I started the conversation with my sisters last night, one in College Station, TX, and the other just southeast of Seattle. We are planning to gather for my father's birthday on the 28th at the Texas sister's home (he lives in an independent apartment group complex near her. He's turning 96. It's a tough decision. On the one hand, we don't have a lot of birthdays left with him and I know that he would be extremely disappointed. On the other hand, with us traveling by car (gas stations, restaurants, hotels) and other sis flying down coming from a county in Washington that is under partial lockdown and being on planes & in airports), I finally had to ask them if they really think it's a good idea to gather in a group with an elderly man right now.
We're still talking.