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What is your ONE regret in life (so far)?
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So many "one regret" moments, I don't know if I have an immediate answer.
Balancing that, I'm sure I've done things and made a few decisions that were good, but I take them for granted.
Related to a recurring theme in this thread, I wish I had documented more of my dad's stories of youth, army service and early years of farming. We talked a lot about it "informally" as we worked together and also during leisure time. So I have a lot in my memory, but I didn't document it in writing or record it.
As I say that, I still have opportunity to document some of my Mom's life (she's almost 91), although we live hours apart and we don't gather frequently -- [but, Internet!]
For some reason, I have a mindset that immediate/practical stuff is more "essential" so I don't make enough effort to focus on those broader-picture elements (and I like history a lot, personal and general).
Balancing that, I'm sure I've done things and made a few decisions that were good, but I take them for granted.
Related to a recurring theme in this thread, I wish I had documented more of my dad's stories of youth, army service and early years of farming. We talked a lot about it "informally" as we worked together and also during leisure time. So I have a lot in my memory, but I didn't document it in writing or record it.
As I say that, I still have opportunity to document some of my Mom's life (she's almost 91), although we live hours apart and we don't gather frequently -- [but, Internet!]
For some reason, I have a mindset that immediate/practical stuff is more "essential" so I don't make enough effort to focus on those broader-picture elements (and I like history a lot, personal and general).
I regret not going to my Dad’s retirement party. I had just switched jobs within Ford and I didn’t feel comfortable asking for time off to travel back to Iowa. I saw him frequently but I should have been there that specific day. He worked for the DOT for 45 years, he deserved me being there.
Hahaha. For me, it was Erica. We got to "3rd base" countless times my Senior Year in 2004/2005, but I was such a hopeless romantic, that I wanted to "save myself" for someone I was in love with.
Yeah.... That didn't happen, and then took the first chance I got on Monday, November 20, 2006.
You and me both. It wasn't just a case of not caring, but also fear.
Look at me now though. I LOVE cars (JDM/KDM in particular), I will die on the hill of my long held belief of two doors is all you need, love just casually going for a drive as it's so relaxing and therapeutic.
Reading a few military responses, in hindsight, I wish I had joined the Air Force.
Again, just a small regret.
I worked at the Casey's across from Camp Dodge from 2013 - 2019.
It was literally my "last day" on Friday, August 19, 2016 (I was starting my IT career at Dell the next Monday, and is still the best job I have ever had. Hell, I loved that job so much, I would go in after hours a few times as I was so bored at home that I decided to go in. That's when you know you love your job).
Anyway, one of my Camp Dodge regulars told me about "3 years on, 5 years off" meaning you were Active for 3 years, and the next 5 you were Reserve/essentially National Guard.
He told me that, and my mind was blown.
I was recruited in High School as everyone was, and even had a Marine come to my house to talk about things.
I felt 4 years was too long of a commitment, not too mention I was scared of being deployed to Iraq/Afghanistan due to what was going on at the time.
But "3 Years on, 5 Years off" would have been PERFECT for me, and had I known, I would have happily enlisted in the Air Force.
Not too mention all the stories I had heard about basic/boot camp from my best friends (all of them except one had enlisted in the Army).
I have always wanted to at least go through Basic just to see what it is like, to say I did, and also form those bonds and stories.
Again, just a small regret.
I worked at the Casey's across from Camp Dodge from 2013 - 2019.
It was literally my "last day" on Friday, August 19, 2016 (I was starting my IT career at Dell the next Monday, and is still the best job I have ever had. Hell, I loved that job so much, I would go in after hours a few times as I was so bored at home that I decided to go in. That's when you know you love your job).
Anyway, one of my Camp Dodge regulars told me about "3 years on, 5 years off" meaning you were Active for 3 years, and the next 5 you were Reserve/essentially National Guard.
He told me that, and my mind was blown.
I was recruited in High School as everyone was, and even had a Marine come to my house to talk about things.
I felt 4 years was too long of a commitment, not too mention I was scared of being deployed to Iraq/Afghanistan due to what was going on at the time.
But "3 Years on, 5 Years off" would have been PERFECT for me, and had I known, I would have happily enlisted in the Air Force.
Not too mention all the stories I had heard about basic/boot camp from my best friends (all of them except one had enlisted in the Army).
I have always wanted to at least go through Basic just to see what it is like, to say I did, and also form those bonds and stories.
I have always been loyal a fault, and that has caused some "what if" or regret over the years. Right out of college it was difficult to land a job in my chosen field as there just was not a lot of openings. I finally got hired at a place I really did not want to be at, but the people around me were good. After a few months, I got a call from a place I really wanted to work at. They had misplaced my resume, test scores etc. originally and I never even so much as got a call for an interview. They offered me the job after a phone interview. I did not take it because in my mind my current employer had invested time, money and effort into training me and I needed to stay to repay that to them. Terrible financial decision for me, but met a ton of great people and networked well. Secondly, I regret not moving out of rural Iowa sooner. I had no idea the opportunities available outside of NEIA. I still love the state and coming home to visit but my portfolio would look a whole lot better if I would have left after college. Silver linings on that front too since my parents were able to see their grandkids often and formed a great bond with them that still continues today.
One of the times when I hurt my wife’s feelings through stupidity or negligence. Not a specific thing.
Maybe that I didn’t play more sports. Not for my own success, I wasn’t a good enough athlete. But because now I coach a lot and I’d be better at it if I had more playing experiences and more experiences being coached.
Maybe that I didn’t play more sports. Not for my own success, I wasn’t a good enough athlete. But because now I coach a lot and I’d be better at it if I had more playing experiences and more experiences being coached.
Not managing my anxiety issues earlier. Would have saved so much trouble.
Rushing into my first job offer out of college. I didn't want to be unemployed after graduating so I accepted the first offer I had. Should have been more patient. That first job really sets the tone for your life-long career/resume. Hated my first job for two years. Stayed in fear of ruining my resume, looking like a job hopper. Got the courage to make a change and found a great employer who offered me a new path. I've been with them happily for 10+ years now.
Today is my 40th. No surprise I have a back ache. I regret never having gone back packing the world.
Here is a regret: I passed through Ames w/o knowing anything about The Ames Laboratory or this man, who passed during my time in Ames: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frank_Spedding
