I default to text-based chat first for the most part. 'Gimme a call when you have a sec' kind of thing -- then be mindful about waiting for them to either reply or just call back.
Are unscheduled phone calls rude?
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So much this. My wife will spend an hour exchanging texts and getting frustrated trying to figure out a complex situation that she could handle with a 3 minute phone conversation. But she hates talking to people on the phone and gets pissed when someone calls her. Drives me nuts.
Older millennial here. My family has no problem with unscheduled calls, and luckily no one is offended if someone doesn't answer.
When I first got in the workforce (2008) I was definitely an email first for most communications, including if it was to see if they had time to talk. Now I'm absolutely all about just calling people. Takes less time than emails and much better results.
When I first got in the workforce (2008) I was definitely an email first for most communications, including if it was to see if they had time to talk. Now I'm absolutely all about just calling people. Takes less time than emails and much better results.
They might very well have texted that question because they aren't in a position to have a call though. If someone texts it's best to assume they want a response in text. If it's too much to text out just say that
A few years ago, I tried to call my husband and he was rejecting my call (in a meeting). You would think he would realize it was important if I keep calling. I was in an ER 60 miles from home with a broken ankle.
He no longer doesn’t accept my unscheduled call.
He no longer doesn’t accept my unscheduled call.
Did you leave a goddam message?? This doesn't sound life threatening and the man was in a meeting!!
I am fine with people texting accounting/tax questions and sometimes the answer is easy to text back. But if it is a more complicated answer I'd rather talk you through it rather than having a back and forth text convo trying to get you to understand it.
Sorry but he wasn't in a meeting, at least not a work meeting lmao
This. It's your job to manage your phone not mine. If I feel like calling you, I'm going to because I don't have your schedule handy. If you don't answer, I assume you'll call me back like a real human and if it's important I will leave a message. If it's an emergency, I will call again immediately as most people I know operate under the assumption that if someone continues calling, it's an emergency.
I am a little jealous, though, that a significant inconvenience in someone's life is someone calling them when they aren't available to talk.
*Obvious exceptions apply such as if I know you're wife is giving birth at the moment
I totally get that, just saying it shouldn't be an annoyance if they dont answer an immediate return call in that scenario
Or the quick prep meeting before the planning meeting for the actual meeting...
Also, if you text me to call you immediately, then I do and and you don't answer, you're dead to me. Number is deleted.
It's annoying because they just texted, 5 seconds ago, and can't answer a call back.
Again, because they may be in a place they couldn't make a call to begin with. Sending a text does not mean available for a call.
I'll send a text when I can't actually talk. Especially if it's something that can be resolved in one back and forth text exchange.
Also, if I get a text and I can tell it's going to lead to a lengthier exchange, I'll just call because that 5 minute phone conversation is less of an interruption than texting back and forth over an hour.
It's amazing people survived 40 years ago when all we had was the phone, and you actually had to talk to people.
10 years ago - no.
Now, I think so. 90% of my calls to friends or business associates start with a text "are u available now or let me know when to call....."
It's actually much more efficient and get more done that way both business and social.
Now, I think so. 90% of my calls to friends or business associates start with a text "are u available now or let me know when to call....."
It's actually much more efficient and get more done that way both business and social.
Exactly. After about 4 texts back and forth I'm over it and ready to move on, if it takes more than that just call me.
Yah, it's pretty easy to not just answer. With that said, I think we all know that feeling of being on a phone call for about 30 seconds and realizing "oh, there really isn't a point to this conversation and it will likely last another 20 minutes."
I had a business partner who had a special skill of quickly wrapping up conversations without being rude about it. She had a gift. I am not that way at all. I can't end a conversation to save my life and will instead listen to you talk for the next 30 minutes as my mind races through **** I'd rather be doing.
I had a business partner who had a special skill of quickly wrapping up conversations without being rude about it. She had a gift. I am not that way at all. I can't end a conversation to save my life and will instead listen to you talk for the next 30 minutes as my mind races through **** I'd rather be doing.
