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Nothing like a breakup with a friend with many mutual friends to let you know who your true friends are (and aren't). Found at least one in each category just today.

This can really suck, but in time can also turn out to be the best thing. You want friends that have your back, not just ones that are there when it's convenient for them.

A few years ago I considered myself very close friends with a girl I worked with, her name was Ashley. We'd always hang out, go shopping, go drinking, worked at two different companies together. I helped her pass her securities exam, counseled her through dating a few ****** monsters, and she eventually asked me to be her maid of honor when she got engaged to her boyfriend.

I started coming up with ideas for her, letting her kind of be a bridezilla, until one day (which I was already having a bad day) she sent me a text asking if I'd be okay with not being a bridesmaid because she changed her mind and decided her future SIL needed to be in the wedding. I went from maid of honor/bff to can't even talk to me in person. There was the obligatory "I hope this doesn't ruin our friendship" text to her pretending I didn't exist at work.

In the end, it was for the best. I don't want people in my life that can't be mature and talk to me to my face, out that are completely selfish.
 
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This can really suck, but in time can also turn out to be the best thing. You want friends that have your back, not just ones that are there when it's convenient for them.

A few years ago I considered myself very close friends with a girl I worked with, her name was Ashley. We'd always hang out, go shopping, go drinking, worked at two different companies together. I helped her pass her securities exam, counseled her through dating a few ****** monsters, and she eventually asked me to be her maid of honor when she got engaged to her boyfriend.

I started coming up with ideas for her, letting her kind of be a bridezilla, until one day (which I was already having a bad day) she sent me a text asking if I'd be okay with not being a bridesmaid because she changed her mind and decided her future SIL needed to be in the wedding. I went from maid of honor/bff to can't even talk to me in person. There was the obligatory "I hope this doesn't ruin our friendship" text to her pretending I didn't exist at work.

In the end, it was for the best. I don't want people in my life that can't be mature and talk to me to my face, out that are completely selfish.


that is cold.
 

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Happy Birthday, train!


Today Queen Elizabeth II is now the longest-reigning monarch in English history. Just passed Queen Victoria.

Female queens FTW!
 

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First World Problems: parent version (apologies for the long post)

00 posted something the other day that struck home a bit. He mentioned hearing the neighbor talking to his kid about not wanting to pay for his kid's softball if she wasn't going to try. It sounded harsh, but it got me thinking.

Youth sports used to be designed to allow kids to have fun, exercise, and learn the sport. Anymore, they are so competitive that unless you get your kid in something early, they are already behind other kids, unless your kid is just really athletically gifted and catches on quick.

There are rec options out there, but once kids reach a level to try out for their school teams, I'd bet a good chunk of those kids miss out on making their school teams. No stats to back that up, just my guess. I have two nephews recently try out for their high school soccer teams. The club nephew made it, the rec nephew missed.

I know there's a balance that's needed and so many parents go over the top projecting themselves on their kids. However, what about the parents that want their kid to have the opportunity to go farther in a sport? When do you push and when do you stop?

There's been times when my daughter says, "Can we just skip practice today?" I want to say "Sure" because she practices twice a week and then has games on weekends. It seems like a lot for her age. But then I feel like I'd be doing her a disservice by not teaching her to follow thru with committing to a team. I know if I cave in once, I'll get the "but last week, you said it was ok" argument.

I constantly ask her if she has fun and she says yes. I tell her that if at any time it stops being fun, I want her to tell me. She keeps insisting that she loves it, even stating that she wanted to change her room to soccer themed. I guess I'm looking for opinions on anyone that has gone through it with their own kids or have gone through it being the kid.
If your kid is saying that she is having fun, she probably is. Once you notice that she's not very engaged in the game on a regular basis, it may be time to stop.

We have generally made our kids go to practices. That being said, until they get to the high school level, we will skip practice if there is something else on our schedule that seems more important. Also, there are sports that you can start a bit later if the kids still want to participate competitively. Tennis, swimming, cross-country and track are some examples.

If you emphasize having fun, trying hard and being respectful - those are the things that are most important at that age. It seems like you understand this.

Parenting seems to be a constant balancing act. You are always trying to find the balance between pushing and rewarding, keeping the kids engaged but allowing them free time and challenging them but not frustrating them (too much).

Good luck and keep on keeping on.
 

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I'm trying to cut down on eating out because of the calories involved. But I only have a microwave and a minifridge at this particular hotel. What are some ideas on stuff to eat/prepare?
Bring a cage with a couple of chickens. You can have fresh eggs every morning. You may want to pull out the yolk from any more than the first egg. This will eliminate the cholesterol and most of the fat (and therefore the caloric) content.
 

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anybody have a Linden tree? Or a yellow fall tree? Prefer something nice and big, going toward the back of the lot.

Trying to do something besides maple since we already have a couple of those we want to do....and looks like pretty much all of IA is the same zone as here.
 

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And just out of curiosity....


WHERE THE HECK IS EVERYBODY???

Sleeping in the day after my champagne and rhubarb experiments. My hypothesis on rhubarb countering hangovers seems to be at least partially true. Hangover is barely DEFCON 3, maybe only a 4.
 

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I'm trying to cut down on eating out because of the calories involved. But I only have a microwave and a minifridge at this particular hotel. What are some ideas on stuff to eat/prepare?

* I wanted to respond before catching up, so if I repeat options sorry*

Yogurt,
especially Greek. Lots of protein not much fat. Fruit like apples, oranges, peaches, grapes, bananas will keep well either in frig or out. Veggies like tomatoes, bell peppers, carrots. Maybe their grocery store has small amounts of already cut up things. Cheese sticks. Jerky (though salty has good protein). Peanut butter and Jelly. Nuts.


Do they have a sandwich place? Or we get chicken nuggets from Burger King and they aren't too bad if you have them once a week.
 
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