Yeah, I was struggling to find the right mix of words. But basically, yes, 2 people screw and that can lead to good or bad consequences - depending on the scenario/timing.
"The Talk" with growing boys
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I have an unsettling feeling that his mom taught him by watching
every time i sit down with a bottle of lotion and kleenexes i have "the talk" with myself about urges
I have an unsettling feeling that his mom taught him by watching
I don’t know about the rest of the guys in line, but I always made him leave the room. It was weird.
Learned a lot by sitting in the back of the school bus...
Agree. I'm pretty sure any kid that is possibly having sex, already knows how babies are made and is at least somewhat aware of STDs. I suppose it's possible they aren't, but I think most 13-14 year olds are well aware.
Make sure he understands which head he should listen to.
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I think it's less about how babies are made and all that now, and more about being conscious of how to be safe ahead of time. If the first time they're thinking about using a condom is 5 seconds before **** is going down then it's way too late and it's just a dice roll at that point.
One and one and one is three...
Hold you in his armchair you can feel his disease...
Hold you in his armchair you can feel his disease...
The emotional complexity of it is something to consider too. Some people bond stronger than others and it can take its toll on the psyche.
Why the F would I have the talk when I could just send my kids to school on the bus?
We have 2 daughters. When the oldest was getting to that age, and we got a letter from the school indicating that they were going to start discussing the human body and get into reproduction - around 4th or 5th grade IIRC, my wife found a decent book/pamphlet on the subject. We had her read that 1st and then had a talk to determine if she understood what was being said and to let her ask questions. The 1st thing out of her mouth was "OMG, that is disgusting! Do you guys still do it, I mean more than just the 2 times?" There was a decent discussion after that.
I go on a trip with mine between the 5th and 6th grade years, just me and them, that's when we transition from Elementary to Middle school. We talk sex, porn, consent, all that stuff. It sucks balls, I don't enjoy it, I know they probably know a lot of it already. I tell them it's important you hear me say it so you know there is nothing I don't know and they can feel comfortable discussing things with me.
Then I push it back in the memory hole and try to forget any of it actually happened.
Then I push it back in the memory hole and try to forget any of it actually happened.
Health class freshman year of high school was a whole lot more than 1 + 1 = 3. "Ladies if he says the condom doesn't fit, well who wants to volunteer?" Teacher proceeds to wrap a condom down someone's entire forearm. Not to mention watching a full on birth, that left scars for awhile.
That's the stuff I mostly talk about. I mean mechanically it's not that tough to figure out, people been doing it for thousands of years. I talk about how they need to make sure they are emotionally aware of what it does, how it's very important to respect the girls around them, that guys often think about physically protecting females around them but that likely isn't going to be a situation they find themselves in. How they are much more likely to be in a situation where they need to emotionally protect a female around this and how they can do that.
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