This is a very personal issue for me, so I'm going to do my best to stay relaxed, but forgive me if I get a little curt. I'll address a couple of topics brought up in this thread. And for the record, I am an independent centrist.
"Every child should be a wanted child."
My biological parents didn't want me. Does that mean that I should have been aborted? I think your views on abortion are a little different when you get up every morning and look in the mirror and think, "I could have been a pile of parts rotting in a dumpster in La Crosse." It's easy to have a view when there's no face behind it, but I sincerely doubt anybody would have the intestinal fortitude to walk up to me, look me in the eyes, and tell me I don't deserve to live because my parents decided on adoption over abortion.
"People or government shouldn't force moral standards on people"
Isn't that the foundation of the justice system? What if I believe that I should be able to take revenge on anybody who's ever hurt my feelings? If I went out and started butchering people, I'd be labeled as a psychotic, locked up, and in some states, executed, because I'm doing something other people believe is immoral. How is punishing people for theft, rape, or murder not enforcing a moral standard? The only difference is there's a consensus moral belief that it's wrong to steal/rape/kill someone.
On whether the father should have an input...
Why not? The child is (literally) half his by virtue of genetics.
And for the record, I'm not hardcore anti-abortion. I actually consider myself "pro-choice" I believe a woman has a choice whether or not to have sex with the guy, she has a choice to be on the pill, she has a choice to make him wear a condom, and she has a choice to use a morning-after pill. That's FOUR choices. If one gets forceably taken away (rape/incest), I can justify an abortion. For the record, the first brainwaves occur at around 40 days, and the heart starts beating around 25 days. Just because someone is worried they might not be able to provide for a child is no justification to kill it. Give the child to someone who wants it, or God forbid, do the American thing, tighten your belt, pull yourself up by your bootstraps and give it your best shot. I'd rather give the child a fighting chance than what could be called a mercy killing, but that's just IMO.
My issue is with people who think they deserve a mulligan in life. They want to kill their child because "it was an accident" or it's an inconvenience (financial or otherwise) for them. How is that fair? If I get plowed next weekend and kill somebody while drunk driving, should I get off scot-free because I didn't mean to run over them or because they were inconveniently in a crosswalk? This is an issue of causality for me. Cause and effect. Action and reaction. Decision and consequence. Causality is the only absolute truth in this world, and it isn't being given it's respect. The problems of today stem from the fact that we as a society don't want to take responsibility for our actions. We want somebody else to take care of it, somebody to save us, or a freebie from the government. Whatever happened to self-reliance?
Whew...done venting.