At least I haven't been tied down since Jr or Sr year of HS... I honestly can't remember it's been so long!:biglaugh:
A little dating advice...
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At least I haven't been tied down since Jr or Sr year of HS... I honestly can't remember it's been so long!:biglaugh:
Understand, how bout this, set date, and then dont talk to her until date. Maybe you weird them out between the two? Say weird things ect? I find that if I stfu I come out a lot better.
Obvious man would tell you:
If a chick can't stay true to her word and go out with you, she's not all that
If a chick can't stay true to her word and go out with you, she's not all that
Just do the same as you would to get a girl a to have a one night stand.
But you call them the next day.
If a girl wants a relationship she will do all she can to make it happen.
The problem with women is that they are all different. Some have that constant need for attention, and some are completely the opposite. The key is to read them correctly, and you will know how to handle the right one...
I've done exactly what you did, in regards to the drunk thing. Skim through the "brekaups" thread, and you'll find it.
Whatever you do, don't contact her until friday. Call her Friday, early on, like 6. If she doesn't answer, just leave a voice mail wondering what she's up to, and to call back later on. If she doesn't call back, maybe text her once later that night when you're going out, just letting her knowing where you're going. If she's interested, she'll make some kind of reciprocation throughout this process. If you hear nothing, move on.
That is what I was thinking, give her a call and if she doesn't answer or call back, then send a text and if she doesn't make an attempt from there, then just say screw it and try to take home a girl from the bars or something!
She did although seem to feel really bad about bailing on me today by using the words "you're going to hate me but I've been sick all week!" Also when I last talked to her on the weekend she said she was going to get cough medicine, so I'll give her the benefit of the doubt on this one! Lastly, she is the one who suggested we hang out this weekend, so hopefully that is a good sign?
women love confidence. judging by your post you lack this. i would start working on this if it can be improved.
I wouldn't read much into it. Seems genuine enough to me. As others have said a simple text would be enough to put the ball in her court. "Hope you are feeling better. ***something about hanging out***. Let me know." Then continue on with your weekend. Either something will happen or it won't.
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also, 2 tips I picked up in school from a great sage:
1) don't meet you future wife at a bar on a monday night. if she is there on monday she's there every night.
2) don't get too serious until you meet her mother. all women seem to eventually turn into something close to their mother both in appearance and behavior.
he had others, if I think of them I will post.
1) don't meet you future wife at a bar on a monday night. if she is there on monday she's there every night.
2) don't get too serious until you meet her mother. all women seem to eventually turn into something close to their mother both in appearance and behavior.
he had others, if I think of them I will post.
This is probably the best advice I could give you. Don't force the issue. Sometimes you're not expecting a relationship and it just happens. Sometimes it's just not meant to be, and sometimes it's a gradual thing. Happens when it happens.
I sometimes find that hanging out casually and getting to know each other is sometimes better than meeting them once and then going on a date. If you just meet them once and then go on a date with them you will be nervous and not act yourself, and vice versa for her. Where as hanging out with them in a casual setting and in groups of people, you get more comfortable around them. If you still feel something after getting to know them, then take them out on a date.
Sounds like your pressing. Go back and revisit your one night stands. Pick the one you were the most attracted to and approach it from an ex-alcohol point of view. Could be the start of a nice relationship or maybe your future wife.
Apparently I'm worse at this than originally thought, based on all the reactions... haha I've only talked to her like 2 times since last Thursday, didn't think that was too much!
Ya you're definitely trying too hard guy. Let **** happen. You want a gf, that's fine. But don't go looking for one. That sounds dumb, especially a few rum and cokes in (gotta love Wednesdays), but it's the truth. Quit looking for a gf and the opportunity will be there sooner than you think.
Try to think of it- not as a "we" thing but more of an "attraction" thing. You need to raise her level of attraction toward you.
Invite her to things- parties, or things that the two of you have in common. However, make sure she knows that if she doesn't get with you- she is going to miss out. In other words, excite her by how care free and fun you are. She will want to have a good time with you!
Next, don't be a *****. Seriously. I am not insulting you in any way, just telling you for future reference. I am no expert, but she doesn't want you to tell her you love her or how you need her. Let her become the *****.
-Be a gentleman
-Stand up for yourself, for her, for what you believe in
"The power of a relationship lies with whomever cares the least"
Worry about the L word when you two get married. You can imply liking her and eventually loving her without actually saying it. Letting the relationship come to you is necessary but not easy. I haven't figured it out either.
Invite her to things- parties, or things that the two of you have in common. However, make sure she knows that if she doesn't get with you- she is going to miss out. In other words, excite her by how care free and fun you are. She will want to have a good time with you!
Next, don't be a *****. Seriously. I am not insulting you in any way, just telling you for future reference. I am no expert, but she doesn't want you to tell her you love her or how you need her. Let her become the *****.
-Be a gentleman
-Stand up for yourself, for her, for what you believe in
"The power of a relationship lies with whomever cares the least"
Worry about the L word when you two get married. You can imply liking her and eventually loving her without actually saying it. Letting the relationship come to you is necessary but not easy. I haven't figured it out either.
I'm kind of regretting starting this thread, I just wanted a few pointers because I have not done the dating thing before (just the drunken hook ups). Now you all think I'm the worst person ever with the ladies
Chances are 90% of the people on here had the same problem as you are having. it just comes with trial and error and getting older.I'm kind of regretting starting this thread, I just wanted a few pointers because I have not done the dating thing before (just the drunken hook ups). Now you all think I'm the worst person ever with the ladies
