I am obviously doing something drastically wrong. I have never experienced either of these things. Tips?
Adjusting to the "Normal" Life
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I've been out of college for 21.5 years, now, and it's been on huge adventure after another. I think the key is to get out of your secure little rut-filled world and do something because it's interesting.
Frankly, if I told you all the cool stuff I did in the last month, alone, you wouldn't believe me.
You can either face the day with trepidation, or you can wake up excited, wondering what kind of excitement is in store for you, today. And the decisions you make now will make the difference, tomorrow.
Frankly, if I told you all the cool stuff I did in the last month, alone, you wouldn't believe me.
You can either face the day with trepidation, or you can wake up excited, wondering what kind of excitement is in store for you, today. And the decisions you make now will make the difference, tomorrow.
I thought the same thing, but I got a job, married, and bought a house all within 6 weeks of graduation. Talk about growing up in a hurry! I enjoyed the 2 weeks after graduation to work part time and live it up with my friends before "normal" life started. I still see most of my close friends tailgating each fall and at all the weddings that keep happening.
I went back to school and finished this time last year. I'd say buckle up because job searching sux right now if you don't have one lined up. Don't jump on the first opportunity to come along because you are desperate for a job, if you do you may end up stuck somewhere far from where you wanna be doing a job you could care less about and spend the majority of your day chatting on a message board because you have nothing to do and could care less even if you did. Enjoy brother!So I finished college this December and as I was driving home tonight with the majority of my stuff, it hit me that the party is over. Having said that, how did you all deal with the first few weeks away from school and the whole social life that you had for your years in school? :chatterbox::wideeyed:
On a side note, I still see all my college friends pretty regularly and that helps to keep things going in my life. Don't just dismiss them as college friends and go on with your life.
I graduated in 2001. My transition was eased because I started my first job with about 10 other people that were just out of college. That first year was spent doing a lot of college like stuff. Now, those people are still my work friends and we get together to do more 'grownup' stuff now.
As far as my college friends, there was a group of about 10 of us that were close in college (dorm friends). We have done a great job staying close and plan an annual reunion. Make sure and make an effort to stay close....go to every wedding that you can. Plan a weekend, etc. We were lucky that most of the 10 of us didn't get married right away. Now, 8 years out half of us are married and most of those have finally started having kids. I think that will probably change things quite a bit, but hopefully we can still plan our annual reunions.
As far as my college friends, there was a group of about 10 of us that were close in college (dorm friends). We have done a great job staying close and plan an annual reunion. Make sure and make an effort to stay close....go to every wedding that you can. Plan a weekend, etc. We were lucky that most of the 10 of us didn't get married right away. Now, 8 years out half of us are married and most of those have finally started having kids. I think that will probably change things quite a bit, but hopefully we can still plan our annual reunions.
I was married with a kid when I graduated, so I was already fairly "grown up" by the time college ended, but god I was glad when it did. The best part about college was that I didn't have to go, unlike work where they get all uptight and fire-happy when you don't show up for work for 3 days, weak.
So I finished college this December and as I was driving home tonight with the majority of my stuff, it hit me that the party is over. Having said that, how did you all deal with the first few weeks away from school and the whole social life that you had for your years in school? :chatterbox::wideeyed:
Its exciting at first to not have school. But then it gets boring once you are three months into your job. You make it exciting by proving to your work place that you belong there, then you have to bore yourself to death by pretending that you enjoy doing your work everyday. Anyway, it gets better though with meeting new people and getting yourself organized in an changed environment.
I moved to Cedar Rapids after ISU with a job and got married there. Few years later, I realized this is not what we wanted. So I went through a lengthy divorce process (no kids, thank God) and recently moved to St Louis with a better job and heck of a better life. So in summary, you just play as you go. Sometime its fun, and sometime its boring - but its life.
"Happiness comes in small doses. It's a cigarette, or a chocolate chip cookie or a five second orgasm. That's it, OK? You come, you eat the cookie, you smoke the butt, you go to sleep, you get up in the morning and go to ******* work, OK? That's it, end of ******* list." - Dennis Leary
I kept bartending at Cy's for the rest of the summer... kind of one last summer vacation. Then packed up and started my job in Dallas. It was actually a great transition. But definitely felt some "emptiness" as most of my friends had gone on to their jobs and such...
So I finished college this December and as I was driving home tonight with the majority of my stuff, it hit me that the party is over. Having said that, how did you all deal with the first few weeks away from school and the whole social life that you had for your years in school? :chatterbox::wideeyed:
Ah.. just because you're done with college doesn't mean you instantly turn into an old fart. It's hard being away from friends you're close to, but plenty of good times can still be ahead.
If you start out your "real world" life with a "It's all down hill from here" attitude, it won't be much fun at all.
Lots of good advice from everyone! Makes me think I might just have some fun to look forward too yet.
Go out and drink heavily and don't think of ahead more than 15 minutes in advance. Man I miss those days.:smile:
