Let him pay for everything, since that is your "policy," but slip him a couple hundred as a thank you. Maybe send it to him in advance so you don't have to worry about anyone seeing you do it.
Possible Groomsman Crisis
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Let him pay for everything, since that is your "policy," but slip him a couple hundred as a thank you. Maybe send it to him in advance so you don't have to worry about anyone seeing you do it.
Don't know if it was already covered but if he does incur those travel expenses whether you pay for the tux or not let him know that you and your fiancée will consider him traveling to stand up with you the best wedding present ever so he doesn't feel obligated to spring for a wedding present on top of all that as well.
Because Weddings and Babies. The two things people will pay ungodly margins on just because it's a big life event.
edit: Can probably throw funerals in there too.
I've been in a few weddings where the couple said simply "wear a black suit with a blue tie" or something to that effect. Pretty much everyone has a black suit, and ties are cheap. The only wedding I've had to travel a significant distance to be in (it was just driving to Dallas), everything was covered.
Forcing expensive rentals on everyone is a ******** move, IMO.
For my own wedding, my wife and I decided to forgo on a whole wedding party (we each had our only siblings stand up with us), but it was a 5 minute ceremony where we let all our friends and family drink through it. I have about 15 close friends and familly (beyond my brother) that I could have made a strong argument to include, and I hated the idea of whittling it down and leaving some in and some out, as I'm legitimately close with all of those guys. To include everyone worthy of inclusion would have been chaos, and to pare it down to 4-5 would have left some close friends out.
Forcing expensive rentals on everyone is a ******** move, IMO.
For my own wedding, my wife and I decided to forgo on a whole wedding party (we each had our only siblings stand up with us), but it was a 5 minute ceremony where we let all our friends and family drink through it. I have about 15 close friends and familly (beyond my brother) that I could have made a strong argument to include, and I hated the idea of whittling it down and leaving some in and some out, as I'm legitimately close with all of those guys. To include everyone worthy of inclusion would have been chaos, and to pare it down to 4-5 would have left some close friends out.
After this we could rehash the other large wedding debate, destination weddings.
which I'm having one in April, go easy.
which I'm having one in April, go easy.
I'm told by those in the know that divorces are so expensive because they're worth it.
Might as well start now: down vote, unless you want to elope
It's pretty selfish, IMO, to place the expectation of travel and burden on anyone you want to invite. If people don't go, you can't be mad about it.
If you are picking up the tab of travel and hotel outside of one night, then o.k. If they have to pay, not keen on it. They are basically being told when and where their vacation is and probably will be more expensive then a normal vacation because they will be required to work during it.
