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ISUTex said:
Why is a div 1 athlete sitting in a bar by themselves? I find that more strange than some old guy fan saying hello. I dont see anything wrong with saying "hey, great job last night against Baylor" . As you pass by. Probably don't want to push for a conversation though.
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Because sitting at a bar by yourself can be great and I'm 100% serious.
 
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BWRhasnoAC said:
That could be said about any public setting. I'm not sure what point you think I'm trying to make?
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Not really - you're saying people expect to conversate as much/meet as many new people at a grocery store or book store as they do at a bar? One is inherently social, the others are not. It's a little strange seeing a college-aged person sitting alone at a bar, not at all weird to see them alone at a grocery/book store.

We're not talking about a 50 year-old dude bellied up at Thumbs here.
 
Tailg8er said:
Yeah, those who aren't usually don't go sit by themselves at a bar.
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Im not a social butterfly and on the occasions that I go to bars I mostly want to just chill by myself or with my group.

If anyone interacts with an athlete in person, it should only be to give appreciation. Approaching someone who doesn't know you to complain, belittle or want an in depth conversation is rude. If you can't do that, just leave them alone.
 
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Tailg8er said:
Not really - you're saying people expect to conversate as much/meet as many new people at a grocery store or book store as they do at a bar? One is inherently social, the others are not. It's a little strange seeing a college-aged person sitting alone at a bar, not at all weird to see them alone at a grocery/book store.

We're not talking about a 50 year-old dude bellied up at Thumbs here.
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What exactly is your point? Cause I have no idea why you're making issue about this.
 
besserheimerphat said:
Im not a social butterfly and on the occasions that I go to bars I mostly want to just chill by myself or with my group.

If anyone interacts with an athlete in person, it should only be to give appreciation. Approaching someone who doesn't know you to complain, belittle or want an in depth conversation is rude. If you can't do that, just leave them alone.
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How often do you choose to go to a bar alone? Not talking with friends, alone. I wouldn't think a shy/non-social butterfly would ever choose to do that. Anything you can do at a bar alone, you can do at home alone. Just strange, all we're saying.
 
besserheimerphat said:
Im not a social butterfly and on the occasions that I go to bars I mostly want to just chill by myself or with my group.

If anyone interacts with an athlete in person, it should only be to give appreciation. Approaching someone who doesn't know you to complain, belittle or want an in depth conversation is rude. If you can't do that, just leave them alone.
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Unless it's that one guy on here who said he saw Melvin at the airport and shouted out, 'Hey Melvin! I'm not paying $12 a month to watch you guys lose!' lol
 
Tailg8er said:
Not really - you're saying people expect to conversate as much/meet as many new people at a grocery store or book store as they do at a bar? One is inherently social, the others are not. It's a little strange seeing a college-aged person sitting alone at a bar, not at all weird to see them alone at a grocery/book store.

We're not talking about a 50 year-old dude bellied up at Thumbs here.
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I used to do that in college. Prolly just an introvert that wanted to get out a bit but not really be in a mess of people.

I used to think it was weird how codependent people were that didn't have the ability to just sit and have a beer alone.
 
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BWRhasnoAC said:
What exactly is your point? Cause I have no idea why you're making issue about this.
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1) Someone said it's weird for a college-aged person to be sitting alone at a bar.
2) You said not everyone is a social butterfly.
3) I suggested most people who aren't social butterflies don't typically hang out at bars by themselves. Someone else suggested bars are kind of for social butterfly types.
4) You said that could be said about any public place, which isn't at all true. Clearly bars are more social than a lot of public places, such as a grocery store or book store.

Didn't think it was that tough to follow.
 
madguy30 said:
I used to do that in college. Prolly just an introvert that wanted to get out a bit but not really be in a mess of people.

I used to think it was weird how codependent people were that didn't have the ability to just sit and have a beer alone.
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When I traveled for work I would ALWAYS go the bar for service because I don't have to wait, it's better service and IF I want to converse I can.
 
My argument wasn't that 'they deserve it for being in a bar' or anything of the sort. I was agreeing with the guy who thought it's weird for a 21/22 year old to be sitting alone at a bar - no commentary on if they should expect interaction from strangers in such setting.
 
Tailg8er said:
1) Someone said it's weird for a college-aged person to be sitting alone at a bar.
2) You said not everyone is a social butterfly.
3) I suggested most people who aren't social butterflies don't typically hang out at bars by themselves. Someone else suggested bars are kind of for social butterfly types.
4) You said that could be said about any public place, which isn't at all true. Clearly bars are more social than a lot of public places, such as a grocery store or book store.

Didn't think it was that tough to follow.
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Ok, what point are you trying to make specific to me? All I've said on here is ITS NOT A BIG DEAL.
 
BWRhasnoAC said:
When I traveled for work I would ALWAYS go the bar for service because I don't have to wait, it's better service and IF I want to converse I can.
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I'm not talking about sitting at the bar in a bar/restaurant instead of getting a table. I'm talking about sitting alone at a table in a Sips/Peoples type of establishment..
 
BWRhasnoAC said:
Ok, what point are you trying to make specific to me? All I've said on here is ITS NOT A BIG DEAL.
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I mean I've explained it like 3 times now, if you don't get it we can just move on. I agree it's not a big deal - you're the one pushing back on it being weird for a college kid to sit in Sips by themselves.
 
Mr Janny said:
This. Also, people are different. Some might not like the interaction. Others might welcome it. There are no hard and fast rules. Interaction with other humans is the price of living in a society, whether you're an athlete or not. And not all of those interactions are going to be your favorite. The best advice in all of them is "Don't be a ****".
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Sounds like you are anti shut in here with this take.
 
What if I see an attractive female out in public who is an athlete but I don’t know she’s an athlete, can I still go “converse” with her?

What if I know she’s an athlete but I play dumb and don’t bring up anything regarding athletics, can I still go “converse” with her?
 
isufbcurt said:
What if I see an attractive female out in public who is an athlete but I don’t know she’s an athlete, can I still go “converse” with her?

What if I know she’s an athlete but I play dumb and don’t bring up anything regarding athletics, can I still go “converse” with her?
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A not insignificant number of women claim they want to be approached more in public. I say go for it but in your case maybe don't tell your wife.
 
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