With people, I really don't hold grudges. With sports, I hold onto them for a looooooong time.
Friday OT #3 - Water Under the Bridge
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Ha, I watched that show! I was more like Emily though. Outwardly sweet but probably going to slash your tires and exact her revenge without you knowing.
This is about where I am now. When I was a little younger I would hold onto grudges, but eventually I realized that actively hating or disliking someone is a waste of precious energy. Let that **** go. It's easier just to move on and keep interactions with that person to an absolute minimum.
I guess if it's someone I'm in contact with often it's pretty hard to hold a grudge. Can't say that I do that...
But yeah, some senior who ****ed with the freshman me in high school? **** that guy forever.
And like someone said, sports grudges forever. Geno Smith? **** that guy forever. Drew Gooden? **** that guy forever. Etc, etc...
But yeah, some senior who ****ed with the freshman me in high school? **** that guy forever.
And like someone said, sports grudges forever. Geno Smith? **** that guy forever. Drew Gooden? **** that guy forever. Etc, etc...
I held grudges years ago for stupid high school relationship petty stuff.
Not sure if it's holding a grudge but if I find someone's behavior to be repeatedly toxic, I tend to avoid being around them or inviting them around.
Prime example is my buddy's GF who exhibits what I find to be toxic and abusive behavior consistently...it came out one night several years ago at my apartment, and since then, no invitations sent. I'm not real big on allowing others' problems becoming mine.
Not sure if it's holding a grudge but if I find someone's behavior to be repeatedly toxic, I tend to avoid being around them or inviting them around.
Prime example is my buddy's GF who exhibits what I find to be toxic and abusive behavior consistently...it came out one night several years ago at my apartment, and since then, no invitations sent. I'm not real big on allowing others' problems becoming mine.
I like what Andy Andrews has to say on forgiveness. You can and should forgive, as forgiveness is about you (and your emotional well being). Trust is about them. You can forgive someone, but that doesn't mean that you should trust them in the future.
So I generally don't hold on to grudges at all, but what happens does affect how I deal with that person in the future.
I don't blame you. You had to miss 4 hours of prime riot time.
I don't generally hold grudges.
That being said, I haven't had a conversation with my brother since 2001. He lied to my parents, spent time in jail for calling in a bomb threat to his employer, stole from his employer at another job and coworkers at still another. He's over 40 years old and delivers pizza part time. So...
That being said, I haven't had a conversation with my brother since 2001. He lied to my parents, spent time in jail for calling in a bomb threat to his employer, stole from his employer at another job and coworkers at still another. He's over 40 years old and delivers pizza part time. So...
This has happened with relationships...an ex that was just plain awful toward me is someone I'm not going to wish awful things for, but is someone that I would never feel a need to associate myself with.
These things take time, but it's a much healthier feeling when you get past all of it.
As I mentioned to Angie in my "F-OT Pitch Session" 
I'm generally non-grudgemental. But as for forgive-and-forget, I'm usually quick to forgive but not some much the forgetting part. That's partly because I seem to remember Lots and Lots of things that have happened, even easily forgotten and somewhat meaningless conversations.
So some things continue to fester long after I have an emotional attachment. Most grudge-worthy examples are with people who have almost no overlap in my life anymore.
I'm still annoyed with an employment/boss situation from about 15 years ago, too complex to explain here. I think about it occasionally because I'm in the same line of work and still know & work with some people who worked for him, so sometimes his name comes into conversation, then all the irritation with the situation floods my frontal cortex, or whatever part of the brain it is where thoughts are formed.
I suppose that qualifies as a grudge.
I'm generally non-grudgemental. But as for forgive-and-forget, I'm usually quick to forgive but not some much the forgetting part. That's partly because I seem to remember Lots and Lots of things that have happened, even easily forgotten and somewhat meaningless conversations.So some things continue to fester long after I have an emotional attachment. Most grudge-worthy examples are with people who have almost no overlap in my life anymore.
I'm still annoyed with an employment/boss situation from about 15 years ago, too complex to explain here. I think about it occasionally because I'm in the same line of work and still know & work with some people who worked for him, so sometimes his name comes into conversation, then all the irritation with the situation floods my frontal cortex, or whatever part of the brain it is where thoughts are formed.
I suppose that qualifies as a grudge.
I think it depends on your formative years and how your parents taught you to behave and react whether it was by their example or passively. I grew up around men in my family and male relatives who held grudges. You never really knew what the problem was though. Major passive aggressiveness that was ingrained into my attitude. Generally speaking, good fit relationships should work well without trying to put square pegs into round holes. Sometimes it's best to just keep your distance if someone just is not a good fit for you, rather than trying to make it work. Life is too short.
Monopoly will do that to a family.
got you beat there. Think it's been 12 on that front. In my defense, they are terrible people. So it's not a grudge, it's cutting toxic people out of your life.
I almost lost my gf and sister because I was cutthroat during a Monopoly game. That was a great day.
Yeah, looking back, she wasnt the greatest person, so in the long run, it is probably for the better. Although, I dont think its as crazy a story as yours.
