Dating in general is hard. I've had a lot more success online than I have with people setting me up though. For whatever reason people like to play matchmaker. Nobody is good at it.
I believe that last part is called being a simp in today's cool kids languageNo idea how you operate but I'm a big believer that real, true time to the self brings about the most clarity on all sorts of things.
Travel, hobbies, learn new stuff, do the (healthy) things you enjoy. And don't be afraid to do them alone.
(humble brag) I found myself to seem more appealing when I got in a 'mode' of what I call true independence and was kind of a desperate disaster if I tried online stuff.
Yea I live in realityThink where you live affects this quite a bit
Buying his blessing doesn't mean you automatically get hers.
Let me guess. You're single, right?Women want a guy who's a good listener, emotionally available, blah blah blah...
BULL****.
1) Look good without a shirt on (remember to shave your back).
2) Be at least 6 feet tall.
3) Flaunt your wealth. Wear expensive clothes. Drive an expensive vehicle.
6) Get a cute dog to take for walks in the park/on the beach (AKA fishing).
Or yeah, pay someone to pretend to like you. Women are just as shallow. Good luck.
I actually got off the road but thank you for the advice.
There's a lot to be said for what you're getting at. Basically if you want someone desirable you need to be someone desirable and someone who is self-sufficient and not needy or overly emotionally attached is far more appealing to someone.
Problem is for the younger generations it's more like shopping for clothes. Women really enjoy social media a la Facebook, Twitter, tick tock, etc.
It's a bit contrived for my tastes but it's the world we live in. Shopping for your mate online seems to be women's dream come true. Would love a woman's perspective on this though.
@cowgirl836 I respect a lot when it comes to these kind of questions.
Yes! Go do things you enjoy doing and you will end up meeting people doing the same. Then you can do them together and it’s great.Oh man, I'm no help here I suspect. Met spouse early through common interests and never had to experience much of the dating world. I know some women who've liked (and now married with baby) via bumble or something like that. Where the woman controlled contact. Fewer creepers that way it sounds like. Bit would also 2nd the suggestions of getting out and doing things you enjoy.
Let me guess. You're single, right?
I believe that last part is called being a simp in today's cool kids language
Women want a guy who's a good listener, emotionally available, blah blah blah...
BULL****.
1) Look good without a shirt on (remember to shave your back).
2) Be at least 6 feet tall.
3) Flaunt your wealth. Wear expensive clothes. Drive an expensive vehicle.
4) Get a cute dog to take for walks in the park/on the beach (AKA fishing).
Or yeah, pay someone to pretend to like you. Women are just as shallow. Good luck.
Reviving this thread as I'm newly single. I was in a relatively great relationship for three years, but for some reason I continued feeling smothered. Everything about the woman was great, and she deserves great things. While I had broken up in late February I had tried to revive being friends with her, but last night that all came to an end as she said that I keep rejecting her over and over. So to stop that I stated emphatically that we are over, and she's since blocked me on every app there is: Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, phone, etc. And so now the rebuilding truly starts. I hadn't attempted to connect with anyone since the initial breakup.
I don't really even know where to start. My dating record over a 4 month period prior to this woman was comical, including one woman going to jail for assault after her adult female roommate pulled a gun on her over a dispute about a radio being too loud. I thought I was going to be shot breaking up that fight.
I don't have any single friends. And in my new career I work from home full time which will continue even once the pandemic is deemed "over". I simply don't know what to do or where to start. Worse yet, I'm already feeling the pull to just go back to "claim" the ex-girlfriend, which is what she wants. But I think that's simply due to a want of companionship.
Might be time for a dating-coach or a life-coach. Strange times. Anybody else been through this?
Wait, how tall are you again? Being in a band doesn't hurt I guess.
Yes! Go do things you enjoy doing and you will end up meeting people doing the same. Then you can do them together and it’s great.
I think I'm going to buy my wife flowers today. This thread does not sound fun
It's been 10 years since I've been in the dating scene but Match seemed like a total scam.
I remember you could create a free profile, then you'd start getting messages from girls. You'd try to read them and all of a sudden you had to subscribe to the "premium service". So then once your a premium member you'd respond to the messages and get 0 replies or the profiles would be fake or completely gone off the system.
Yeah, 40 girls actually messged me in the first place and now when I've paid 30 bucks not one of them responds to my messages now. Seems completely legit.