I totally agree that Jessica Jones could have been probably about 3 episodes shorter in my mind. I thought it started dragging at about the same point. Easily could have cut some of the Kilgrave support group crap and a few other things. Overall, I just found her weird neighbor lady super annoying and wish she wasn't even in it. As for better than Daredevil, I was at one time leaning towards JJ, but in the end, I'm going to agree that Daredevil was a little better.
Lastly, you talked about the Marvel in-house workings for crossovers and while you are somewhat right, I think you are bit off. Of everything I've read, the structure of Marvel is super complicated and changed some too over time. The way I've read is that there is two separate entities - Marvel Studios (all the movies) and Marvel Television (all the TV including Netflix and ABC series). Kevin Feige heads Marvel Studios and Jeff Loeb heads Marvel Television, and prior to this year, while they were two different divisions, they both reported to the head of Marvel (Perlmutter is head) who then reported to the head of Disney (Disney owns Marvel). Well, it isn't secret that none of the 3 guys really get along even though they are all supposed to coordinate together. Feige has always somewhat looked to Marvel Television as a nussance and doesn't like letting them impact his decisions for his movies nor has he ever really cared for Perlmutter for an array of different reasons. Anyway, just recently, due to Feige's pull, he got the org chart to shift where Marvel Studios (Feige) now reports directly to the head of Disney instead of Marvel even though Marvel Television still reports to Permutter (Marvel). Since this is so recent, it is tough to tell the true effect. Maybe it will help coordination between the two sides and maybe not. All said and done, there has always has been and always will be tension and a rivalry between the two which makes a ton of crossovers more difficult. In general, the TV side wants more crossovers than the movie side is willing to allow.
Yeah I'd agree with that, sounds similar to what I read. Maybe I oversimplified it, but I guess I just lumped AoS in with the movie universe more because there have been at least 3 characters from the movies appear in it (albeit all in Season 1, I believe): Nick Fury, Lady Sif, and of course Phil. Also Season 1 of AOS itself was so closely tied to Captain America 2 (and much less so to Avengers 2). They've definitely gone more on their own path in Seasons 2 and 3 (which was a good thing), but the real interesting question will be to see how the Inhumans movie eventually ties into AoS (Season 5?).
The Netflix shows pretty much operate in complete independence of the movies other than the casual mentions to "the Event in New York" which I guess laid the groundwork for the whole plotline of DD season 1.