My biological mother miscarried twice between my brother and myself.
I don't talk to her anymore but my sister miscarried 3 times before she had a child who ended up passing away from SIDS 7 days after birth. Another miscarriage between that and the birth of her son who should be 9 or 10 about now. I don't know how she kept trying to be honest.
Miscarriages are a legit thing that need to be talked about more but it's pretty taboo in our culture. It's not the mothers fault, **** just happens.
In not sure if my genes matter that much but I am concerned for my future wife because of my family history regarding it.
That is pretty heartbreaking. I don’t really know if there is any genetic link, but they say 15-20 percent of known pregnancies result in miscarriage and actual numbers maybe higher since they occur before mother is aware of pregnancy.
My mom and brother’s wife helped me a lot through mine. Then that particular SIL found out her daughter had a miscarriage which only her husband knew about until she successfully carried next pregnancy to term. We were both so sad we weren’t able to try and help her at the time.
In my own case, the day after d&c, I had to go into work on a weekend with some rush project boss assigned to me because in his ultimate wisdom, it would take my mind off it. Worked on it over 22 hours that Saturday and Sunday when all I wanted to do was hold my toddler, hug my husband, and eat copious amounts of chocolate.
Our culture hits us with ED info 24/7 but breaking the silence about miscarriage is still taboo and many suffer depression alone.