Declining job offer you verbally accepted.

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  1. ISUAgronomist

    ISUAgronomist Well-Known Member

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    +1 They'll be out nothing at this point and will move on to the next candidate. Most large companies don't inform candidates that the position is filled until "your" first day for this exact reason.
     
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  2. urb1

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    A career counselor once told me there really is no company loyalty to employees anymore, to do what's right for you, not the company.
     
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  3. VeloClone

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    This is why as a hiring manager I never called and rejected other applicants until I got more than a verbal acceptance from our first choice. It is worth keeping them on the hook for a couple more days to make sure you have a solid agreement.
     
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    My office mate and I were talking about a similar situation just yesterday. He lost a kid to cancer about 20 years ago. At the time he was contemplating a job offer. The job would have doubled his salary but included 5 day a week travel. He ultimately declined three days before he got his son's diagnosis. If he had accepted he would have had to back out because there is no way he would have been able to do that job while helping his son fight for his life.

    Life situations change and if you haven't signed a contract do what is best for you.
     
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  5. ccruzen

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    I'm going to echo what everyone has said, be respectful and honest but do what's best for you. I had the a similar thing happen to me recently. After my very professional and apologetic denial to the new company I received a pretty nasty response. Made me feel even better about not taking the role and working with them.
     
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  6. mcblogerson

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    Lucky you, now shop the offer to the originally accepted job. They might beat it, if not you still win. If they’re upset, you’re probably dodging a bullet.
     
  7. MeowingCows

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    Always take care of #1 first... That's you. The company can move on without you, they always have more options.
     
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    is this Mark Charter's alt account? :chris:
     
  9. Bipolarcy

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    I had two job options, one that offered and one I wanted. I told the one I wanted that I needed a decision from them one way or another or I was going to accept the other job. I gave them until close of business on a Friday to sh!t or get off the pot because this other job was pressuring me to make a decision. They didn't call, so I accepted the other job at 5:01 Friday. At 5:05 p.m., the other job, the one that I wanted, called with a job offer. I told them sorry, it was too late. I already accepted the other job offer. The other offer was two states away while the one I wanted was about 70 miles from where I lived. But I made the right decision. The one I wound up accepting paid about 9 grand more a year and this was back in the early 90s when 9 grand was worth a lot more. There was no way the one I wanted was going to be able to match that.
     
  10. WoodCy

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    Can't really add anything other than to say that I have lost my job a couple times and at no time has the employer shed a tear for me or worried about my family's best interest. I have also had to decline a job after verbally accepting it. Again, do what is best for you and your family. Be as polite, professional and respectful as possible. In the end, don't lose any sleep and move forward.
     
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  11. simply1

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    I've done it when a better offer came along. I asked if they could match, they couldn't, so...
     
  12. madguy30

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    No experience in this but I've had jobs that I thought I had a really good chance at, and didn't get a call back.

    Does that help?
     
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  13. Bestaluckcy

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    Sorry that I don't have advice for you, but I appreciate you people that get up and go to work every day. :)
     
  14. nfrine

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    Back in the old days (and I remember them well), a verbal agreement and a handshake were considered binding. Even state laws reflected verbal agreements as binding. I guess times have changed, hopefully for the better. :cool:
     
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  15. simply1

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    You were forced to work somewhere in the old days? Were you in Russia?
     
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  16. nfrine

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    No. And no.
     
  17. dosry5

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    Back when kids knew better than to walk on your lawn...
     
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  18. CTTB78

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    Take the second offer and don't look back. You can just use the line most companies use with offer no. 1-- "I decided to go another direction".
     
  19. Rabbuk

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    I'd be tempted to just not show up and not tell them. It's not like companies send rejection letters anymore.
     
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  20. ISUAgronomist

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    Ghosting...excellent way to burn a bridge!
     
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