the better person.

 

[Cycloin]

Dude, I'm sorry. I'll be praying for you.

As will I...

 

[mustangcy]

If the buddy is married as well I'd be making a phone call.

 

[Schfinkter]

I would highly suggest you dont do anything brash to the supposed-friend. Retalliation will only hurt you. Take the high road, because you are the better person.

I agree with this comment, it's not just your buddy's fault, he didn't force himself on her.. Be the bigger man, take the high road, it will pay off for you in the end

 

[Cyclonepride]

Wow, I'm so sorry, because I know that can be devastating. What you do next has a lot of variables.....do you have children together?

Everyone has their personal lines that cannot be crossed, and this is one of them for me. I would not hesitate to end the relationship at that point, though the children factor certainly adds a lot to that decision.

God bless, and just know that you are not alone.

 

[keepngoal]

Wow... sorry for your troubles.

Talk, talk and more talk with your spouse. If you belong to a church, talk to your pastor... if you don't belong to a church, step in a ask to speak to the pastor.

This isn't the end all be all ..... But talking will help you move on.... you will never forget, but you can move on.

-keep

 

[aauummm]

Try to relax-I know that sounds stupid but it's a wise thing to do. Don't do anything irrational or spur of the moment. Talk to her some more. After some cool down time for you, maybe a month or so, then you can make a level-headed decision on what to do next. You might want to talk to your buddy also and get his take on it.

 

[1100011CS]

If you have kids, get a lawyer. Now.

 

[homerHAWKeye777]

I have nobody to talk to. I can't talk to my friends because I don't want them to know. SO anonymous internet message board is the best place for me. WTF do I do? I caught her on accident by her text messages on her phone. I confronted her last night. we stayed up all night talking. I still have not slept. It was with one of my buddies. We have been married for 5 years and together for 8. i'm so lost right now.

Why don't you want them to know? This exactly the time when you need your friends the most! It may seem embarrassing, however, one of the first things you need to do is simply try to "refind" your equilibrium. This is the sort of occasion where you don't want to (re)act irrationally. Talking things over with friends and family (parents, siblings, etc) are one of the very things that can help you refind your equilibrium. Then, if you're willing to forgive your wife or not ... then you'll have an army of support behind you to help give you strength (even if you don't want to be strong).

 

[yannballer]

that really sucks! lose the so called friend, what a db!!!

 

[clones_jer]

First of all get rid of the buddy

you'll need something to wrap him in ... and somewhere to bury him