As a youth and high school sports official, i can not believe how much money there is in youth athletics.
Watch Trophy Kids on Netflix, good/horrifying documentary about youth sports and the lengths parents will go to in terms of pushing or preparing their kids.
That is one way to look at it. The other way is if these players stay on as the star of a lower level team they don't have to develop their game because they can just dominate the league on pure athletic ability rather than skill. I see a lot of really good players with really bad habits because they can overcome those horrible habits by just being faster or stronger - for example - than the other kids. If they are playing against other kids who are just as fast and just as strong they are forced to fix the holes in their play if they want to continue being successful.I
"Select" teams create another set of issues. These are the teams where the players are selected to play on teams due to their ability. These are almost like all-star teams where they only take the best of the best. The issue here is player development. The select team gets the opposite results as you would expect. Kids don't get the chance to develop their skills bcause they are surrounded by players of equal better skill sets. They don't have to get better or fine tune their skills. Also they miss out on a chance to be a leader. Many articles point out that had they stayed with their home based team, the player would have been forced to continually develop their skills and become a leader to make up for the shortcomings of their teammate. This idea was mentioned in many of the articles about US soccer phenom Christian Pulisic and how he was raised.
We just started Fall soccer for my 6 y/o and we have 2 other kids that are doing multiple sports (1 hockey, 1 baseball). It is 4-on-4 soccer and we only have 6 kids on the team so it really screws everyone else when their kids are going to miss. I have no idea why you would put a 6-7 year old in two sports at once.
I can assume this is only going to get worse as they get older.
That is one way to look at it. The other way is if these players stay on as the star of a lower level team they don't have to develop their game because they can just dominate the league on pure athletic ability rather than skill. I see a lot of really good players with really bad habits because they can overcome those horrible habits by just being faster or stronger - for example - than the other kids. If they are playing against other kids who are just as fast and just as strong they are forced to fix the holes in their play if they want to continue being successful.
I have also seen a lot of "star" players who are terrible leaders. They think the only way to lead is to do everything themselves rather than pulling each other up. If you are on a select team and you try to do that the other team is going to find the hole you left while you are neglecting your responsibilities trying to do too much.
I don't think there is one right answer in this. The select teams are playing other select teams so they are facing top competition game in and game out as well as that competition in practice.
And for the record, I don't have, and never have had, a kid playing at the select level.
And what happens to the kid that was undersized at 8 who quit playing baseball, soccer, football, basketball, etc. because he had developed as fast as the rest of his teammates?
The problem with the set up of select teams is they are SELECT. A year or two of playing with the same kids, hanging out with the same families the likelihood that a kid is going to leave the team to open up a spot for a kid that might be better then them is slim to none. If you do have try outs than you are pissing off parents that have been on a team for a long time.
It's stupid. It's a game, at any age below 12 it should be about having fun, trying your best, development, and enjoying playing a sport with other kids their age. Not about some stupid $10 trophy or ring at some stupid weekend tournament.
Be careful not to paint with too wide a brush. Both my kids travel in multiple sports. Yeah, we spend money but our kids love it and so do we. We also are more small town travel so it's basically our community teams. I can see some of the big "money teams", we call them, maybe not being as fun.
When you are paying for coaches and paying out of pocket for tournaments (as opposed to old fashion fundraising) I can see it getting out of hand.
I like to think that my wife and I are doing this right. We started our daughter in soccer when she was 4 or 5. It was meant as a way to be active. We did that for a while until her team disbanded and we didn't get back into it. We then tried cheerleading and she stuck with that for a couple years. At the same time, she was at a smaller K-8 school and she tried basketball, volleyball, and soccer again. She ended up liking volleyball the most. We didn't make her continue with a sport once she came to us to say she didn't want to do it any more. The exception being that if she started a season, she had to finish it.
We switched schools and she played VB in middle school and nothing else. She showed a passion for the sport so we put her on a league team in 8th grade. That was a very positive experience and we found a VB gym that fit our family (in terms of cost, coaching, sportsmanship, etc.). Fast forward to this summer where she was getting ready to enter high school. The HS team had strength/conditioning and open gyms all summer long. She also tried out for a club team for the first time. She ended up making the top tier national team for this gym. She also made her HS team.
My point here is to not make the kids specialize in a sport when they are too young (less than 12?). Also, it's okay if they try something and don't like it. There are other sports and activities out there. And, once they do start to show a passion or talent for a sport, that's when you should consider throwing money around. Even though this club team will be expensive, we would be fine if, at the end of the season, she says she doesn't want to do club again. (I could buy a couple of really nice bikes for what we're spending!) I don't think we would see that money as a waste if/when she quits. It will have been money well spent on what we think will be a good experience - similar to a nice vacation. Now that we are in HS, we do have a pie-in-the-sky dream that this might lead to a scholarship (to any level of college). But, hey, it's a dream at this point and not something that we are all driving towards. If it happens, it happens.
Full disclosure: We did pressure her to try out for the HS team. She wasn't having a lot of fun with open gyms but we wanted her to try out and see if the team atmosphere would be different. Since she was an incoming freshman, we also thought it would be a great way to meet new friends. Worst case scenario, she doesn't make a team but that became a non-issue. And, even if she made the team but didn't like it, the HS season is only a couple of months long. I will say this was the first time we pressured her to do something that she didn't necessarily want to do. So far, it has turned out fine.
Agree big time with the bolded part. I'll encourage my kids to try any sport or activity, but the caveat is that if they start a class or season, they have to finish it. If they're done with it after that, fine.
2. I was the coach of my kid's little league team this year. Had a great time, parents were fantastic, really enjoyed the entire experience honestly. However my kid would love to watch some of the tournaments that happened in Ankeny. Even like the 10U teams were absolutely insane. Banners hung on the back of dugouts for each player, some just wild parents, etc.
Kingdom Hoops this year is $4700. Yep, that is the real number and that does not include uniforms.