First time parent advice, tips, tricks, etc.

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  1. cowgirl836

    cowgirl836 Well-Known Member

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    our daycare teaches baby sign language and it's been so useful. He could sign for milk starting like 9/10 months or so? Then more, all done, and please. Don't think he's ever done thank you. But super useful and like you said, helps get out some of their frustration at being unable to communicate effectively.
     
  2. NickTheGreat

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    Baby sign is great until your kid is signing something you don't know. :confused: :D
     
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    Our daycare apparently does as well. However, my daughter got by with the "Oddjob" method of pointing and grunting for getting something she wanted. She's talking more, which is nice, but still plenty of points and grunts.
     
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  4. cowgirl836

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    or makes up their own. Ours has a very specific gesture he makes for "grandma". It doesn't match anything for ASL or baby SL and daycare swears they haven't taught family beyond mom and dad. We have no idea where he got it but every time we say grandma he does it.
     
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  5. Ms3r4ISU

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    Tell me so I can use it ;)
     
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    I agreed, but then I realized my sign would probably have to be for great-grandma!

    No, not yet. It's just that the kids are all done having more kids, and the youngest is 7, so they're all communicating verbally pretty well at this point.
     
  7. cowgirl836

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    Ha! He puts one arm out and sort of taps his forearm with the other hand

    I'd say it's closest to "walk" on here except the right arm goes up and down tapping the forearm instead of walking.

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  8. jpfreeman

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    My advice would be to not only have a schedule for the kid (like someone else already said and I agree with), but to also have a sleep schedule for you and your wife. Sleep deprivation is actually a form a torture and with a newborn someone will probably be up feeding it or changing it every 2-3 hours for the first 6 months (unless the kid is born big and can handle more formula at each feeding). My wife and I had shifts where each of us was on and the other off and that allowed us to get more hours of consecutive sleep. If I remember correctly we worked it out so that each person had 6 hours of consecutive sleep. That went a looong way towards both of us keeping our sanity.

    Also - if you have a girl remember - "front to back". So when you are changing her wipe the poo from the front towards the back of her so that there is less chance of her getting a uti with poo getting in the lady part. Kind of gross to write about, but important.

    Lastly - take advantage of friends and family members that want to watch the baby (assuming you think they are experienced/trustworthy). Don't feel like you and your wife have to do everything. Everyone has help raising their kids and most people actually like to watch babies (especially if it just for a couple of hours). So take advantage of that in order to keep your sanity.
     
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  9. derpyherky

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    I'd like to take this time to thank everyone who had provided feedback and advice.
    My list of items to buy has been populated with many recommendations from this thread.
     
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    Some of us (okay, mostly the grandmothers among us) demand updates! ;)
    Seriously though, I hope your wife has a healthy, happy pregnancy, an easy delivery, and LOTS of pampering from her devoted spouse. Pssssst: That's you...don't drop the ball!
     
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  11. LancelotClone

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    Child #1 you will freak out about everything.

    Child #2 you will catch putting dirt in their mouth, and you will hope it eats enough dirt that you can skip feeding it a meal.

    Trust in this general order: Yourself, parents of multiple kids older than 3, parents of a single child older than 3, parents of a single child under 3, those that give the most advice.

    Enjoy every moment, because it only lasts a moment.
     
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  12. CySmurf

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    Do you have any family members who would buy your season tickets from you for 4-5 years until you're in a better financial position. Hate to see you lose your season tickets now that the team is starting to flourish!
     
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    does your kid not talk? Am i severely overestimating how old he is?
     
  14. cowgirl836

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    ya. 16 months. He's got a few words now. Understands a lot but not talking much yet.
     
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    I'll be a new dad in July. Any book recommendations?

    Appreciate reading this thread
     
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  16. derpyherky

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    these are a few books for new dads that I’ve had a couple of people recommend. They’re pretty cheap on amazon.

    Be Prepared: Be Prepared

    The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-Shooting Tips, and Advice on First-Year Maintenance

    We’re Pregnant! The First-Time Dad’s Pregnancy Handbook
     
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    I said it before in this thread, but the schedule in Mom's on Call has been great for us. I was skeptical before we bought it, but it has been worth every cent.

    Our 8 week old now sleeps from 8 PM to 6 AM and after week 2 never woke up more than once a night.
     
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    Be Prepared is a solid one that most on a sports chat site would get a kick out of I think. It basically touts itself as a fun (still useful) tips/tricks/MacGyver-like hacks/humor approach to raising the little one. The Amazon description bullets include:

    • change a baby at a packed sports stadium
    • create a decoy drawer full of old wallets, remote controls, and cell phones to throw baby off the scent of your real gear
    • stay awake (or at least upright) at work
    • babyproof a hotel room in four minutes flat
    • construct an emergency diaper out of a towel, a sock, and duct tape

    I didn't care for The Expectant Father: The Ultimate Guide for Dads-To-Be. It definitely had some good information about what's happening leading up to the birth, but had too much talk about dad's feelings/emotions for my liking.
     
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    Hero: Being the Strong Father Your Child Needs by Meg Meeker.

    This book won’t tell you what to do necessarily but will tell you why. Shapes my outlook and helps me stay locked in on my child.
     
  20. cyfan92

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    Appreciate the recommendation everyone!
     

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