Friday OT #1: Whatcha Gonna Do?
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Seems to be somewhat of a generational divide. For my parents' generation, seems like most go with embalming and burial in a casket. Not sure where the exact age cutoff is, but to over-generalize, it seems like many under ~50 years old prefer cremation.
My wife passed away this August - way too young with cancer that progressed way too fast. She was cremated because she "didn't want bugs in the casket" even though we explained this won't happen.
She had an open casket visitation and then the casket was closed right before the funeral. She was buried in her parent's cemetery. A portion of the ashes were kept behind to be scattered in the woods she used to hike in.
As much as it sounds like a good idea, when it comes to the real thing, there is nothing fun about a funeral.
She had an open casket visitation and then the casket was closed right before the funeral. She was buried in her parent's cemetery. A portion of the ashes were kept behind to be scattered in the woods she used to hike in.
As much as it sounds like a good idea, when it comes to the real thing, there is nothing fun about a funeral.
Currently I have it setup in my will to cremate me into a biodegradable urns with a tree and plant the trees at the family farm. Though the location may change. Currently set at a Red and Yellow maple and to be planted near each other so in the fall it’s a brilliant display of colors.
Funeral wise I have a church mass with a party afterwards where the bar is rented out and it’s an open tab paid for by my estate. Want it to be fun and I’ve requested a “roast” but I doubt my friends are gonna follow through with that one but as long as there’s food and drinks and stories
Funeral wise I have a church mass with a party afterwards where the bar is rented out and it’s an open tab paid for by my estate. Want it to be fun and I’ve requested a “roast” but I doubt my friends are gonna follow through with that one but as long as there’s food and drinks and stories
Trying to picture someone scattering ashes with class. This is all I could picture.
Viking funeral would be DOPE! Hopefully my Boy Scout son is better at archery by then so he can get the flaming arrow out to the boat.
Also, we were playing JackBox the other day and there was a question: "What song do you want played at your funeral?"
@Angie , this is a potential future Friday topic.
I told my boys, I don't want a song played. I want the three of them to sing Bohemian Rhapsody, in it's entirety, at my funeral.
We'll see whose voice is the highest at that point, but my standards are pretty lofty.
The ending of The Big Lebowski was awesome... the spreading of Donny's ashes.
Viking funeral would be DOPE! Hopefully my Boy Scout son is better at archery by then so he can get the flaming arrow out to the boat.
Also, we were playing JackBox the other day and there was a question: "What song do you want played at your funeral?"
@Angie , this is a potential future Friday topic.
I told my boys, I don't want a song played. I want the three of them to sing Bohemian Rhapsody, in it's entirety, at my funeral.
We'll see whose voice is the highest at that point, but my standards are pretty lofty.
If we have the fourth kid my wife wants, I expect the lights to go down and for this to happen:
Viking funeral would be DOPE! Hopefully my Boy Scout son is better at archery by then so he can get the flaming arrow out to the boat.
Also, we were playing JackBox the other day and there was a question: "What song do you want played at your funeral?"
@Angie , this is a potential future Friday topic.
I told my boys, I don't want a song played. I want the three of them to sing Bohemian Rhapsody, in it's entirety, at my funeral.
We'll see whose voice is the highest at that point, but my standards are pretty lofty.
You've got to send this to me, and I'll add it to the queue! <3
My mother passed away last year less than 24 hours before the Baylor game at the Jack. She sternly said, "I don't want you kids having a funeral for me. Instead I want you to get together at a different time next year and celebrate me by having pizza and beer.." So... that is exactly what we did! Far better than a funeral.
I was just going to post that, but since you already alluded to it, I will post video that includes Iz's scattering at sea instead.
There is definitely something to be said for waiting so that the sadness and grief isn't so raw and that you can truly reminisce rather than being a prisoner of the moment.
I'm guessing a direct donation to the band would be the most economical way to do this.
Gonna have to get buried 10 yards instead of 6 feet deep. THATS ANOTHER CYCLONE...
Since quite a few have mentioned being cremated, I wanted to share this:
We have a friend that lost his Dad suddenly. His Dad was in his early 50’s. He was cremated. A few months later, the family took part of the ashes to a glass blower. Each person had a glass item made and the ashes were added to it. The family brought along a few drinks and reminisced while their items were made.
I think a few in the family had Christmas ornaments made. This is a wine glass our friend’s Mom had made with his Dad’s ashes in the glass.
Anyway…I just thought it was kind of a unique thing to do.
We have a friend that lost his Dad suddenly. His Dad was in his early 50’s. He was cremated. A few months later, the family took part of the ashes to a glass blower. Each person had a glass item made and the ashes were added to it. The family brought along a few drinks and reminisced while their items were made.
I think a few in the family had Christmas ornaments made. This is a wine glass our friend’s Mom had made with his Dad’s ashes in the glass.
Anyway…I just thought it was kind of a unique thing to do.
