Ghosting

[isufbcurt]

Sorry for being a jerk in the thread last night. This was a much more severe case of ghosting than I hear typically.

Also, I'm in a f'd up relationship situation where my ex is living with me and it's been difficult getting her to move out...so ghosting sounds lovely. Maybe one of you nice guys will take her off my hands, she used to be a cheerleader at UNI.

Pics? I might be willing to help (at least get her out of the house for a few hours at a time)

 

[cyclonespiker33]

Also, I'm in a f'd up relationship situation where my ex is living with me and it's been difficult getting her to move out...so ghosting sounds lovely. Maybe one of you nice guys will take her off my hands, she used to be a cheerleader at UNI.

It's been over 2 hours and you haven't posted a pic of her yet. What's the deal?

 

[isufbcurt]

It's been over 2 hours and you haven't posted a pic of her yet. What's the deal?

Although she was a UNI cheerleader, maybe see was the cheerleader that raised the squads GPA

 

[BWRhasnoAC]

There's a lot of issues with dating apps. This is certainly one of them. I think it's hard for everyone though. Studies that show 60% of swipes in favor go to 10% of guys. If you're not in that 10% (and 90% of us aren't) it sucks.

And the ladies that get 200 swipes in favor per day, a lot of them are guys who swipe right on everyone because that's what the first statistic leads to. A large percentage are only swiping right because she has lady parts, not out of genuine interest. It leads to a lot of swiping on the wrong person, which leads to unhealthy dates or relationships, which leads to the ghosting that started this thread.

Plus they're chatting with potentially like 40 guys and it leads to really superficial conversations that end up just disheartening both parties. I hate dating so much.

 

[BWRhasnoAC]

Although she was a UNI cheerleader, maybe see was the cheerleader that raised the squads GPA

18 to 80; blind, crippled or crazy. If she don't walk I'll drag her!

Can you believe I'm still single?

 

[Cy$]

I've been out of the job market a long time. I didn't realize you didn't get flush letters after interviewing any more.

Some do, some don't. It's mostly of the form "We'll reach out to you if we want to pursue next steps". If you don't hear back, it's a no. It saves them time from their automated system telling you no

 

[jcyclonee]

What if you piss your wife off and she refuses to talk to you? Is that ghosting? If so, I’m currently being ghosted.

I'm ghosted more than I'm not ghosted and when I'm not ghosted I'm always thinking, "I wonder what seemingly innocent thing I'm going to do next that gets me ghosted." Like @madguy30 said, that's a normal relationship.

 

[BoxsterCy]

At my age if I don't hear from someone I start to think they might have died.

Seriously, can't image just ghosting someone you were in an actual dating relationship with. Not hearing or getting a response from someone you've only been on a few dates with isn't exactly new to the 21st century, the only new thing is assigning it a name "Ghosting". The added thing is rather than just ignoring phone calls you ignore texts etc.

I have slow ghosted a few friends, not dating friends but old ISU friends. They just got so far down the crazy conspiracy rabbit hole I just couldn't be around them anymore. If they asked I could explain it to them but they won't understand and just get mad so what's the point. Better to let them think I've gone hermit life (which I have not).

 

[BWRhasnoAC]

At my age if I don't hear from someone I start to think they might have died.

Seriously, can't image just ghosting someone you were in an actual dating relationship with. Not hearing or getting a response from someone you've only been on a few dates with isn't exactly new to the 21st century, the only new thing is assigning it a name "Ghosting". The added thing is rather than just ignoring phone calls you ignore texts etc.

I have slow ghosted a few friends, not dating friends but old ISU friends. They just got so far down the crazy conspiracy rabbit hole I just couldn't be around them anymore. If they asked I could explain it to them but they won't understand and just get mad so what's the point. Better to let them think I've gone hermit life (which I have not).

Some women prefer ghosting because they don't want to chance a violent or unpleasant response from the man.

Men who ghost are probably just running all around town which is nothing new.