Need some advice on a relationship
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What's even more lame are the people who come into threads and post how lame the thread is.
To the OP, it took guts for her to tell you. Appreciate that. You even said yourself how you don't have any experience with these issues so you really don't understand her thought process. Most likely she's wanted to tell you for a long time but didn't know how.
She's being honest with you. Have to respect that. Did you expect her to tell you all her secrets on your first date?
She sounds like a great person to me. Everybody has made some mistakes and she is entitled too as well.
She sounds like a great person to me. Everybody has made some mistakes and she is entitled too as well.
When my wife and I started dating, I realized she had a clown collection. We were already getting serious, and it took me almost six months to tell her how I HATE CLOWNS. Like with a passion. I'm not afraid of them, I just think they are creepy and people who dress like clowns are creepy. I finally came clean on our first trip to Chicago and she ended up laughing about the whole thing(she really wasn't that in to clown either, it was her grandma's collection that she inherited). Anyhow, a little thing like that was super tough to talk about. I couldn't imagine how tough it was for your GF to bring up her past addiction. As long as she wasn't prostituting for dope, or sharing needles, I don't think you have a whole lot worry about. Talk to her about it. Ask questions, but don't grill.
Sounds like it was probably just blow?? Was she a big partier? If it is blow, I think it'd be fine but TBH I'd have reservations about Meth or Heroin or some other hard stuff.
I wouldn't worry, dating a girl who did coke for a while post college, and basically said it was because she didn't know where to channel her energy. She was a former athlete that spent all of her time studying/playing and on the straight and narrow, got done with school, fell into the wrong crowd, and spent 6 months post college partying extremely hard. Basically moved from that city when one of her friends went too far and got in a lot of trouble.
It was really tough for her to tell me, 20 minutes of incoherent crying while she unloaded one night. I'm personally of the opinion that 15-25 year olds are the worlds dumbest people, followed closely by 25-30 year olds. I'm shocked that I made it out alive, so finding out someone else did some dumb **** is reassuring that I did it right.
Good luck, sounds like she's a good time... I guess I'd only be worried if she's still going out and getting wrecked every weekend.
It was really tough for her to tell me, 20 minutes of incoherent crying while she unloaded one night. I'm personally of the opinion that 15-25 year olds are the worlds dumbest people, followed closely by 25-30 year olds. I'm shocked that I made it out alive, so finding out someone else did some dumb **** is reassuring that I did it right.
Good luck, sounds like she's a good time... I guess I'd only be worried if she's still going out and getting wrecked every weekend.
No, she isn't. She'll have 2 or 3 beers with me or when were out with friend but never gets drunk. At least I haven't seen her drunk besides 1 time for a friends wedding. Overall, she's a great time and a great gf. She avoids anyone into drugs or heavy drinking and counsels kids with drug problems of their own (helps them get back into school, find jobs, etc)
