Random Thoughts 18: The Year of Fire

[BoxsterCy]

Ay yi yi...I HAVE to vent.
Oldest son (biologically his, lived with his mom in Washington and was in college when we got married) is visiting for a few days. Left his wife & daughters home and came alone.
He was telling us that his older daughter E now has a boyfriend (we saw a picture on FB of son, DIL, granddaughters and a random guy...that was him). He told us that he laid out all the rules to this kid about whether or not he could even be "friends" with E. No talking after 10 p and a whole host of other rules. Mind you, this isn't even about dating E, it's just about being friends with her, with a possibility of maybe dating later on. We thought he was kidding. Then he told us the kid called him and asked his permission to DATE E, and son gave him a whole NEW list of rules, including no canoodling, no possibility of marriage until she has graduated, no talking to any other girls if he's E's boyfriend, yadda yadda. That was when we realized he was dead serious and very proud of himself as a "good dad". Here's the kicker. She's 20 years old. She's going to a satellite branch of the UW because he can't handle the idea of her going to a school NOT named University of Washington. She's living at home to save money. She has never even gone to camp without him or DIL there as a counselor. This is the granddaughter that decided to NOT go on a cruise with us, and I'm beginning to get a clearer picture of why now.

Did I mention that he's already telling younger daughter where she can/can't go to school? The program she's interested in is not offered at the UW. But he would rather have her go out of state to school than go to the instate school where it's offered...WAZZU. He's THAT immature, and he hates WAZZU. Something he has always made cristal clear to me. When he was telling us about that part, he says "well, you should KNOW why I don't want S to go there", and I just looked him dead on and told him "No, I really don't. Why don't you tell me?". And he said, "Because it's...WAZZU..." and Lew added "and not the Udub?" Son says "exactly". Lew and I just looked at him. I finally said look, dad, you have to let go of them at some time. Don't you think S should be able to choose where she wants to go?" And he said "but she's looking at Rutgers, and some other school out east, and she's never even been there. Why would she want to go clear out there?" It was all I could do to not go get a mirror to hold up to him.

I really pity those girls - he has such an iron grip on them. E is very much a people-pleaser and daddy's girl. S is more of a rebel. I hope it works out for those girls, but I think son and S are in for some rough times - she's just 16, and a sophmore.

My mood has NOT been improved by the fact that he is very dismissive toward me, and interrupts me or ignores me when the three of us are having a conversation. I finally said I needed to go sit with my heating pad, and came upstairs. They're down there playing with the 3D printer. Is it Saturday yet?

JFC.

 

[ImJustKCClone]

I do plan on wearing my "VOTE" t-shirt tomorrow. The one with "books...raised fist...uterus...rainbow E".
Lew applauds this idea (we laughed about it earlier, and he said "I wish you would!". I love my husband. *evil grin*

 

[BCClone]

I do plan on wearing my "VOTE" t-shirt tomorrow. The one with "books...raised fist...uterus...rainbow E".
Lew applauds this idea (we laughed about it earlier, and he said "I wish you would!". I love my husband. *evil grin*

Yell random things while he is talking, like look at that bird, Wooooo!, I think it’s raining, (and I mean loudly yell). It confuses them and they lose their thoughts. They may think you’re drunk but does it matter.

 

[madguy30]

He is visiting US. No escape.

Maybe create a huge list of rules to follow while visiting.

 

[BCClone]

Maybe create a huge list of rules to follow while visiting.

I don’t know if I’d want my daughter dating someone who would agree to a long list of rules to first be their friend and then another list to date. Seems like it would be a no backbone type of kid.

 

[BCClone]

Cripes, some people spend money asap. A classmate of my wife is driving a Lexus. Most likely not new but when you can’t maintain basic needs, why the F would you buy a Lexus.

I believe the statement that rich people stay rich by acting poor and poor people stay poor by acting rich.

Buy a flipping Chevy Malibu and fix that boarded up window on your house.

 

[CycloneErik]

Cripes, some people spend money asap. A classmate of my wife is driving a Lexus. Most likely not new but when you can’t maintain basic needs, why the F would you buy a Lexus.

I believe the statement that rich people stay rich by acting poor and poor people stay poor by acting rich.

Buy a flipping Chevy Malibu and fix that boarded up window on your house.

Probably a low APR, so it's all good.

 

[madguy30]

Cripes, some people spend money asap. A classmate of my wife is driving a Lexus. Most likely not new but when you can’t maintain basic needs, why the F would you buy a Lexus.

I believe the statement that rich people stay rich by acting poor and poor people stay poor by acting rich.

Buy a flipping Chevy Malibu and fix that boarded up window on your house.

Kind of similar:

'Don't go out 3-4 nights a week so you can get better camping gear' didn't go over very well with a friend a few years ago who was complaining he didn't have enough money for better gear.

Same with 'eating healthy is too expensive and takes too long so we spend 2-3 hours going out to eat a $20/person meal instead'.

 

[dmclone]

Cripes, some people spend money asap. A classmate of my wife is driving a Lexus. Most likely not new but when you can’t maintain basic needs, why the F would you buy a Lexus.

I believe the statement that rich people stay rich by acting poor and poor people stay poor by acting rich.

