I don't suggest telling your daughter she was faking morning sickness for 9 months for attention.I always kind of thought grandparents should be allowed to dictate how much raising of grandkids they do. They raised kids already and had no input in deciding to have grandkids. I'm 1 of 40 grandkids and i spent about 15 minutes total 1 on 1 with my dads parents, they didn't want to be parents again.
Or that you aren't getting your flu shot like was requested because you read online it could weaken your immune system and you never get the flu anyways. Then double down and say you're fine missing baptism and holidays until next summer because he isn't going to know who you are and won't know the difference if you're around or skip it.
And make your son in law tell his wife this because you're too chicken **** to say it. And tell said SIL to tell his wife they do really love her.
My parents (2+ hours away) have been awesome offering to help but keeping their distance. My in laws (10 minutes away) suck.