maybe they commented about the vehicle we saw go by with a person in the passenger seat and no passenger door. Saw the people behind me waiting to go point at it too.
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maybe they commented about the vehicle we saw go by with a person in the passenger seat and no passenger door. Saw the people behind me waiting to go point at it too.
yeah I've turned on red at this light probably a thousand times or more. My best guess is he was in the middle lane, I assumed he was turning off at our light, and then he switched lanes through the intersection instead. I know I wasn't in a hurry or trying to beat him to it, because there was no one behind him. I could have easily waited for him to go through if I thought that's what he was doing.
My brain did this weird association thing when reading 00's post about advice, so question time. In high school/college or now (whichever), what would you say was the breakdown of your good friends based on sex. About half of mine are guys and the other half girls and I was wondering how that compares to everyone else
Close friends are all guys, despite being friendzoned like a MF in HS/College. Well, I guess I'm probably friendzoned like a MF now, too, but I'm not looking, so don't know.
In Jr High and some of High school I had more guy friends. I did more with my close friends who were girls though.
College, mostly female friends and one good guy friend. Now? Female friends but hang out with their significant others. Still grab dinner with guy friend when he's in town.
Oh yeah! Need to book hotel for his wedding. Good reminder.
Oh yeah! Need to book hotel for his wedding. Good reminder.
In high school I had all female friends, in college it was a mix of both (male dominated major at first) and now it is still a mix of both, but I'd say my closest friends are female. I've dated a few of my close male friends, one of them just got married last week. His significant other didn't like me much at all when they first started dating, because I dated him for a few months my freshman year of college...glad she calmed down with the insecurity.
Closest friends in HS were guys friends just because all the time spent together during football, basketball, baseball and that, but with a small class of 43 there was about 7-10 mix of guys and girls that would hang out.
I am not giving away any spoilers. You are going to have to wait for Bu and the Boat Shoes and Katie, Bu and Matt at the Beach. Also look for Bu and the Kimchi Adventure.
But enough of the Bu storyline, got to get back to working on Riley and His Floppy Ear. Riley will be the 21st century's Spot.
High school - I got along with everyone pretty evenly, but probably hung mostly guys because the girls in our grade were always dating older guys
College - Even split
post-college non married - very few good friends since I seemed to be focusing on the job, relationship, etc
married, no kid - even split, probably leaning more towards more female friends
married with a kid - couple friends almost exclusively. We each have single friends that we work with, but we're not partying at the same places outside of work.
So remember that job managing an airport that I really wanted. Guess who just called and wants to interview me. You couldn't have called a month ago could you?
More guys than girls in high school as friends, mostly from football. Then after that point on, significantly more girls than guys as friends. I have a pretty bad social anxiety disorder, and the major way I get over that is to be fairly flirty in conversation. That generally only works with women....in fact, now that I think about it, I can only think of two real guy friends I've made since high school (actual friends, not just acquaintances)....that's kind of terrifying.
Lots of good advice. Thank you.
I know y'all can't properly judge the situation because it's impossible for me to convey everything about the situation in a couple message board posts. But I appreciate your thoughts.
The new chick basically came out of nowhere and I wasn't trying to search for someone else it just kind of happened. I've only been hanging out with her because I thought it was actually over with my ex.
I'm going to hit the brakes with her and just chat with her until I resolve things with the ex.
Several of you are correct and my biggest worry now is that she fell in love with me during the highs and couldn't handle the lows well enough, so will she be able to in the future? There's more to it than that but to me she's the kind of woman where it'd be worth the risk to find out. And if we do start again it will be something talked about. I like 00clone's quote about loving someone because it's awesome and not because it's easy. What we had was awesome, and I know we would both say that. I just have to know that she'll be able to love all of me.
I have talked to a few close friends and that has helped. For now I'm not going to put myself in a bad spot with either of these women so I will be waiting on a response from the ex. Should I have given her an actual timeline?
I know y'all can't properly judge the situation because it's impossible for me to convey everything about the situation in a couple message board posts. But I appreciate your thoughts.
The new chick basically came out of nowhere and I wasn't trying to search for someone else it just kind of happened. I've only been hanging out with her because I thought it was actually over with my ex.
I'm going to hit the brakes with her and just chat with her until I resolve things with the ex.
Several of you are correct and my biggest worry now is that she fell in love with me during the highs and couldn't handle the lows well enough, so will she be able to in the future? There's more to it than that but to me she's the kind of woman where it'd be worth the risk to find out. And if we do start again it will be something talked about. I like 00clone's quote about loving someone because it's awesome and not because it's easy. What we had was awesome, and I know we would both say that. I just have to know that she'll be able to love all of me.
I have talked to a few close friends and that has helped. For now I'm not going to put myself in a bad spot with either of these women so I will be waiting on a response from the ex. Should I have given her an actual timeline?
CG (little social butterfly that she has become) could teach an online course on meeting and making new friends. :smile:
I tend to think that unless you grow up and stick around the same place for your entire life, friends drift in and out of your life depending on whatever stage you're in. I'll still talk to the people that were my friends in high school or college if I run into them, but I would never confide in them or call them in an emergency.
I have about 4 or 5 people (outside of family) that I could call at a moment's notice and would drop whatever they had going on to help me out. I don't even have to see them that often, but I know they'd have my back in a pinch. AKA "It's 3 AM, bail me out of jail"
I have about 4 or 5 people (outside of family) that I could call at a moment's notice and would drop whatever they had going on to help me out. I don't even have to see them that often, but I know they'd have my back in a pinch. AKA "It's 3 AM, bail me out of jail"
You may have guessed by now that I'm not a particularly girly girl. Most of my buddies have always been boys...and that goes back to my best friend before I ever started school. In high school I had one close girlfriend, and outside of the showchoir members in my Jr & Sr years, all of the people I hung with the most were guys. I was every guy's best buddy. Safe, not dateable. Didn't really have a steady boyfriend until my soph year in college.
I would say that now, most of my friends are part of couples...and have been my friends through both husbands. Ex didn't really like to socialize much; I had to drag him places...but it was also unacceptable for me to go out without him. PapaLew & I now have three couples that we enjoy outings with...we take the butt bus (our Winnebago) and wander around to different points of interest in central Iowa, or try out small-town restaurants that specialize in different foods, or we have game nights or grill nights at someone's home.
If we're in a random group situation, odds are you'll find me hanging with the guys more than the gals. I hate shopping, I own two purses and maybe six pairs of shoes, I don't wear makeup and my kids are all grown & gone, and the grandkids are scattered. I end up having nothing to contribute to many feminine conversations.
I would say that now, most of my friends are part of couples...and have been my friends through both husbands. Ex didn't really like to socialize much; I had to drag him places...but it was also unacceptable for me to go out without him. PapaLew & I now have three couples that we enjoy outings with...we take the butt bus (our Winnebago) and wander around to different points of interest in central Iowa, or try out small-town restaurants that specialize in different foods, or we have game nights or grill nights at someone's home.
If we're in a random group situation, odds are you'll find me hanging with the guys more than the gals. I hate shopping, I own two purses and maybe six pairs of shoes, I don't wear makeup and my kids are all grown & gone, and the grandkids are scattered. I end up having nothing to contribute to many feminine conversations.
How, exactly, did this name come about?
Wait, no...nevermind...not sure I want to know.
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