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Seriously...world's largest hand carved Muskie:

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This big buffalo:

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And Mississippi Mike hisself:

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You sold me already at "cheese".
 
So I have a problem I want you young hip people to tell me if I am handling it ok.

For the first time in nearly two decades, a couple asked me to sing at their wedding. I wouldn't mind doing it except I am kind of awful now that I am getting old and losing my upper register. Used to be able to at least eek out an E without having to go falsetto, now it is dicey anything over a C sharp.

So I told them I stink and maybe they should get someone else and they said four people have already turned them down because they are gay. I don't care about that, I just don't want to humiliate myself in public. I suggested that one of my boys is a good musician and could do it and play guitar, but one bride said that would be embarrassing for her because she had a crush on him in high school, asked him out a few times, and asked him to prom. (No he didn't "turn" her gay, she had a long-term boyfriend after him.) I suggested since both brides are great vocalists that they each do it and just have instrumental music for parts, and they said they will sing, but want songs sung at the beginning and end.

So finally, I told them to give me the music and a few days to prepare, and then listen to me try to sing it, since they seemed to be so insistent. They went for that. They also said if it was too high for me they would just change the key. I think I will still stink and they will be horrified, but not planning on tanking it on purpose. So was that an ok thing to tell them? I don't want them to think it is because they are gay. I also think they should be looking for someone else though. Wedding is in October so coming up fast.

Carvers we are usually are own worse critic. I'm guessing your singing will be good. If you have the time practice and let them listen and decide.
 
So I have a problem I want you young hip people to tell me if I am handling it ok.

For the first time in nearly two decades, a couple asked me to sing at their wedding. I wouldn't mind doing it except I am kind of awful now that I am getting old and losing my upper register. Used to be able to at least eek out an E without having to go falsetto, now it is dicey anything over a C sharp.

So I told them I stink and maybe they should get someone else and they said four people have already turned them down because they are gay. I don't care about that, I just don't want to humiliate myself in public. I suggested that one of my boys is a good musician and could do it and play guitar, but one bride said that would be embarrassing for her because she had a crush on him in high school, asked him out a few times, and asked him to prom. (No he didn't "turn" her gay, she had a long-term boyfriend after him.) I suggested since both brides are great vocalists that they each do it and just have instrumental music for parts, and they said they will sing, but want songs sung at the beginning and end.

So finally, I told them to give me the music and a few days to prepare, and then listen to me try to sing it, since they seemed to be so insistent. They went for that. They also said if it was too high for me they would just change the key. I think I will still stink and they will be horrified, but not planning on tanking it on purpose. So was that an ok thing to tell them? I don't want them to think it is because they are gay. I also think they should be looking for someone else though. Wedding is in October so coming up fast.

Singing in weddings is fun. Just sing, you'll be fine...tweek a few areas where you feel you cannot reach the notes. Small changes wouldn't affect the gesture of singing for them.
 
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Juvenile eagles have been hanging around where I've been working. It's pretty interesting hearing them "peep" all the time. Never hear them when they fly, but the are quite noisy while perched.
 
Alright time to get a little serious for a bit. I'm looking for relationship advice.

The chick I'd been dating for 7 months and I think is The One broke up with me at the end of April texted me yesterday and we met at Chipotle and had a really good time there and afterwards sitting on my tailgate talking. She told me about about how she thought I was the one and that she misses what we had. But she's not sure she wants to be together again right now. She says she can't imagine life without me. But she isn't sure she wants to get back together yet.

Meanwhile during our separation I met a girl who I've hung out with a few times and had fun with.

I pretty much gave my ex an ultimatum. I said either we could get back together or it needed to be over because I couldn't just be a friend and a bystander. As much as I enjoy her company my heart can't take not being with her. She asked how long before I needed an answer and I said as long as it takes for her to give me a yes.

Meanwhile I have this other girl who wants to hang out.

Should I hit the brakes with this new chick? I mean I'm single and all but I don't want to hurt anyone.
 
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Alright time to get a little serious for a bit. I'm looking for relationship advice.

The chick I'd been dating for 7 months and I think is The One broke up with me at the end of April texted me yesterday and we met at Chipotle and had a really good time there and afterwards sitting on my tailgate talking. She told me about about how she thought I was the one and that she misses what we had. But she's not sure she wants to be together again right now. She says she can't imagine life without me. But she isn't sure she wants to get back together yet.

Meanwhile during our separation I met a girl who I've hung out with a few times and had fun with.

I pretty much gave my ex an ultimatum. I said either we could get back together or it needed to be over because I couldn't just be a friend and a bystander. As much as I enjoy her company my heart can't take not being with her. She asked how long before I needed an answer and I said as long as it takes for her to give me a yes.

