Random thoughts thread
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wait, you got hired as a boss?
True story, I asked for a 10% raise today. My balls be slowing my roll.
I can type that since I'm not at work now.
Well, I'm answering as a guy...my wife would probably say from the moment they're born. With the first one, I gotta be honest, I didn't really connect that tightly with him until he was old enough to interact, and I heard later on that this isn't uncommon for guys...wish I'd have known that earlier, I felt like a horrible person or was worried that I was a sociopath or something until I heard it's not uncommon. With the second one, I took to him right away, but it was really on knowing what was coming.
However, answer to the specific question...when they start sleeping thru the night, or at least long enough that you're not a zombie helps a ton as far as the cost side of that equation, because it's not such a burden. On the benefit side, as I mention, when they start interacting, that helps, and when you can see their personality starting to form helps too. Thinking back, the times I'm thinking of are when we were doing the spatial awareness stuff...baby laying on your lap facing you and you move their hands to songs...wheels on the bus, for example...helps them understand hand motion and where their hands are. He got a big kick out of that, but the best is that I got so sick of WOTB that I made up hand motions for the ISU fight song, and boy we'd get thru that (or WOTB, really) and he'd just giggle...it was fun. That was...heck, I'm not even sure...part of me thinks that first football season, but that only would have been a couple months, so that would have been too early. Maybe a little later than that?
Again, though, I bet my wife would say it was worth it immediately.
I read lots of baby stuff just cause it's interesting, and there are lots of moms who don't connect right away either and they feel like horrible POS. But generally, moms do have the advantage because hey, nine months and generally boobs.
should I read the fiddy shades of grey books? I have avoided so far. I did read through Twilight just to make WTF faces.
Well, I keep telling you guys I'm a big deal.
I have responsibility for 26 locations, which is the entire state, including the three major outer islands. I've been a boss in one form or another since graduating college.
Ten percent is pretty steep! If you make even 40k, that's over two bucks an hour!
On my first day I had a person tell me she was goin to quit if she didn't get a 5 dollar an hour raise. I'm going to fire her.
I don't believe you. I just think you're on the street trying to sell baby pineapples.
I haven't gotten to be a boss, yet so I'm jealous. Though I'm realizing I'd be bad boss because I don't tolerate stupid.
I make just over that, but I hadn't had a "real" raise since I got hired and I did two jobs for the past year, plus regular responsibilities increased quite a bit. Boss said I deserved it but she didn't think HR would let it happen. But I should be getting more than inflation-only raise. HR also has me categorized as something I'm not. I don't even think my job exists elsewhere which makes it hard to research.
I wish I'd be selling baby pineapples! I'd sell the **** out of those things!
I'm definitely the boss. And if it helps, the good ones are generally the ones that DON'T put up with stupidity.
It can suck at times....(talking being an actual boss, not just my awesomeness)..sometimes it's rewarding, but yeah, it can be hard because you bring in all of your folks' extra stuff that you could just ignore as a co-worker when you become a boss.
That's why you only take on jobs outside of your pay rate if you want to get promoted. You don't do it for a raise. Especially as more and more companies become strictly results based in their reviews as opposed to subjective things like "are they team oriented, do they come in on time, etc."
I got to kinda be boss of the intern last year-this spring and that was awesome cause she was just like me. Not to brag (seriously) but she just picked up on **** quickly and learned so fast. She just got it. The new adult person they've hired to take over my second job? I want the intern back.
My boss did say I'm a leader in my group and I have the least education of them (only a B.S. compared to like a gazillion PhD's.) so that was pretty awesome too.
My people have learned that if it's not something related to the business, get it taken care of and don't get me involved, because if I have to get involved in any of their petty stuff, it won't be pretty.
Wait, so are you saying what I did was good or bad?. Both boss and I recognize that I've done significantly more this year. I like my boss. She would like me to get more but even though it's I'm not even sure if I could work elsewhere and I don't really want to. All my reading tells me women are terrible about asking for raises so I went balls to the wall. I'd be good with 5-7%, but you don't lead with that.
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