But he acted like it was something easy to misunderstand. It really wasn’t.
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But he acted like it was something easy to misunderstand. It really wasn’t.
I agree with all of those concerns except for one. If a pregnant woman who I am close to and comfortable with offers to let me feel their clothed abdomen as their baby kicks I will not hesitate if she really means it. Despite how most babies are created and the route through which most of them are delivered there is nothing sexual about a woman carrying a baby. If a woman is comfortable with someone meeting their child early and someone else in the office is uncomfortable with that, that is a "you" problem. Would we entertain a complaint by an employee who was uncomfortable because that same woman let a man in the office hold her baby after delivery?
While not a sexual thing, I do think it is a huge problem that many people think that just because a woman is pregnant their abdomen becomes public property and they can touch it without an invitation.
Rule of thumb: Invited? You can accept or decline. Not invited? Hands off, whether you're male OR female. A pregnant belly is NOT an automatic invitation to touch.
Definitely a me problem. Just seemed off to me, probably from the incident with my secretary. Overly cautious
Yes, I added more as you were replying...Rule of thumb: Invited? You can accept or decline. Not invited? Hands off, whether you're male OR female. A pregnant belly is NOT an automatic invitation to touch.
I had no idea this was a thing until my wife got pregnant...why are you touching my wife? Not only that, but people stare like the baby's head is sticking out of her bellybutton or something. Folks are odd.
I didn't mean you, I meant if someone else is uncomfortable with someone touching a pregnant woman's abdomen to feel the baby when invited they have issues. This is not a sexually inappropriate situation.
Rule of thumb: Invited? You can accept or decline. Not invited? Hands off, whether you're male OR female. A pregnant belly is NOT an automatic invitation to touch.
I'm like BC in that even if invited, I'd probably still be a bit weirded out at feeling a preg coworker's belly. But maybe it's because I know I would hate that myself.
In any case, there's probably a line on the "invited to touch" too - like if a woman says "grab my boobs, they're huge today!" or a male coworker invites touching on something else that is "huge" today
Oh, no prob. And btw, one time when asked by a pregnant woman if I thought her boobs were bigger from pregnancy, I did offer to check. It was my wife, figure if my wife even says no, it probably wouldn't be right in the office
And if someone else in the office was uncomfortable with those other invited to touch examples happening, they would have a legitimate beef because in our society touching a woman's breasts or a man's genitalia is generally considered sexual. I was strictly talking about the pregnant abdomen/kicking baby situation.I'm like BC in that even if invited, I'd probably still be a bit weirded out at feeling a preg coworker's belly. But maybe it's because I know I would hate that myself.
In any case, there's probably a line on the "invited to touch" too - like if a woman says "grab my boobs, they're huge today!" or a male coworker invites touching on something else that is "huge" today
BTW, maybe you would hate it yourself, but maybe you wouldn't. You might be surprised how much of your pregnancy you have a desire to share with those you trust when you are in the moment.
I don't think so. It was the not so subtle comparison to milking a cow that got her to hit me in the shoulder. But she's like my sister so it's expected.
We had a bunch of tacky swag at that job and one thing they gave us was a little cowbell with our logo on it. I put my cowbell on her desk while she was in the "milking room". She laughed her ass off and threw the cowbell back at me.
You would be surprised how sexually inappropriate someone can make it when their hand wanders around a large belly and it's close proximity to other parts. Why is anyone touching a co-worker beyond a handshake?
I'm like BC in that even if invited, I'd probably still be a bit weirded out at feeling a preg coworker's belly. But maybe it's because I know I would hate that myself.
In any case, there's probably a line on the "invited to touch" too - like if a woman says "grab my boobs, they're huge today!" or a male coworker invites touching on something else that is "huge" today
That brings up the question, Is it ok for a woman to talk about her own boobs in an office setting?
I really think they shouldn't as it would make a man uncomfortable or think that it's ok for him to do the same, which it isn't.
Can we stop with the pregnancy talk and get back to Giada?
Every situation is unique. My 17 year old son didn't want to see his classmates ultrasounds.
Why does anyone bring their newborn babies into the workplace? They develop bonds with people they work long hours with and want to share a little bit of their lives with them. They can do that without being inappropriate. I can make an invited touch of a baby kicking belly completely appropriate. I can also make a handshake completely inappropriate. How about just using common sense?
