While it still obviously doesn’t convince me, I will say this is probably still the best answer anyone has ever given me when I’ve asked. Usually they just say “it’s hard to explain, it just is.”
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While it still obviously doesn’t convince me, I will say this is probably still the best answer anyone has ever given me when I’ve asked. Usually they just say “it’s hard to explain, it just is.”
Another reason why having a baby is not so common? I can barely take care of myself most days, dont need a completely defenseless human thrown in the mix yet
You *ARE* talking to Pants here.
Pants, given your feelings of overwhelming superiority, how can you not want to contribute to the gene pool? Will you deny the human race further glimpses of your greatness?
My awesomeness is me OVERCOMING my gene pool. I don’t need to put more of that mess out in the world. They probably wouldn’t be as great as me at overcoming it, because it would only be half me.
I made some face at DH last night and he's like what is wrong with you. I'm like whatever, don't forget that the baby is 50% my genetics and it's clear from the faces he makes that some of those genes made it through lol
DH just sighs and says "I knooooooow"
Pretty much every day I'm like man, they just let me leave the hospital with this thing????? Nobody made us take a quiz or anything??
I know the pregnant neighbor lady isn't because of me. Every time I see a bag of frozen peas or corn I am reminded of this. So, swing on, swingers.
The results from said procedure are not always perfect. Hopefully you have other bases for knowledge as well.
Just throwing out another reason why fewer people may be having kids, but it may be because it’s more acceptable to not have kids now (though i’m only a few years removed from the transition from “I’m so so sorry you’re having a kid!” to “You’re having a kid? Congratulations!” So maybe it’s not as acceptable as I think it is.) There were probably always people who didn’t want to have children, but I imagine there was much more of an expectation that you would. Kind of like how it’s more acceptable to live together and never get married. Those people might have gotten married before, but now they don’t need to.
Our one set of friends joke-not-joke that they want to get a kid when they're like 8 and skip the baby stage. I personally enjoy the baby part (ok, that's all I know technically because I love the cuddles.
This was my mindset when we were leaving the hospital the first time. I kept thinking someone was going to stop us. It was a bigger hassle to adopt our cats!
I was not one of the fathers who didn't connect early to my baby. That might have been due to two things: I had a baby sister come along when I was 14 so I got what made babies awesome. I am a Cancer and all Cancers are mothers - even the men.
I would add to JC's list above. Watching them learn and grow. There is nothing more awesome than having to do homework with them (that part not always awesome) and they just don't get it. You show them another way and suddenly the light comes on and they've got it. The same can be said about sports. My little man a year ago was still stopping on the field and disengaging while the ball was live. He is not the best player on the field by a long shot but he has grown so much as a player and is starting to understand the game. It is so cool to see the growth.
This morning he asked me how many letters there were. Then he asked me to figure this out. He said 10, 15, 8, 14. I replied "John". He asked me how I figured it out and I told him he had made a basic numeric substitution cipher. He did this on his own while just riding in the car.
That is what is just one thing that is awesome about having kids. We are creating the thinkers of tomorrow.
I would add to JC's list above. Watching them learn and grow. There is nothing more awesome than having to do homework with them (that part not always awesome) and they just don't get it. You show them another way and suddenly the light comes on and they've got it. The same can be said about sports. My little man a year ago was still stopping on the field and disengaging while the ball was live. He is not the best player on the field by a long shot but he has grown so much as a player and is starting to understand the game. It is so cool to see the growth.
This morning he asked me how many letters there were. Then he asked me to figure this out. He said 10, 15, 8, 14. I replied "John". He asked me how I figured it out and I told him he had made a basic numeric substitution cipher. He did this on his own while just riding in the car.
That is what is just one thing that is awesome about having kids. We are creating the thinkers of tomorrow.
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My wife and I sat in the parking lot, looked in the back seat at the baby and then just stared forward for about a minute not saying a word. I was pretty sure if we didn't move, we'd be fine.
I'll say I love watching my kid learn new things, interact with us, and seeing in him some of the things I love about DH. This week baby has learned he has a voice and we will react to it. So he chatters ...loudly. also, he's ticklish and I can make him giggle which us a lot of fun. This morning he woke up as I was holding him and he recognized me and gave a big smile. I'm moving up the list and closing in on the ceiling fan.
Big deal, I can do all those things too.
I got to take my firstborn home...for an hour.
Then (per our pediatrician's instructions) I took him straight to his office, and he readmitted him to the hospital to spend four days under the bilirubin lights for jaundice. Tough to watch your little guy, naked except for a blindfold, and not be able to touch him for long periods of time.
Got him home for two weeks, then back to the hospital to repair a birth defect (pyloric stenosis). It was basically a parental baptism of fire, those first five weeks.
Oh - the reason we took him home first? WSU student health insurance took the optimistic POV that it cost $100 to have a baby. Granted, it was cheaper back then...but that covered all pre-natal visits & tests, and if the baby was born with issues requiring further hospitalization it was considered "part of the birth coverage". So our pediatrician (a deacon in our church and family friend) released him to go home then readmitted him, effectively circumventing the stupid insurance rule.
Then (per our pediatrician's instructions) I took him straight to his office, and he readmitted him to the hospital to spend four days under the bilirubin lights for jaundice. Tough to watch your little guy, naked except for a blindfold, and not be able to touch him for long periods of time.
Got him home for two weeks, then back to the hospital to repair a birth defect (pyloric stenosis). It was basically a parental baptism of fire, those first five weeks.
Oh - the reason we took him home first? WSU student health insurance took the optimistic POV that it cost $100 to have a baby. Granted, it was cheaper back then...but that covered all pre-natal visits & tests, and if the baby was born with issues requiring further hospitalization it was considered "part of the birth coverage". So our pediatrician (a deacon in our church and family friend) released him to go home then readmitted him, effectively circumventing the stupid insurance rule.
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