My sister and her family has hosted three different kids. All girls. My niece is an only child and they thought it would be good for her. Two of the three went great. One went completely sideways and she was sent packing.
The student was Eastern European. She came in her junior year of high school. My sister had prior experience and handled things the same way as before, with clear rules and expectations. The first couple of months things were fine. Then the student started hanging with some girls that my niece later said were kind of the "party" crowd. One weekend my niece had a club volleyball tourney. My sister and brother in law did the divide and conquer thing. He went to volleyball, she stayed home with the student. The student wanted to go out with friends. My sister gave her a hard curfew time. The student blows through the curfew by two hours and shows up at home drunk and smelling like weed. In the morning the two had a little sit down and came to an understanding.
Strike one.
A couple months later, the student had worked her way back into good graces and wanted to go out. Again a hard curfew was given and clear expectations. This time a car pulled in the driveway at the curfew time. My brother in law waited for the student to walk inside after being dropped off. After over 20 minutes of waiting my brother in law walked out to see what was going on and tell her to come inside. He walked outside to find her engaged in acts with a boy from school. Again she smelled of booze and weed. In the morning the girl apologized profusely and began weeping. My sister and brother in law were very clear that she was on her last leg. Fly right or you are gone.
Strike two.
A few weeks later my sister found weed in the student's room.
Strike three.
According to my sister, this is a very, very rare occurrence, a real outlier.
We laugh about it now.
The student was Eastern European. She came in her junior year of high school. My sister had prior experience and handled things the same way as before, with clear rules and expectations. The first couple of months things were fine. Then the student started hanging with some girls that my niece later said were kind of the "party" crowd. One weekend my niece had a club volleyball tourney. My sister and brother in law did the divide and conquer thing. He went to volleyball, she stayed home with the student. The student wanted to go out with friends. My sister gave her a hard curfew time. The student blows through the curfew by two hours and shows up at home drunk and smelling like weed. In the morning the two had a little sit down and came to an understanding.
Strike one.
A couple months later, the student had worked her way back into good graces and wanted to go out. Again a hard curfew was given and clear expectations. This time a car pulled in the driveway at the curfew time. My brother in law waited for the student to walk inside after being dropped off. After over 20 minutes of waiting my brother in law walked out to see what was going on and tell her to come inside. He walked outside to find her engaged in acts with a boy from school. Again she smelled of booze and weed. In the morning the girl apologized profusely and began weeping. My sister and brother in law were very clear that she was on her last leg. Fly right or you are gone.
Strike two.
A few weeks later my sister found weed in the student's room.
Strike three.
According to my sister, this is a very, very rare occurrence, a real outlier.
We laugh about it now.
