Fan Boundaries with Student Athletes
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Am I missing something here? An adult walks into a bar and sees another adult and engages in a several minute conversation and people think it is "creepy"?
As someone mentioned previously, read the situation. If they don't seem into the conversation and are trying to kill it, take the hint and walk away. If you go to a bar, there is a chance you are going to get engaged by a stranger. If you also happen to be a famous person, athlete, etc. the odds that you are going to get engaged by a stranger increase exponentially. As long as people are respectful and don't overstay their welcome, who cares?
As someone mentioned previously, read the situation. If they don't seem into the conversation and are trying to kill it, take the hint and walk away. If you go to a bar, there is a chance you are going to get engaged by a stranger. If you also happen to be a famous person, athlete, etc. the odds that you are going to get engaged by a stranger increase exponentially. As long as people are respectful and don't overstay their welcome, who cares?
You know who needs to learn boundaries, is Cylights, aka @cyclone4L
The guy is insane and stalks recruits and athletes alike.
The guy is insane and stalks recruits and athletes alike.
People will talk about and comment on very personal things on social media and it is generally accepted as normal behavior but so much as make eye contact in a public setting where real people are around and you're a creeper who's invading their space. Strange times for society. It's no wonder our children's social skills are eroding so quickly.
I once bought a ISU basketball player and his friends drinks at Adventureland water park just so I could chat it up with his girlfriend, well worth the cost.
When I lived in KC we saw Marty & his wife in a movie theater with some buddies. My one buddy who played Oklahoma HS FB always screamed at the tv that Marty’s ‘prevent the win D’ only prevented KC from winning.
Dave! Dave! It’s Marty Schottenheimer!!! This is your big chance to tell him!!! Go up and tell him how the ‘prevent the win’ only keeps us from winning!
Watching him slump down in his chair was so much fun.
‘This is your big chance to tell him what an idiot he is! He probably has no idea!’
Dave! Dave! It’s Marty Schottenheimer!!! This is your big chance to tell him!!! Go up and tell him how the ‘prevent the win’ only keeps us from winning!
Watching him slump down in his chair was so much fun.
‘This is your big chance to tell him what an idiot he is! He probably has no idea!’
Isn't this totally situation dependent? Just don't be a weirdo creep but if you strike up a conversation at a bar and the person is engaged in it then it can continue. If you approach them and they obviously don't want to talk after you say a few words then move on
Apparently picking up on social cues in a situation like this is a lost art so we just automatically assume the worst intentions if someone tries to have casual conversations in a public setting.
It also depends on the context of the conversation. Maybe the person knows the athlete's parents? Maybe the person grew up near the athlete's hometown. Just because a guy has a conversation with a female doesn't automatically make him a creep.
Everything has to be such a freaking ordeal now. Just treat each other with courtesy and most of these problems go away.
Seems easy, but "courtesy" means different things to different people.
I think of being on a plane. Momma KnappShack would find it rude if she DIDN'T talk to everyone. I find it rude if you don't leave me alone.
Yes well if the worst thing we deal with on a daily basis is someone that's slightly annoying but friendly taking a few mundane moments of our life then I think we're doing ok.
If I don't want to talk them I'll just tell them nice to meet you but I've got some things that need my attention.
Why is a div 1 athlete sitting in a bar by themselves? I find that more strange than some old guy fan saying hello. I dont see anything wrong with saying "hey, great job last night against Baylor" . As you pass by. Probably don't want to push for a conversation though.
I personally don’t think a handshake or asking for a picture is too much. It’s when people start noticing and a crowd gathers around me with wives trying to give me their number in front of their husbands that makes it akward
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This. Also, people are different. Some might not like the interaction. Others might welcome it. There are no hard and fast rules. Interaction with other humans is the price of living in a society, whether you're an athlete or not. And not all of those interactions are going to be your favorite. The best advice in all of them is "Don't be a ****".
I'm by nature fairly shy and quiet, however, I tend to look around and notice much more than if I was always talking. There are two times this post reminded me about:
1. I once stopped by where Craig Brackins was sitting and eating with a friend at a WBB game (the chairs/table next to the camera location on the concourse.) They/MBB had won their game a day or two before, and I'd noticed he looked like he was having fun during that day. Back during the McD era, there wasn't a lot of smiling as I recall and I wanted CB to know that it was fun to watch. He was slightly surprised, and very gracious.
2. In the original Wallaby's location, we were eating -- after a WBB game, I think -- and I saw Lyndsey Medders walk in kind of hesitantly and sit in a booth. A short time later, Billy Fennelly walked in, looked around, went to the same table and sat opposite Lyndsey. I remember saying to DH, it looks like they're going out but don't want anyone to know, which is kind of silly of them doing this in such a public place.
1. I once stopped by where Craig Brackins was sitting and eating with a friend at a WBB game (the chairs/table next to the camera location on the concourse.) They/MBB had won their game a day or two before, and I'd noticed he looked like he was having fun during that day. Back during the McD era, there wasn't a lot of smiling as I recall and I wanted CB to know that it was fun to watch. He was slightly surprised, and very gracious.
2. In the original Wallaby's location, we were eating -- after a WBB game, I think -- and I saw Lyndsey Medders walk in kind of hesitantly and sit in a booth. A short time later, Billy Fennelly walked in, looked around, went to the same table and sat opposite Lyndsey. I remember saying to DH, it looks like they're going out but don't want anyone to know, which is kind of silly of them doing this in such a public place.
