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BWRhasnoAC

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So I have a pretty unique life, I travel about 10 months of the year, performing jobs for a general contractor out of Dayton, Ohio. I still have a place in Iowa where I keep my crap and when I'm lucky enough sleep on my amazing bed that I never get to use.

I ended a 5 year relationship last November, and I feel like I'm ready to try and get back on the dating wagon, but I've always been inept at dating and add in my life style obstacles and I think you see my dilemma.

Anyone have experience or advice on how to best date in this crazy world? I really don't think Tinder is going to find me a soul mate, though I'm not against causal dating. eHarmony, Match.com, etc; anyone have a recommendation or a single 30 something looking for someone who makes great money and is an ever faithful old fashioned romantic?

Doesn't need to be a stuffy thread, I expect some shade to be thrown my way. :)

Edit: I'm a dude.
 
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I met my significant other on Match.com, but that was close to 9 years ago now. The scene has completely changed. All I can tell you is that if you are a guy, you will have to work at it and don't feel bad if you spend time trying to make contact with a girl and you hear nothing back. Move on to the next.
 
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Very similar to my experience. Got divorced, ended up getting promoted into a job that involved living in motels ~80% of the time. Started another relationship that lasted about 8 years. I think I got so used to being/living alone I got scared of actually living with somebody again. Don’t let that happen to you.
 
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BWRhasnoAC said:
So I have a pretty unique life, I travel about 10 months of the year, performing jobs for a general contractor out of Dayton, Ohio. I still have a place in Iowa where I keep my crap and when I'm lucky enough sleep on my amazing bed that I never get to use.

I ended a 5 year relationship last November, and I feel like I'm ready to try and get back on the dating wagon, but I've always been inept at dating and add in my life style obstacles and I think you see my dilemma.

Anyone have experience or advice on how to best date in this crazy world? I really don't think Tinder is going to find me a soul mate, though I'm not against causal dating. eHarmony, Match.com, etc; anyone have a recommendation or a single 30 something looking for someone who makes great money and is an ever faithful old fashioned romantic?

Doesn't need to be a stuffy thread, I expect some shade to be thrown my way. :)

Edit: I'm a dude.
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I think the amount of travel and wanting a faithful and romantic may be at some odds with each other. Especially with the making big money.
 
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If you're looking for a hot social climber, Bumble. If you're looking for a real relationship, Hinge. I wouldn't bother with Tinder unless you're looking for strange with a questionable sexual history.
 
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#LOVEISN'TREAL

But if you must try.... of the free apps...

Tinder to hook up
Bumble to have casual relationships, women start the conversation but 99% it's "hey"
Coffee Meets Bagel used to be way better when you got one person a day to swipe on. Was very good that way. Now it's a lot like Bumble.
Hinge for real dates, far more "serious"
OkCupid for shy people
Grindr for LGBT
Feeld for kinky people, threesomes, swingers

Most of my best dates have been on Bumble and Hinge. Tinder was awesome in 2013 but now it's really meh. Dating sucks in general and it's even worse these days during the pandemic.

Never tried any paid app/website like Match or eHarmony.
 
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Acylum said:
Very similar to my experience. Got divorced, ended up getting promoted into a job that involved living in motels ~80% of the time. Started another relationship that lasted about 8 years. I think I got so used to being/living alone I got scared of actually living with somebody again. Don’t let that happen to you.
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Yea I had a hard time getting used to living with someone when I first started dating my X. I became comfortable with it after a couple years, but now I'm missing the companionship.
 
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Most of my single friends describe the current dating scene as "atrocious" but I think that's more or less how it always is. I spent a couple of years on OK Cupid in my early 30s. Went on some dates, all casual, nothing significant. Met my partner the old fashioned way at a bar by pure chance. Be social, be yourself and you will likely meet someone.
 
My brother met his now wife on Plenty of Fish. He was around 30 when that went down.
 
BWRhasnoAC said:
So I have a pretty unique life, I travel about 10 months of the year, performing jobs for a general contractor out of Dayton, Ohio. I still have a place in Iowa where I keep my crap and when I'm lucky enough sleep on my amazing bed that I never get to use.

I ended a 5 year relationship last November, and I feel like I'm ready to try and get back on the dating wagon, but I've always been inept at dating and add in my life style obstacles and I think you see my dilemma.

Anyone have experience or advice on how to best date in this crazy world? I really don't think Tinder is going to find me a soul mate, though I'm not against causal dating. eHarmony, Match.com, etc; anyone have a recommendation or a single 30 something looking for someone who makes great money and is an ever faithful old fashioned romantic?

Doesn't need to be a stuffy thread, I expect some shade to be thrown my way. :)

Edit: I'm a dude.
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No specific advice but if you post a face shot and a johnson pic we'll rate you?
 
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BCClone said:
I think the amount of travel and wanting a faithful and romantic may be at some odds with each other. Especially with the making big money.
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Oh that isn't lost on me. I realize how hopeless my situation is with regard to this. I almost never ask for advice on anything (very self sufficient/stubborn) but I'm pretty stumped here. On the bright side I've lost about twenty pounds to get into dating shape and I'm starting to look pretty good.
 
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BWRhasnoAC said:
Oh that isn't lost on me. I realize how hopeless my situation is with regard to this. I almost never ask for advice on anything (very self sufficient/stubborn) but I'm pretty stumped here. On the bright side I've lost about twenty pounds to get into dating shape and I'm starting to look pretty good.
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I need to lose a few pounds, but not to date. Always said an easy sign of a wife getting ready for divorce is a quick weight loss. Usually pretty consistent.
 
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I can't imagine how tough it is to date or start new relationships right now with a complete stranger with all the COVID stuff going on that puts a damper on a lot of things you can do or places you could meet or take someone to. You can take this for whatever it is worth from this guy who has been married 11 years now and has been out of the dating game for awhile obviously so I don't have any recent dating experiences...

When I was single I didn't have much luck with the online dating stuff. I went on some dates and even had an 8 month relationship my senior year in college with a girl I met online and I probably had more awkward dates or met some girls that after meeting them kind of figured out why some of the traditional ways of meeting people weren't working out well for them. I met my eventual wife by pure random coincidence as she happened to play on the same co-ed softball team I joined that someone at work had put together and I wasn't really actively looking for someone at the time so sometimes it just happens I guess. I do have multiple friends that met someone through online dating and eventually got married so it does work for some people so I do believe they can work for some people but after the experiences I had late in college and shortly there after with girls I met through online dating sites it wasn't something that worked for me. And the 1 thing about online profiles is people can basically make themselves sound like someone in writing but once you meet them and possibly get to know them more if you go on multiple dates is that someone's personality doesn't always come out on an online profile and they usually aren't revealing baggage or drama they may have too.
 
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