This is a question for guys: when you are going out with a girl and having a good time, do you pay all cost (dinner, movie, etc) every time for the girl, or do you share the cost with the girl? I am going out with this girl and like her, but she seems to expect me pay everything.
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Unless she specifically offers to pay for something (without you 'nudging' her towards asking), then you should expect to pay for everything. In some cases, if she asked you out on a date, then you might expect her to pay. If you're doing the asking, you definitely pay for it all, and it's your privilege to do so. As the relationship develops, perhaps she'll start offering to pay for something, but that's not something you should request of her, IMO. (I'm slightly old-school.)
That said, I haven't run into many women at all who don't offer to pay for something after the first few dates.
When I was dating my wife (granted this was about 5-10 years ago) I always paid for everything. Now she's a CPA and makes about 40% more than I do, so I consider it even.
That's the bonus of dating when you are older. Older gals almost always insist on paying half. I've never had a problem picking up the tab though.
Find someone with a lot of money so you dont have to pay all the time. I know I don't and she makes almost twice as much as I do
You guys are all avoiding the most obvious question. Are you getting any?
If so, continue to pay. If not, move on.
If so, continue to pay. If not, move on.
WHen I was dating my now wife in HS and College, I went out expecting to pay, but every once in a while she would offer and I took her up on it.
I like to be straight up with the girl. At the beginning of the date I tell her, "Look, lady (sometimes I use their name), if this date is going to be enjoyable for both of us, I'm going to expect you to pay for everything. In return, I will entertain you all night with comedy and magic. If this doesn't sit well with you, there's the door (and I point to the door of the diner)."
Oh, whenever I go on a date, I ALWAYS meet them at the local diner by my house, by the way. I think it sets a good tone for the evening, and there is always some serious strange in there in case my "date" doesn't take my offer.
Oh, whenever I go on a date, I ALWAYS meet them at the local diner by my house, by the way. I think it sets a good tone for the evening, and there is always some serious strange in there in case my "date" doesn't take my offer.
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Just got out of a 5 year relationship. It ended quite badly. Since them I've made some changes in my life and so far it's working....
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I believe the man should always pay. If you asked her out that is 100%. If she asked you out, I would still pay, but I suppose in this day and age if she initiated the date, she could pick up the tab.
I agree on this. I like when a woman offers, but I still feel like I should pay. Chivalry is not dead. Its still cool to open doors in buildings and open car doors to let them in first. Believe it or not, most women appreciate this.
If she never offer to pay that tells you something about the girl...get out before you ever get started.
When you hear women ***** and moan because we as men make more money than women. This is the reason. We may make more money but we have to pay for everything.
Bring a calculator (better yet - an adding machine with paper printout) and accounting ledger paper. Calculate each of your costs for the meal, movie, etc. and keep track in the ledger. At the end of the night, present an invoice to her, but give her the option of paying later or even a payment plan.
She will be impressed with your attention to detail and money management acumen. The pay options will let her know you are an open minded guy. Also, no more mental tracking of who owes whom. Guaranteed winner.
She will be impressed with your attention to detail and money management acumen. The pay options will let her know you are an open minded guy. Also, no more mental tracking of who owes whom. Guaranteed winner.
