This comes from How Life Changes Things......
My older brother (who is retired) planned on moving in with my Mom up north this summer. She lives in a house on a lake, and my brother will inherit it when she passes. So it works out well, hopefully Mom won't end up in a care center.
But.....we have a cousin near where my brother lives now, and it turns out she's a hoarder. Just like the folks you see on TV, there are narrow paths through her house, none of the plumbing works, etc. And as the only remaining family member close by, he got nominated to handle the problem.
Social services have been involved, and it hasn't been pretty. The cousin is dead set against getting rid of anything, despite my brother's warnings that this could cost her the house and her freedom, should she become unreasonable.
I don't envy him, at all. He spent the last seven or eight years as a caregiver for his wife, who died of stomach cancer, and was getting ready to become a caregiver again for Mom (although she is relatively self-subsistent). Now this. Ugh.
