If the parents are still healthy, I'd consider going.
I was choosing between moving back to Omaha, or moving closer to my siblings in the Tampa area. My parents aren't in great health, so I chose to stay closer in case there was an emergency.
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If the parents are still healthy, I'd consider going.
I was choosing between moving back to Omaha, or moving closer to my siblings in the Tampa area. My parents aren't in great health, so I chose to stay closer in case there was an emergency.
Everyone is different but yeah you won't win that fight. If you were to move I wouldn't be surprised to see you move back or separated within a couple of years. We moved back more by necessity than by choice but I think we probably would have ended up back within a couple hours of CR no matter what.
Man, some people just live to ***** about stuff and argue don't they?
Why is that Caroline thread even a thing? Who gives a ****?
Why is that Caroline thread even a thing? Who gives a ****?
I would like to attribute it to the offseason on CF, but the Sweet Caroline argument knows no season. 24x7x365
Her parents are healthy. Brother has a farm ~5 miles from them and her sister farms with them and lives at home.
I get wanting to be close but I'm also a firm believer in getting out on your own and not letting outside forces being the main reason you don't do something you want to do.
Yeah I probably won't win that fight. The only real main difference between my wife and I is that I'm content with being out on my own, doing my own thing away from family while she enjoys being within a 5 minute drive from them.
It's pretty tough to convince someone to move away from their family that doesn't want to. Moving to a new location is stressful enough, but if it's mostly one-sided, the struggle becomes more pronounced. The reluctant party will magnify little problems. "The water pressure is low. I KNEW we shouldn't have move here!"
Additionally, if you guys are thinking of having kids, she's probably thinking that she's in danger of losing her support system.
And, I'm not saying to give up on your goals by any means. You guys are young enough to move around and have fun. If you can do it, I'd encourage you to live in other places. I think you learn a lot about yourselves that way.
We bounced around a few times before settling in KC and each step taught us something new. We've taken root here and I've lost a lot of my desire to move lately. There's something to be said for consistency when kids enter the picture. Now, some days I want to just say "**** it" and move to a remote beach and rent beach chairs all day long, but for the most part, I'm home.
MLB cut into the Boston game yesterday because dude had no-hitter going. 8th inning and they are playing THE song.
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If you are set on one area maybe try vacationing there to get a feel for it. I hate to say it but I can't think of many married people (especially young) that moved somewhere just because. If it isn't job related or another reason like that it makes it hard to justify.
Advice from someone married to a woman that across town (1mile) is still to far away. Move before kids hit school if you think you might. My wife finally realized that living in the same small town you grew up in is basically never leaving HS. When my oldest hit 7-8 grade she said she was ready to move. (I farm 45 minutes away) but at that point it was too late. My elderly mother moved in by us do to poorer health (85) and the kids were settled in and the other options (my old schools) wouldn't have been a good situation at that point. So, I'm effed in a town I hate and wife doesn't care so much for because she couldn't leave her parents.
BTW, for 5 years we lived in the middle of our jobs (I had an in for her to get a job in town) but she went nuts being 20minutes from mom/dad.
BTW, for 5 years we lived in the middle of our jobs (I had an in for her to get a job in town) but she went nuts being 20minutes from mom/dad.
What's scary about Florida is that there is a similar, or even greater, amount of crazy without a similar amount of alcohol involved.
I just received an email from Dorothy Gibson. When I first glanced at it I thought it said Debbie Gibson. I want to receive an email from Debbie Gibson.
Because there are people that legitimately think that song is the reason Iowa State football sucks.
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