Buy a flipping Chevy Malibu and fix that boarded up window on your house.

I couldn't believe how many people on reddit we're getting excited over Tesla offering a 0.99% auto loan. Yes, you're not paying a lot of interest but you're still borrowing a lot of money on a $50k+ vehicle. Thee weren't the type of people that we're saying "Instead of paying in cash with my HYSA, I'll borrow". It was more like "I can finally afford to buy a Tesla!".

 

[ScottyP]

My wife is going back to school to get her teaching certificate. She started some courses this week and already seems in way over her head. She tried study and work on her assignments early this morning but the three year old and one year old boys woke up at 6am and stress has been really high for both of us. She was focused on her final paper last night instead of this week's assignments that I'm not sure she will get done.

I don't want her to give up on this yet, but I'm trying to grasp the financial implications if she were to drop out. If she drops her classes, would she still pay full tuition for the summer session?

 

[Ms3r4ISU]

My wife is going back to school to get her teaching certificate. She started some courses this week and already seems in way over her head. She tried study and work on her assignments early this morning but the three year old and one year old boys woke up at 6am and stress has been really high for both of us. She was focused on her final paper last night instead of this week's assignments that I'm not sure she will get done.

I don't want her to give up on this yet, but I'm trying to grasp the financial implications if she were to drop out. If she drops her classes, would she still pay full tuition for the summer session?

Depends on the school's rules. And I really feel sorry for her (and you.) That's a LOT to work on and work with by itself. As an add-on to having a family with young ones needing more care, that's a real plateful.

 

[wxman1]

My wife is going back to school to get her teaching certificate. She started some courses this week and already seems in way over her head. She tried study and work on her assignments early this morning but the three year old and one year old boys woke up at 6am and stress has been really high for both of us. She was focused on her final paper last night instead of this week's assignments that I'm not sure she will get done.

I don't want her to give up on this yet, but I'm trying to grasp the financial implications if she were to drop out. If she drops her classes, would she still pay full tuition for the summer session?

Man, thinking of you. My wife went back to school for nursing when our older two were 4 and 1. Thankfully it was a very structured program and she was able to make the time to study and whatnot but it was rough. I have also slowly been working through an MBA program and again the structure is the key to success IMO.

 

[BCClone]

My wife is going back to school to get her teaching certificate. She started some courses this week and already seems in way over her head. She tried study and work on her assignments early this morning but the three year old and one year old boys woke up at 6am and stress has been really high for both of us. She was focused on her final paper last night instead of this week's assignments that I'm not sure she will get done.

I don't want her to give up on this yet, but I'm trying to grasp the financial implications if she were to drop out. If she drops her classes, would she still pay full tuition for the summer session?

It’s rough, I went back for MIS when we had young ones and I had 3 jobs. I burnt out and quit halfway through the degree. If she’s not sure about teaching, she can get that sub license and see. Schools are desperate for teachers and subs.

 

[BCClone]

So I’m next to @NWICY place and there is this attractive probably 40 year old woman beating on his door. I better go check what going on.

 

[wxman1]

It’s rough, I went back for MIS when we had young ones and I had 3 jobs. I burnt out and quit halfway through the degree. If she’s not sure about teaching, she can get that sub license and see. Schools are desperate for teachers and subs.

I can't recommend this enough. Check the sub rules to see if she already qualifies or what it would take to qualify. You may not make quite as much as a certified teacher but you will make decent money with most districts and be able to make your own schedule.

 

[ScottyP]

It’s rough, I went back for MIS when we had young ones and I had 3 jobs. I burnt out and quit halfway through the degree. If she’s not sure about teaching, she can get that sub license and see. Schools are desperate for teachers and subs.

She is already a full-time substitute for a school district in the area. Pay isn't great, but neither is a full-time teacher. She actually called me and mentioned that it might be better to only do one class at a time and draw it out a bit longer. She is currently taking three classes (one English Composition class that is self-paced, one online human development course and a diversity course that meets once a week. She might drop one of the classes (likely the online course due to its heavy assignment load).

 

[BCClone]

She is already a full-time substitute for a school district in the area. Pay isn't great, but neither is a full-time teacher. She actually called me and mentioned that it might be better to only do one class at a time and draw it out a bit longer. She is currently taking three classes (one English Composition class that is self-paced, one online human development course and a diversity course that meets once a week. She might drop one of the classes (likely the online course due to its heavy assignment load).

I would say this is the way to go.

 

[BCClone]

So I’m next to @NWICY place and there is this attractive probably 40 year old woman beating on his door. I better go check what going on.

Apparently another one of @NWICY harem. Dude,let these women know when you won’t be around for a bit, they get concerned you don’t want anything to do with them when you arent around.

 

[CloneLawman]

JFC.

 

[Cyclones_R_GR8]

Cripes, some people spend money asap. A classmate of my wife is driving a Lexus. Most likely not new but when you can’t maintain basic needs, why the F would you buy a Lexus.

I believe the statement that rich people stay rich by acting poor and poor people stay poor by acting rich.

Buy a flipping Chevy Malibu and fix that boarded up window on your house.

I've also noticed about people that are always broke that they always seem to take vacations from not working. And for some reason they can always afford a lot of tattoos which, if done at a real tattoo parlor, aren't cheap.