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If I read his why they broke up right, didn't she ditch him when he hit a low point? That seems like a bad start to someone that you may want to commit yourself too.

Then again, I do advocate not giving up on a marriage except for dire issues.
 
I think there is an owl near our home. It started hooting one night after supper and I was trying to get Z inside the house. Z whipped her head around, "owl! hoo, hoo!" It was soooo cute.


She's saying more words and what she remembers/recognizes.
 
carvers4math said:
Kind of feel like if you really were feeling this whole "one" thing you wouldn't be wondering about the "other one."
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I think he was thinking the one, until the one broke up with him, hence the need for the other one.

I think you have to honestly evaluate whether it was a you thing or a her thing when she broke up with you. Essentially, you mentioned being depressed, etc. So, would a normal, average person be justified in breaking up with you, considering what you were like at the time? If not, it's a her thing, and you need to decide if that's fixable and if you even want to try. If it was justified, then it's a you thing, and you need to decide if you're fixed, and if you'll stay fixed.

And, like nickels said, is she still wearing the parachute, ready to jump off the plane again next time you hit turbulence?
 
cowgirl836 said:
I was going to judge you, then realized hey, I hugged an electric fence when I was like four.

Then thought, yeah, when I was four. You're an adult. So I'm back to judging now.
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Bu4ISU said:
Funny story, we have our 50 dollar bullet train down to Busan which is known for its beaches in the southern portion of Korea. We're going for the long weekend. So we get off work late at 5:45. Our train leaves at 6:30. We bustle to a taxi and traffic takes forever to get to the station. We get at the station at 6:24. Throw the cab driver money and take off. We're sprinting. Throw the guy our passport to get our ticket and run to the train. Katie is running in front of me and drops her passport. I pick it up on the train. Some Korean is chasing me yelling at me I'm like wth. He has my wallet because I drop it... Matt runs up the door and the train is closing, he sticks his hand in the door and it shuts on his hand. (It shuts hard). His hand is already bruising. And we make it on the train.. Most stressful moment of my entire life. But we made it
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My new kids book Bu and Katie Take the Train. I need an illustrator.

See Bu.
See Katie.
See the train!
See Bu run.
See Katie run.
Run Bu run!
Run Katie Run!
See the passports.
See the tickets.
See the train door.
Close door close!
See Matt.
See his bruise!
Ouch Matt ouch!
See the train run.
Run train run!
See Bu at the beach.
See Katie at the beach.
See Bu and Katie!

The End
 
BoxsterCy said:
My new kids book Bu and Katie Take the Train. I need an illustrator.

See Bu.
See Katie.
See the train!
See Bu run.
See Katie run.
Run Bu run!
Run Katie Run!
See the passports.
See the tickets.
See the train door.
Close door close!
See Matt.
See his bruise!
Ouch Matt ouch!
See the train run.
Run train run!
See Bu at the beach.
See Katie at the beach.
See Bu and Katie!

The End
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So it has a sexy ending?
 
And...with the caveats that 1: I don't think advice in this context is the best way, because there's no way to get all of the nuances of the situation...a good, close friend is better here (yes, dude, be vulnerable, it's okay), and 2: Overall, I think we try too hard to find reasons to end relationships rather than build them (but as of now, you're not in one with her)

Going back and re-reading it (again, I'm overanalyzing a few sentences, maybe it's fair, maybe not), 2 things are making me wonder about this woman. You mention calming her demons, yet she broke up with you because of some things you were going thru? Is this a woman who wants to lean on you, but you to never have to lean on her?

As well, this "she thinks I'm the one, but isn't sure if she's ready to get back together" thing? Why? Wants to sow her wild oats, not sure what's broken is fixed? Essentially...the question is...so where does that leave you? It's an untenable position for you, really. You're supposed to do what in the mean time?

In the end, though, both of you have to realize that...to steal CWilly's line...We don't choose love because it's easy, we choose love because it's awesome. You will have more issues. Just this morning, 2 grumpy, crying kids waking me up and helping them along so they don't make my wife late for work made me realize that 10 minutes of helping them had prevented me from saying my normal "good morning, I love you" to my wife. And that's just a small thing, there are many bigger things that can happen.

I'll close, though, by reiterating that I think a good male friend is a better source for you, though. None of us on here know you or her well enough to give really good advice. Someone that knows you and her well enough to be a good, objective source of advice is what you need here. I think men today are lacking in that overall...I know I am, and am struggling to find friends that are beyond "hey, how 'bout them Cubs, wanna get a beer?" I had them in college, but I don't now. The biggest reason I don't now is I wasn't able to be vulnerable...the old John Wayne, all I need is me thing. But now that I'm getting away from that, I'm also having trouble finding men who are also willing to be vulnerable. Maybe you don't have that...if not, it's something to work on as well.
 
cyrevkah said:
If I read his why they broke up right, didn't she ditch him when he hit a low point? That seems like a bad start to someone that you may want to commit yourself too.

Then again, I do advocate not giving up on a marriage except for dire issues.
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yeah I don't want to hate on the girl, but leaving at a low point (based on the info we have) doesn't seem like a great thing.
 
pants, I can get you cheese if you get closer to me, but I don't know about border stuff.
 
forgot to ask DH about this last night, so I'll ask here. I had a close call in the car yesterday and I'm trying to decide if I did something wrong. So I was at the light waiting to turn right on red onto three lanes of traffic. I looked left and a taxi was the only car left before I could go, and then they put on their turn signal. I cannot remember now if they were in the middle lane or the far right but my mind assumed they were turning off at my intersection for what that's worth. I looked back right, started to go, then looked left and that taxi damn near hit me. They were by then in the far right lane and kept their right turn signal on through two more intersections before they actually turned. So I'm fairly certain that the taxi changed lanes through an intersection. Are you allowed to do that? I've turned right there many, many times and never had an issue like that which is why I'm not sure if I did something wrong.
 
Somewhere on a taxidriver message board, a poster is ranting about this cute girl who could barely see over the steering wheel and seemed to be meowing while driving cut him off and dang near caused a crash yesterday.
 
cowgirl836 said:
forgot to ask DH about this last night, so I'll ask here. I had a close call in the car yesterday and I'm trying to decide if I did something wrong. So I was at the light waiting to turn right on red onto three lanes of traffic. I looked left and a taxi was the only car left before I could go, and then they put on their turn signal. I cannot remember now if they were in the middle lane or the far right but my mind assumed they were turning off at my intersection for what that's worth. I looked back right, started to go, then looked left and that taxi damn near hit me. They were by then in the far right lane and kept their right turn signal on through two more intersections before they actually turned. So I'm fairly certain that the taxi changed lanes through an intersection. Are you allowed to do that? I've turned right there many, many times and never had an issue like that which is why I'm not sure if I did something wrong.
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I think you probably can do it, but if seems like a pretty bad idea. Maybe that's why you haven't seen it before.
 
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