Random Thoughts XII - This Thread Delivers

[jcyclonee]

Just throwing out another reason why fewer people may be having kids, but it may be because it’s more acceptable to not have kids now (though i’m only a few years removed from the transition from “I’m so so sorry you’re having a kid!” to “You’re having a kid? Congratulations!” So maybe it’s not as acceptable as I think it is.) There were probably always people who didn’t want to have children, but I imagine there was much more of an expectation that you would. Kind of like how it’s more acceptable to live together and never get married. Those people might have gotten married before, but now they don’t need to.

Also, cell phone radiation.

 

[coolerifyoudid]

I'll say I love watching my kid learn new things, interact with us, and seeing in him some of the things I love about DH. This week baby has learned he has a voice and we will react to it. So he chatters ...loudly. also, he's ticklish and I can make him giggle which us a lot of fun. This morning he woke up as I was holding him and he recognized me and gave a big smile. I'm moving up the list and closing in on the ceiling fan.

Are you sure he's yours?

 

[CycloneErik]

Will honestly say, even in the worst of times, going to work with basically no sleep, I never had the thought of “I wish we didn’t have this child”. I know there were times, still are, that I thought that the situation stunk but I always thanked God of having them while the crap happened.

This coming from somebody who never wanted to consider the thought of a child until I was mid20s and that was probably fooling myself while on dates.

The biggest issue I’ve seen with many is not wanting their life to change at all. They still leave kids with grandparents or friends for vacations. They are mad they aren’t driving new vehicles or skipping going out to eat to attend one of those ear breaking 5th grade band concerts.

Our friends are now other wrestling, football, track and such parents. We will go eat after a wrestling meet and that’s basically our social time now a days. I may not have a life according to many, but I guarantee I will miss it when it ls over.

On that last part, I realized a couple weeks ago that there will be a day when the couch is mine, and I don't have a crazy person climbing on me. That seems weird.

 

[jcyclonee]

Wife’s cousins kids number 4 and 5 say hi.

It's been about 10 years since the little procedure so I feel pretty safe in saying that nothing's leaking through that isn't supposed to. I probably shouldn't have said little.

 

[cyrevkah]

While it still obviously doesn’t convince me, I will say this is probably still the best answer anyone has ever given me when I’ve asked. Usually they just say “it’s hard to explain, it just is.”

It really is hard to explain. So much of it is the experience. I love watching Z do new things, put ideas together "growing". I love the way her facial expressions change for her moods now. How she repeats the German or Russian words back to her dad and she catches the inflections that I know I didn't.

She also knows how to get under my skin. Sometimes I'm better dealing with it than others. Sometimes she's just frustrating, but none of it makes me think or wish she wasn't there. I still wonder every once in awhile what it would be like with the 6yr and her at the same time and smile.

Kids really aren't for everyone though and for various reasons.

 

[cowgirl836]

Big deal, I can do all those things too.

I mean, it's just weird when you tickle a grown man under the chin to make him giggle

 

[cowgirl836]

Are you sure he's yours?

I sent a video of it to my mom and she's like oh he talks just like you when you were little. I relayed that to DH and he's like oh greaaaaaaaaat.

My mom has often told him about the time she took toddler me on a shopping trip 45 minutes there and back and decided to see how long I'd talk for. The entire trip. Both ways. That was the answer. I think DH was hoping his more reticent genes would win that battle.

 

[cyrocksmypants]

I mean, it's just weird when you tickle a grown man under the chin to make him giggle

Don’t kink shame me.

 

[coolerifyoudid]

Will honestly say, even in the worst of times, going to work with basically no sleep, I never had the thought of “I wish we didn’t have this child”. I know there were times, still are, that I thought that the situation stunk but I always thanked God of having them while the crap happened.

This coming from somebody who never wanted to consider the thought of a child until I was mid20s and that was probably fooling myself while on dates.

The biggest issue I’ve seen with many is not wanting their life to change at all. They still leave kids with grandparents or friends for vacations. They are mad they aren’t driving new vehicles or skipping going out to eat to attend one of those ear breaking 5th grade band concerts.

Our friends are now other wrestling, football, track and such parents. We will go eat after a wrestling meet and that’s basically our social time now a days. I may not have a life according to many, but I guarantee I will miss it when it ls over.

Nicely put. I've seen my older siblings go from no kids to kids to empty nesters. That's helped me learn to appreciate the present.

When I think about life after my daughter going off to college, I realized my social calendar is gonna be wiiiide open.

 

[coolerifyoudid]

I mean, it's just weird when you tickle a grown man under the chin to make him giggle

I'm not gonna look, but I'm betting there's a subreddit that disagrees with you.

 

[jcyclonee]

I mean, it's just weird when you tickle a grown man under the chin to make him giggle

You can insert hot in place of just weird.

Don’t kink shame me.

See. Pants agrees.

 

[BCClone]

On that last part, I realized a couple weeks ago that there will be a day when the couch is mine, and I don't have a crazy person climbing on me. That seems weird.

Not until they leave, they are faster than you and claim it before you.

 

[BCClone]

One other thing pants, when you get in your 40s and totally beat into the ground, the unbridled optimism that they have does give you a reason to keep swinging that pick ax in the salt mine.

 

[CycloneErik]

Not until they leave, they are faster than you and claim it before you.

That's the time I meant, although faster than me? Please.

 

[wxman1]

Speaking of social calendars...MrsWx has us going to the Elf preview night at TCR tomorrow night (and likely a birthday dinner for her), friends coming over Friday night and family coming over to watch the game Saturday night. The introvert in me is in panic mode.

 

[RunninMan]

Maybe a bit of a different perspective; I want nothing more than to have a wife and kids someday. I think about it every day and honestly it's the motivation for me to get a good education and subsequently a career that can support them. But I can't imagine having kids until I at least have a path lined up to that career. Heck it's hard to imagine even getting married until after I graduate. I know I couldn't afford a wedding right now and certainly not a kid. I'm pretty old fashioned when it comes to most things but I just can't see how it would be possible to support a family at my age. I have friends my age and younger getting engaged/married and hey it's their life and good for them but I have no idea how they can support themselves, let alone pay for a wedding.

 

[ISUCyclones2015]

Love isn't real guys. How many times do I have to reiterate this?

 

[ISUCyclones2015]

Also can I point out how amazing technology is? Here's my internet speeds while I'm over the pacific ocean.

 

[Ms3r4ISU]

Love isn't real guys. How many times do I have to reiterate this?

Ad nauseum, obviously.

 

[cowgirl836]

Love isn't real guys. How many times do I have to reiterate this?

Not true. The love this baby has for the ceiling fan cannot be denied. I tries to take a pic of it tonight but my phone camera is always "failing"