Meanwhile I have this other girl who wants to hang out.

Should I hit the brakes with this new chick? I mean I'm single and all but I don't want to hurt anyone.

Why did you two break up in the first place? I think one of the biggest things is determining if it's just nostalgia or not.
 
I was dealing with being unemployed and was kind of in a downward spiral. She is a very independent woman and has set lofty (yet attainable) goals for herself. I questioned her too much and my lack of confidence towards the end pretty much turned her off. Kind of opposite of the way we began. I think that was pretty much it. But our chemistry is undeniable. She's never been as close to anyone as she has with me. We used to talk a lot about marriage and possibly having kids. She said she's never known anyone to silence her demons like I do. She said she's never had anyone build her up and tell her that her dreams and goals were valid like I did. I think maybe she's scared of losing the independence that she is so used to.
 
I was dealing with being unemployed and was kind of in a downward spiral. She is a very independent woman and has set lofty (yet attainable) goals for herself. I questioned her too much and my lack of confidence towards the end pretty much turned her off. Kind of opposite of the way we began. I think that was pretty much it. But our chemistry is undeniable. She's never been as close to anyone as she has with me. We used to talk a lot about marriage and possibly having kids. She said she's never known anyone to silence her demons like I do. She said she's never had anyone build her up and tell her that her dreams and goals were valid like I did. I think maybe she's scared of losing the independence that she is so used to.

http://m.imdb.com/title/tt0117802/

Watch that.

http://m.imdb.com/title/tt0800039/

Then that. Then report back.
 
Funny story, we have our 50 dollar bullet train down to Busan which is known for its beaches in the southern portion of Korea. We're going for the long weekend. So we get off work late at 5:45. Our train leaves at 6:30. We bustle to a taxi and traffic takes forever to get to the station. We get at the station at 6:24. Throw the cab driver money and take off. We're sprinting. Throw the guy our passport to get our ticket and run to the train. Katie is running in front of me and drops her passport. I pick it up on the train. Some Korean is chasing me yelling at me I'm like wth. He has my wallet because I drop it... Matt runs up the door and the train is closing, he sticks his hand in the door and it shuts on his hand. (It shuts hard). His hand is already bruising. And we make it on the train.. Most stressful moment of my entire life. But we made it
 
Juvenile eagles have been hanging around where I've been working. It's pretty interesting hearing them "peep" all the time. Never hear them when they fly, but the are quite noisy while perched.

You ought to hear the "feed me" noise that barred owls make...at midnight-dark-thirty...outside the bedroom window...
 
I was dealing with being unemployed and was kind of in a downward spiral. She is a very independent woman and has set lofty (yet attainable) goals for herself. I questioned her too much and my lack of confidence towards the end pretty much turned her off. Kind of opposite of the way we began. I think that was pretty much it. But our chemistry is undeniable. She's never been as close to anyone as she has with me. We used to talk a lot about marriage and possibly having kids. She said she's never known anyone to silence her demons like I do. She said she's never had anyone build her up and tell her that her dreams and goals were valid like I did. I think maybe she's scared of losing the independence that she is so used to.

As someone who is fairly independent, it can be somewhat scary to think that you have found the one and to fully let your guard down. However, that doesn't change the fact that if you're seriously committed to the relationship that you can just bail when things get difficult. Things change at about the six/seven month stage, the honeymoon period wears off and you start really getting to know the person. Evaluate whether she'd really stick around for the lows (because they will happen), if you think she will, give it another shot, if not then continue with new girl.
 
Alright time to get a little serious for a bit. I'm looking for relationship advice.

The chick I'd been dating for 7 months and I think is The One broke up with me at the end of April texted me yesterday and we met at Chipotle and had a really good time there and afterwards sitting on my tailgate talking. She told me about about how she thought I was the one and that she misses what we had. But she's not sure she wants to be together again right now. She says she can't imagine life without me. But she isn't sure she wants to get back together yet.

Meanwhile during our separation I met a girl who I've hung out with a few times and had fun with.

I pretty much gave my ex an ultimatum. I said either we could get back together or it needed to be over because I couldn't just be a friend and a bystander. As much as I enjoy her company my heart can't take not being with her. She asked how long before I needed an answer and I said as long as it takes for her to give me a yes.

Meanwhile I have this other girl who wants to hang out.

Should I hit the brakes with this new chick? I mean I'm single and all but I don't want to hurt anyone.

date em both????
 
Kind of feel like if you really were feeling this whole "one" thing you wouldn't be wondering about the "other one."
 
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