Another Female Teacher 'Incident'

NWICY

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Yeahh... wonder if the husband knew, cause that is messed up. The part about a teacher seeing her playing basketball one v one against a student at a wellness center in town and the teacher feeling it was inappropriate. It would be weird as **** if I went to the Y in high school and saw my 37 year old science teacher playing bball against my buddy.

I don't use snap chat can you use pics already taken and then send them on Snap chat or do they have to be taken on that platform and sent immediately? If it's the 1st way I could see how it happened with out the husbands knowledge.
 

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Again I don't believe in arbitrary ages. There are many "adults" who are simply unable to give consent, primarily due to mental illness.
Ok, and yet you automatically assume these boys were mentally responsible enough to legally give their consent to sex with an adult at age 14 without any information. Interesting.
 
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Again I don't believe in arbitrary ages. There are many "adults" who are simply unable to give consent, primarily due to mental illness.

Ok, I'm going to play along then. What do you believe in then? Every time someone decides to enter into a sexual act with someone they have to make an independent determination about their capacity to consent to sex?

I'm just curious as well, does this anti-arbitrary age then extend to other areas? What about drinking-- just whenever you feel responsible enough to handle your alcohol? Driving-- whenever you can pass a driving test? Voting-- whenever you have a general grasp on the voting process you can vote?
 

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I will probably get jumped on for this, but I think its probably diffrent for boys and girls. A 14 year old girl should not be having sex with an adult, but I remember being a 14 year old boy and sex was on my brain 90 percent of the time. I agree with you nobody makes the best decisions at 14 but I have a hard time seeing mental problems developing from sleeping with a hot teacher.

I'm sure a lot of other people share this opinion. However, there is research indicating girls develop psychologically faster than boys. If anything that would point to the 14 year old girl being in a better position to make that decision than the boy. As to the boys, a lot of their thought process at that age can be attributed to the hormones associated with puberty, which doesn't exactly leave them with a clear head for making these types of decisions.

Regardless of whether a minor consented in a literal yes/ no sense the behavior of the adult needs to be taken into account. When someone in a position of power, like a teacher, preys on a child they are charged with teaching and protecting, it definitely puts a child in a compromising position. There's also a problem in that an adult, whether male or female, is sexually attracted to someone who is 14 years old, which is generally something that needs to be discouraged.
 
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I don't use snap chat can you use pics already taken and then send them on Snap chat or do they have to be taken on that platform and sent immediately? If it's the 1st way I could see how it happened with out the husbands knowledge.
I don't know to be honest, don't use snap chat that much any more. I would assume that you can, though, because if not she would have to be holding down the record button the whole time.
 

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I'm sure a lot of other people share this opinion. However, there is research indicating girls develop psychologically faster than boys. If anything that would point to the 14 year old girl being in a better position to make that decision than the boy. As to the boys, a lot of their thought process at that age can be attributed to the hormones associated with puberty, which doesn't exactly leave them with a clear head for making these types of decisions.

Regardless of whether a minor consented in a literal yes/ no sense the behavior of the adult needs to be taken into account. When someone in a position of power, like a teacher, preys on a child they are charged with teaching and protecting, it definitely puts a child in a compromising position. There's also a problem in that an adult, whether male or female, is sexually attracted to someone who is 14 years old, which is generally something that needs to be discouraged.
I 100 percent agree with your second paragraph. I don't think the psychological maturity is the diffrence, I think it is more the difference in how men and women view sex. I am not sure but I think there is more of a personal connection when women have sex. As a man i can honestly say i don't even have to like the person.
 

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Ok, I'm going to play along then. What do you believe in then? Every time someone decides to enter into a sexual act with someone they have to make an independent determination about their capacity to consent to sex?

I'm just curious as well, does this anti-arbitrary age then extend to other areas? What about drinking-- just whenever you feel responsible enough to handle your alcohol? Driving-- whenever you can pass a driving test? Voting-- whenever you have a general grasp on the voting process you can vote?

Yes, to all the above. People need to be given responsibilities slowly and build up to bigger things as they show they can handle certain situations. Heck many farm kids like my wife and brother in law are driving at the age of 10.
 

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A 14 year old is definitely helpless in a mental frame of mind kind of way. Lots of challenges and changes at that point in their lives and they need adults to be adults, not predators with them. Lots of 14 year olds seem like they are ready for adulthood, yet in reality are bouncing back and forth with their mental and physical changes. To say that there is NO victim, is absolutely absurd.........maddening and very frightening. Many 14 year olds are 8th graders, good grief.

To be fair, so are a lot of 25 year olds.

Not that I agree with Argents stance on this issue but I understand his point. People mature at different rates and at different ages.
 

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To be fair, so are a lot of 25 year olds.

Not that I agree with Argents stance on this issue but I understand his point. People mature at different rates and at different ages.

No one is arguing people don't mature at different rates. It's asinine to think law should be written to determine maturity on a case by case basis.
 
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To be fair, so are a lot of 25 year olds.

Not that I agree with Argents stance on this issue but I understand his point. People mature at different rates and at different ages.
Well no ****.......I clearly was not saying that it was exclusive to that age.
 
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It still does no good to society to put the mother of 4 children into jail for a "crime" with no victims.

I disagree strongly. It does plenty of good to the community at large to put this lady through the judicial process, and, if found guilty, punish her accordingly. Examples:

1. A deterrent to others: If every person who commits statutory rape or lude offenses with a minor spent, say, a minimum of 6 months in jail (and not a fluffy jail), you can see that there would be more deterrents to doing that activity by those tempted to do so. We can't know how much of a deterrent, but even if it's only a little, it's worth it.
2. The offender will be more likely to think twice, once released, before doing it again if time #1 lead to a horrible experience.
3. One of government's valid, God-given roles is to punish evil. When it does so, right and good order is upheld. There are so many dumb things government does, let's applaud what they get right.
4. A criminal record prevents this lady, if guilty, from getting future jobs that involve working with children. If guilty, she should also be placed on the sex offender registry and endure those consequences as well.
5. It demonstrates to the kids of the school (including the minor involved) in a very strong way, that what happened was not OK, and this will help them to develop a stronger sense of right and wrong as they walk toward adulthood.

I could go on . . .
 

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I don't use snap chat can you use pics already taken and then send them on Snap chat or do they have to be taken on that platform and sent immediately? If it's the 1st way I could see how it happened with out the husbands knowledge.

Yes you can send pic and videos from your camera roll.
 
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A 14 year old is not a helpless child. I know some parents want to act like they are completely helpless until the age of 18 and then they are completely lost adults. There was no victim here and therefore there is no crime.

I also don't think people should be thrown in jail for simply using some specific chemicals. But that's another thread.

14 is just too young regardless of how formed this kid is.
 
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SpokaneCY

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A 14 year old is definitely helpless in a mental frame of mind kind of way. Lots of challenges and changes at that point in their lives and they need adults to be adults, not predators with them. Lots of 14 year olds seem like they are ready for adulthood, yet in reality are bouncing back and forth with their mental and physical changes. To say that there is NO victim, is absolutely absurd.........maddening and very frightening. Many 14 year olds are 8th graders, good grief.

I wonder if he was wearing his Star Wars jammies when they had sex.
 

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