Friday OT #2 - Stage 3 Clinger
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Will preface this as I wasn't even hitting on this woman and was (still am) married at the time.
Was talking to an old HS classmate about 10 years ago uptown at a street band. Hadn't seen her since HS. She was telling me how since she got divorced she didn't get out much and was always watching kids, working and stuff like that. Always had the kids with and did kid things. I said, well it's nice that you can get out tonight and do adult things. She was fairly drunk, I had one beer. She looked at me and told me her female parts don't work. Seeing the confusion on my face she repeated it. We spoke for about 10 seconds more and I left thinking that I think I actually got shot down and wasn't hitting on her.
Was talking to an old HS classmate about 10 years ago uptown at a street band. Hadn't seen her since HS. She was telling me how since she got divorced she didn't get out much and was always watching kids, working and stuff like that. Always had the kids with and did kid things. I said, well it's nice that you can get out tonight and do adult things. She was fairly drunk, I had one beer. She looked at me and told me her female parts don't work. Seeing the confusion on my face she repeated it. We spoke for about 10 seconds more and I left thinking that I think I actually got shot down and wasn't hitting on her.
Senior year of college I asked a co-worker out, she was cute and nice, and she said yes. I later got a text from her that said she was flattered, but she had been surprised when I asked her, so she had kind of panicked and said yes. She actually didn't really want to date me. She also said she was very sorry. That one stung, but it was also a case of, "you've got to be kidding me"
Not exactly on topic, but I was dating a girl who moved to Texas. We tried keeping it going long distance for a few months but it wasn't going so well. About this time I was spending some time with another girl who was a good friend. So I broke up with the girl from Texas, thinking I'd have a pretty good shot at turning this friendship into an actual relationship, only to have that quickly shut down. It wasn't the only reason we broke up, but boy did I miscalculate where I stood with the other girl. Ol' Clonefan32 thought he had a couple options and wound up ladyless pretty quick.
One of my friends is big into performance theater, belongs to the Quad Cities Musical Guild, and was in a musical. I asked her to go to one of his shows with me and she agreed. Instead of talking straight to me, or even using voicemail or text, she decides to tell my sister directly to her face to tell me that she decided she didn't want to go with me after all. What a slap in the face not just to me, but to my sister as well. As I said, even a voicemail or a text would have been better. Basically, our entire circle of friends turned against her and she was shortly exiled from our group after that.
Back in my early twenties, I ghosted someone before ghosting was something that had a name. It's a total coward move, but what can you do? Nobody's perfect, especially not at that age.
Anyway, she was persistent and kept calling and texting for a couple weeks. When I finally answered the phone, we talked for about five or ten minutes. I was embarassed by how I had gone about breaking things off and I admitted as much, and she actually told me I should seek counseling. That one hurt, because I don't think she was even mad or disappointed at what I did. I think she legitimately felt bad for me and she kept trying to get in touch with me for the sole purpose of telling me to get help. (I didn't. Things worked out OK, though.)
Another time someone I had been dating for a couple months broke up with me post-show at a goddamn Los Lonely Boys concert at People's downtown. I don't even like the band. I bought the tickets because she wanted to go.
Dating sucks. I'm not doing it again. If my wife dies before me, it's prostitutes all the way from there on out.
Anyway, she was persistent and kept calling and texting for a couple weeks. When I finally answered the phone, we talked for about five or ten minutes. I was embarassed by how I had gone about breaking things off and I admitted as much, and she actually told me I should seek counseling. That one hurt, because I don't think she was even mad or disappointed at what I did. I think she legitimately felt bad for me and she kept trying to get in touch with me for the sole purpose of telling me to get help. (I didn't. Things worked out OK, though.)
Another time someone I had been dating for a couple months broke up with me post-show at a goddamn Los Lonely Boys concert at People's downtown. I don't even like the band. I bought the tickets because she wanted to go.
Dating sucks. I'm not doing it again. If my wife dies before me, it's prostitutes all the way from there on out.
In college, I spent a ton of time with a really pretty gal. We had great rapport, were obviously attracted to each other and I couldn't figure out why it never went further than that. Years later when I thought about it, it may have been the fact that I had a girlfriend. In summary, there is no living thing on the planet more stupid than a young man.
I asked my then-girlfriend to Prom in high school once, who wound up turning me down the day of, to work on an English class project. I went anyway, won a $100 CD player and broke up with her the next day.
You asked someone you were already dating to prom? Wouldn't that be kind of a given? Did anybody else do that in high school?
I once went on a date with a girl that I was, somewhat, friends with. It felt like we were having a really good time and at the end of the night, I walked her home and tried to kiss her goodnight. She said that she'd rather I didn't.
We actually ended up becoming very close friends as time progressed. A year or so later she moved out of town. At her going away party, her best friend came up to me and said, "Why did you never try to hit on her? She liked you."
@Cyclonepride is right. Young men are stupid. I think.
We actually ended up becoming very close friends as time progressed. A year or so later she moved out of town. At her going away party, her best friend came up to me and said, "Why did you never try to hit on her? She liked you."
@Cyclonepride is right. Young men are stupid. I think.
To be fair, we had been kind of on-again, off-again for a month or two but were "on" at this time, so I felt I probably should ask just to be safe. I'm sure more serious couples just knew it right off the bat and didn't have to ask.
Once on a date in high school (maybe 16 at the time) my then girlfriend had me drive her to a friend's house to pick something up. She said to 'just wait in the car, she'd just be a minute'. About 10 minutes later she comes out with some guy that looked like he was in college and informed me that she was just going to stay there for the night. yeah.
Hopefully, that "something" she picked up was an STD.
This proves women are mean. I don't see any women in here talking about rough shoot downs.
Probably too many to remember. Guys can crush a girl's heart without even knowing they did it.
Turned Down: Got my first introduction to "girl rules" when I was 16 or so. Asked this gal out who I got along great with. We really liked each other. She wouldn't go out with me (think it was prom or something) because her best friend had a crush on me and was hoping I'd ask her. We stayed in the friend zone for a few years even after we both went off to college.
Turn Down: Was drinking at a TGI Fridays one night, hardly anyone there. This gal at the bar started talking with me. Nice looking and my age (back in the day). Turns out she was just in town for her ex-husband's funeral. okay, that was a weird start but what the heck. She was staying in the hotel next door. She asked me over to her room but told me I'd have to be quiet since she had her daughter back in the room sleeping. Ah, no, I don't think so although it was nice chatting with you!
The Slow No: Friend zoned so many times I am probably an expert at detecting it. Never went to "no" since I could sense the "no" and never asked.
Turn Down: Was drinking at a TGI Fridays one night, hardly anyone there. This gal at the bar started talking with me. Nice looking and my age (back in the day). Turns out she was just in town for her ex-husband's funeral. okay, that was a weird start but what the heck. She was staying in the hotel next door. She asked me over to her room but told me I'd have to be quiet since she had her daughter back in the room sleeping. Ah, no, I don't think so although it was nice chatting with you!
The Slow No: Friend zoned so many times I am probably an expert at detecting it. Never went to "no" since I could sense the "no" and never asked.
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I once made dinner for a girl I was dating. I made home-made pasta and a white wine sauce with chicken and vegetables. She started crying. I asked why. She said that she thought it would be a red sauce.
